Yesterday I was at the mall with Chey and her and i were eating lunch and next to us there was this man and his wife and there 6 month old. The nam was giving the baby chololate from his cookie to quit her down. He also gave her soda from his straw. I was so shocked to see that, the baby was 6 months old for heavens sake. My daughter who is 3 has never had soda or a cookie that young and even now its only on her birthday. I was appualed.
i persoannly think to each thier own, we can only educate people, rather than judge them.
That was not my intention to judge this couple i just had to let it out what i saw. I feel out of place to say anyhting to them about their parenting skills.
How did you know the baby was 6 months ? ..Just curious.
I have the same feeling, and it's hard to remember.... not my child, not my worry.
The people at the end of my Mom's road feed their niece... Strawberry Sandwiches. AKA Strawberry Jam on white bread.
And my dad.... My brother is 3 months older then my daughter... YEP.
And they let him eat chocolate and all this stuff, and then are rude to me because I'm so fussy about what Aislynn eats....
It's an each to their own situation..........
But it is hard to watch!
i can say i have never givin jayden soda but when he started eating solids i did give him a little tasteof things i had. thats just me i dont know about anyone else. as long as it was safe and not a problem i didnt think twice about it.
I asked the man how old the baby was but i was guessing around 6-7 months. My family still makes remarks to me about how i feed Cheyanne because of her age. Now BD on the othewr hand when he has her he feeds her all this sugar and soda. I HATE it but i can't so anyhting about it becuase its his time with her. When i say anything about it he bites my head off. But i'm the one who has to deal with her bouncing off the walls when the weekend is over.
Yeah, I agree with the pp who said to each their own. As long as they don't try to feed my kid, I'm ok.
My Dad fed my Lactose Intolerant Daughter Whipped Cream....
He isn't allowed to hold her and eat anymore, or be around her with food....
Because he's not mature enough to handle it!
I'm waitrissing right now. Last week at work a woman was giving a baby some sweet potato and whip cream at one of my tables. I asked how old her baby was and she said 2 months. I told her I had a baby myself, and I was told not to start solids before 6 months. She said everyone in her family does it and there all fine. Even though I think it was blatant disregard for a childs health, what could I do? If I harassed her anymore, I'd be in trouble with my manager. All I can do is hope the child doesn't get allergies or any of the other major issues with early solids. She was a nice lady, but very much uninformed.
Even when you know it's wrong there isn't a whole lot you can do about it when it's other people. If you can politely provide someone with the info they'll need then by all means do so. But some people just woulnd't read anything you give them.
As much as it bugs me when people do that stuff- they are responsible for their own kids, not me. I wouldn't take kindly to someone coming to me and tearing apart my parenting and I wouldn't do that to anyone else.
It's one thing if people are looking for advice or input but another when you're just a bystander.
But considering that feeding children too early, and feeding them unhealthy things, is endangering that child's health, I think it's worth it to casually mention it. Some people might brush it off, and that's fine, some people might really be open to listening and educating themselves. i think it's worth it if it could possibly save a child from health problems. Like, don't be pushy or mean, just bring it up as Jube did, and if they don't want to listen, don't push it any more. We don't blindly listen to people here who start solids too early, we give gentle education, as I think it should be any time a child's health is being put at risk.
I see what you're saying but here we all somewhat "know" each other and this is a community helping each other. If I were at the store and saw a kid with soda in his sippy or bottle it'd be different. Those people don't know me from any other woman and I know how much weight i give unsolicited advice.
It is sad and scary to me to watch people who are really mishandling their child's nutrition. I mean, giving the kid your food is one thing, but giving her chocolate and soda? That can cause massive digestive problems, allergies, and obesity later in life.
I don't say anything, and I know I'm not mother of the year, but it just sets my teeth on edge anyway.
I didn't say anything to the man regarding what he was feeding his baby. I just asked how old the baby was and that was it. But I was thinking what harm he might be doing to the baby's digestive track and there is no nutrional value. I wanted input on how to handle this if a similae situation occors.
if you wanted advice, you should of just mentioned that in your original post, i just cant stand to see people judge what others are doing when non of us are perfect parents
I don't think anyone said they were the perfect parent.
does the perfect parent even exsist?
Anyways, it's great that you're worried about the child's nutrition and health, but I'm with evryone else about how it's really not your problem when it comes down to it. But, should you want to give advice in the future, maybe try to start a conversation, then move to children, then onto what a doctor may have told you and try to tell them that way--kinda like just mentioning it breifly. If they're interested, Im sure they'll keep the conversation on that track, if not, like others said, don't push it. how would you feel if you where that person--you're trying to keep your kid happy and someone comes by and tells you that you're wrong...
Sorry if that sounded like a lecture (I've been listening to them for HOURS now...my parents are on a roll today :roll: ) Anyways, don't worry..I didn't eat so well when I was littler, but now i'm very concious about what I eat/take in...maybe that kid will do the same :)
I agree, my mom was strict with what I ate... and it rubbed off!!!!
Excuse me erin. I didn't say i WAS a perfect parent and i was not judging by what the man fed his daughter. I was just simply saying what i saw and how i felt, so i'm not allowed to do that here? I'm sure YOU have made mistakes with your paretenting skills just like i have. You don't need to to bite my head off.
and i never said that you made a mistake nor that anyone here was claiming to be a prefect parent, rather saying, hey could we not bash other peoples choices as parents, as we all know how it feels to have our own parenting decisions questioned