I have been sleeping with someone for a while now and just recently feelings have gotten a little deeper than "just sex". At the same time, he has met another girl that he is interested in. I hate that I feel jealous, but I do. Especially since the two of them go out for drinks and that sort of thing while I'm the late-at-night fuck buddy. Well, I'm a little more than that but you get what I mean. I know I don't want to stop what we have, but what can I do to feel better about this? I'm sure plenty of you have started to develop feelings for someone who at first was just someone to have a good time with...
I think one option is to sit down and talk with him about it. Confrontation. But then you run the risk of losing what you have, which might entirely be just some fun times anyways. Do you want to know if there's anything more to it? Because if he's just in it for the sex and fun, once a serious girl comes around, he will probebly stop seeing you. It might be better to just have the talk and possibly end things now.
If you can't see yourself doign that, or don't want to, you're going to have to try really hard to control your emotions. I just don't know how possible that is all the time if you have feelings for him. You can't just turn them off. But I guess you'd have to be really aware of them, and do your best to talk yourself up when you start to feel down.
It sounds a little destructive. You're headed on an emotional rollercoaster, and I guess you just need to decide if you want to get on.
That's how I got with my current boyfriend. We planned on just being bed buddies but when I discovered his interest in someone else I freaked with jealousy, at which point we decided to "go steady". I'm crazy with jealousy all the time. I wish that I wasn't. It just complicates things.
ive been the late night girl who wanted more, but was left when the serious girl came along. if he cant take you out for drinks or only calls when its convient for you, its so not worth it in the end
I guess there's one important question: Where is this jealousy coming from? Is it from being scared that you'll lose the sexual friendship you have or being jealous that she has the sort of relationship you want to have with him? I do think you need to sit down with him and discuss both how you feel about him now and the other relationship. You've been clear that you at least want to maintain the sexual friendship you have, so I think that asking straight-up if he is looking for a monogamous relationship with the other girl. If you're jealous, because they are going on dates, I think admitting that you'd like that, even though you're fine with the current situation. Just talk to him.
Well, things are somewhat different now... I spent some time with him a few nights ago and we talked about the situation, and it doesn't seem he has too much interest in this other girl. He certainly does not want a relationship with her. I feel much better about the situation.
i think that you should stop 'what you have with him' because obviously it isnt anything to him, if he can take her out, but not you... he only wants you in bed. It wouldnt make me feel very good if all he wanted from me was sex. i think you should ask him if he is feeling the same as you do , and if he isnt, you should DROP IT, because youll get your heart broken in the end, if you dont.