Ok im new here and im 16yrs old nd im 18weeks prego. My ex boyfriend and i just recently broke up nd i love him...wen we first found out that i was prego we were exited until his mom told him out abortions i didnt want to do it but i loved him nd we could always try later..i had to think bout it but his mom found out i wanted to keep it (his mom was the one with the idea of an abortion) so she said that if i kept it she didnt want anthing to do with me..nd that hurt!! well i decided to have an abortion but wen i got to the abortion clinic i was already 14wks meanin it was already a baby nd it would have been murder in my eyes...well wen i told him that i had to keep it he started actin weird nd i started to notice that he didnt want to be with me anymore...just recently i broke up wit him cuz he had changed nd he was bein really mean nd i couldnt handle it anymore...now he doesnt answer my text messages or my phone calls..i love him nd i truly miss him...i need advice!!! i also wanted to kno...does cryin alot affect a baby while ur still prego.???
you should read the stickys abortion is not murder and it is not a baby it is a fetus, that is very offensive on this site. Before you post anything else please take the time to read our announcements they are there for a reason.
and to awnser your question If he doesnt want to be around you cannot make him. you can do it alone trust me lots of us have. Its hard right now but it will get better and you will get stronger through all of this. I know it is harsh but having him around if he doesnt want to is not good for you or your fetus. give it some time and focus on yourself. good luck
As new_mom pointed out, putting the words "abortion" and "murder" into the same sentence can be very offensive to the girls, like myself, who have had abortions. So please choose your words carefully.
I heard somewhere that if you're depressed, the fetus may be as well.
As for the guy - lose him. You DO NOT need him in your life. If he's being a deadbeat now, just imagine how he'll be in the future.
If you decide that you don't want to keep the baby, you can always consider adoption. Ann knows about the process than anyone on this board, so maybe she can help you out.
Don't freak out. Stay calm. You can make it through this without losing your mind. Trust me.
ack... I meant momtobe19 - I just read a post by new_mom... I am soooooooooo confused. lol. Too early in the AM.
I THINK STRESS CAUSES MISS CARRIAGES..MY FRIEND HAD A MISSCARIAGE DUE TO ALOT OF STRESS.. DURING MY FIRST PREGNANCY I HAD STRESS AND ALMOST LOST MY SON.
This is a Pro-Choice site and that was anti-choice language.
please read our mission statement.
thank you.
Yeah, you should probably read all of those rules. At Girl Mom, talking about abortion in a bad way is offensive.
Anyway, if your BD doesn't want to be around, don't beat yourself up over it. That's his loss. You should move on. I know how hard it is when it's really someone you love, but it's really for your own good.
If you decide you don't want to keep your baby, you could always try adoption. There's open adoption, so you can visit your baby when you want and be updated on its life.