is it that wrong? rant.. trigger..

well unfortunetly I dont think the glares or the asking will stop! All we can ever really do is hold our head up high and be proud! I love being a mom and I refuse to let anyone make me feel bad for being young! I know Im a good mom as Im sure we all are and we cant let people bring us down! Its no one elses buiness how old we are or the circumstances on why we are young moms!

i know how that feels! im 18, and in canada that's legal age of adult but people still look at me like i'm 13 or something. "You're too young you'll never make it!!!" GRRRRR! it peeves me wehen they say that!!! :evil:

If even you weren't paying for all his needs, it wouldn't make you a bad mama! Money doesn't make a good mama, love does. I am sorry people treat you badly. When people are rude to me, I just talk really gushingly about how great everything is.

No, it doesn't make you a bad mom! I am 24 and when people find out my kiddo is 5, they still freak out ... only you know your situation! :)

I get the same thing im 17 and have a 2 month old. People look at me like i have a physical disablity. I applied at a job and they didnt hire me becasue i am 17 with a son and they think it would look bad on them. Dont worry though they do not kno your situation or anything you do. Just becasue your 17 doesnt mean you cant be just as good or even better mom then anyone else

it doeant matter what we say or do society on a whole will always look down at us young mamas like it wrong to have a baby at a certain age, we cant stop the stares but if i wre you i would tell her to MYOB [MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS] but hey keep your head ok mama

This is really offensive. People with disabilities do not deserve dirty looks any more than you do.

Thats what I ment....that we get looks like people with diablilties that we dont deserve. Noone does. People need to mind there business because they dont know where anyone is coming from

i just simply say, (when they ask my age) and how old are you??

i dislike the comments just as much as anyone else. what i hate the most tho is, when people are so rude, make comments about another young mama right infront of me and the young mama is within ear shot. i wanna snap.

im 20, (21 on the 29th of this month WHOOT WHOOT!) and i have two kids, Jaiden who is 3.5 and Emma who has special needs and is 2. so yeah i get the stares alot.

That is some SERIOUS BS.

Crap like that pisses me off too...because ya know what??? My bd's grandmother was 14 when she started poppin out babies...mine would have been 14 or 15 too but her first husband was sterile...back then that was the NORM...now its weird and socially unacceptable?!!

People can be SO ignorant sometimes.

I hate that people...society..has the ability to make me feel ASHAMED of being a mama at 18....I shouldn't be ashamed...in my family its a fucking tradition more or less... Age doesnt matter it's how mature you are....and you my friend sound like your mature..Once you become a mama..for your babies sake..u have no choice but to mature and grow up so to speak.

gaw. sorry for the rant..lol..

<3...just ignore them...

I know what you mean. When I tell people that I'm having a baby, they act like it's a crime. I hate it. I hate it that people think it's so wrong. :(

I think every young woman who is either pregnant or has a child gets this. It is definitely not fair but sadly there is nothing we can do to stop it. When people ask me "Is she yours?" while looking at my daughter I proudly say yes she is and hug her tight and kiss her just to let them know she is a loved and well looked after child. They do not know the situation surrounding our children or there lives. I love being a mommy as does everyone else on this site as far as I am aware and I am not going to let anyone say or do anything to ruin my time with my daughter. They're seriously not worth it but with time you will get used to it.

I thought it was kind of funny when my great-grandma gave me attitude for having a baby at 16, when she had her first at the same age. Wtf?

ugh, i hate those stares and comments, i get them allll the time! I remember once i was on a walk with my son while on a visit at my grandparents and he had been asleep, but woke up crying and scared, i guess from a bad dream or something. Well i had taken him out of the stroller and was comforting him and some random lady walked up behind us to pass us on the sidewalk and just because he was crying she said " I can see why hes crying, id cry too if my mother was twelve!" like wtf! so apparently id be a good mother then if my newborn baby never cried!?

OMG that is seriously an awful thing for someone to say. Some people really do have some nerve.

I completely hate the stereotype. I come from a very small town and most of the younger girls do have babies. Where I live, if you are a teenage mom, you are considered a slut no matter if you have been with the bd for your whole life and if it was just a random hookup. My grandfather hated me when he found out and was very disrespectful towards my bd. When my mom told him I was pregnant, the first thing he said was, "I hope her dad killed that mother f*in bastard" I come from a large family with over 100 cousins and I am the only single teen mom so I get a lot of disrespect from them, even more now since my bd left and I am trying to go to school and work and take care of her on my own. But young moms can be great moms too, age doesn't mean anything. Its about the love you have for your child

Hey holly,
I just wanted to let you know that we don't allow this kind of language here. It is anti-woman, and anti-sex worker, and just not okay.
Check out this thread, it might help you get a better idea of what I'm talking about: http://www.girl-mom.com/phpBB2/viewtopic.php?t=11931

You know what's funny, though? Back years ago it was "acceptable" to have children at 16-17... but then again, you had to be married. I guess since marriage isn't a "requirement" anymore, it's sooooo wrong. Kinda funny how that works.

I can see where some of the stereotypes come from. A lot of girls who get pregnant are the so-called irresponsible ones and then people have a lot to say...I agree age doesn't make 2 shits of a difference. But I think behavior does count to a point. If you were reckless in getting pregnant, some are just not mature enough to handle the repsonsibility you know? In some cases, having a baby shapes you up. I know it did for me. Cause I'm married and husband is in the army most people assume I'm their age...like 25, which is interesting, because I'm 19...I think having a baby was the best thing that ever happened to me :D even tho stressful at times..

the behaviour before you get pregnant doesn't matter at all. its how you behave as a mama that counts. i think most of us here were "reckless" in getting pregnant. to me, thats like saying "if you're mature enough to have sex, you're mature enough to handle the consequences." which is utter crap IMO. if you didn't mean it that way, i apologise, but thats how it came off.

oh, and i meant to say, if you think you're not mature enough to be a mama, that's why abortion is an option.

try being 27, looking 23 and having a tall 10 year old.

IRL, i know some young moms who acted recklessly in getting pregnant, and continued to act as such when they have kids. Reckless can mean a load of different things, like they throw parties and drink and smoke (illegal stuff) in front of their kids to they just don't take them anywhere or do anything with them. Some people just do not know how to grow up and handle the full responsibilites of parenthood and it completely does have to do with behavior. Not for all but it definitely is a sign. yes abortion is an option for some, but not all moms are that open minded about the situation. It's so true that not all moms are mature enough to handle a kid, even though they are having unprotected sex..but not all would have an abortion.

trina check your pms

Yeah, I get that a lot, too.
Someone at work last week asked if I was 21 yet and then I told her I had a 10 yr old and she was very confused.

I have to say that it seems to get better as time goes on, if that is any comfort.

As a teen I got a lot of stares and rude comments and now I get people who tell me what a brave person I must be and how strong I must be for making it through all the hard times as a parenting teen.

You know i was actually talking to my SO about this last night and said well also because back then people didnt live as long as they do now.

i know i think it is ridiculous that people now a days dont know how to mind there business. everytime i talk about my son at work ( i work in a very big salon in manhattan) all the clienmts are like how old are you 16??? and i just say no i am 20 and they are like but your child is 2 how is that possible ( lol )
i am just like oh its possible because i had him at 17!! i love to watch there mouths drop. one women was like well at least you are working and not on welfare. i kindly told her that even if i was on welfare i would still love and cherish my son and it would not matter weather the state gave me money or a job did. she had nothing to say. i really cant stand people with a negative opinion. i just found out i am pregnant today i wonder what they are going to tell me now. lol

i fucking hated that. i always wanted people to support me instead of making me feel like i was a piece of shit. unfortutley it doesnt stop. but being a young mom is not wrong. i know mothers 20 years older than me that absolutely suck at parenting.
hold your head up high. and an occasional fuck you doesnt hurt.
:)