I decided back at the beginning of September that I wanted to live on my own. So, I told my bf this and he kicked me out the house and broke up with me. We've remained friends though and I do spend the night at his house at least once a week.
The problem is he still gets to me. I still love him and I want us to get back together. I'm not sure if all my hints fall on deaf ears or if he just ignores them b/c its not what he wants at all. I still cry at night when I think of how I messed up. I know I should never have said I wanted to move out, but that's just who I am.
I'm restless. I've never lived in 1 place for longer than a year...until then. I lived in that same house for a year and a half. It was a rental and I just can't take being stuck in one place for that long. I need change. If I owned my own place, I could at least remodel or paint or something. But when I'm stuck in a tiny little rental, there's nothing you can do. I moved furniture a few times, but we had a lot of furniture and no where to really put it. And I think that's my problem.
But I'm not sure what to do about my ex-bf. I'm scared to ruin our friendship by coming straight out and telling him how I feel. What if he doesn't love me anymore? And since I told him how I feel he doesn't want to spend time with me? I think that would hurt more than not knowing almost.
This all was probably a lot of rambling, but it does make me feel better to at least jot it down.
what about your sweet katherine?? i hope you moving around so much isnt harming her?...That would be my concern...
whoa Kayla, keep that judgement to yourself. Cae and I have had to move tons and he is doing awesomely. I think you owe the op and apology.
Actually, moving around can be fun for younger kids. I think it would only be a problem if you had older kids. Still, I don't know how Kayla's post is offensive or whatever. She was just saying what her concern was.
moving around is not harmful for children. Do not judge.
to the op: I think you should tell him how you feel. If you don't you will always wonder what would have happened.
I'm the same way with moving around. I love to move, or.. I guess I love change. I used to change my room around at least once a month because I'd get that restless "I need change" feeling.
If I were you, I'd tell him how you feel, because like skylar said, if you don't you'll always have that "what if" feeling.
Btw...My parents have moved me around tons, and I usually love it. It was never harmful to sweet little me. In fact, a lot of the times I was a lot happier in general because they were happier with our moves, ya know?
Moving has no adverse effect on kids that are being cared for properly. Unless you have some reason to think she isn't taking care of her DD then I would keep the comments like that to yourself.
I agree with the PP. If you don't tell him how you feel you may always wonder what would have happened. We all make mistakes and I hope you two can talk this out. Do you know how he feels? Sometimes we need to be really direct with men, they don't always seem to pick up on subtilty.
Thanks for the comments ladies. And my daughter has no problem with moving. Who doesn't like getting a new room?
I guess I just have to work up the courage to talk to the ex. I'm not good at talking about feelings though. Maybe I'll put it all in a letter.