Ok. Well I've been having feelings like I REALLY want to concive again. But the trouble is simple. I'm 17 going on 18. Has anyone after a miscarriage felt like this and acctually done it?
I miscarried last year and now I'm almost 7 months, but my situation was different. Neither were planned pregnancies, but I say if you think you can do it, then you can!! Good luck!!
ttc'ing has always been a hot topic here on girlmom, and while all the other ladies have been giving you the "go for it", I'd like to offer something a little different.
We all know that teen motherhood is possible and often really great. But goddamn if it isn't also so gut wrenching and full of loss and sorrow sometimes. I have not miscarried, so if I am not sensitive to everything you're experiencing, please tell me. But what I suggest is that you take the miscarriage as an opportunity to reconsider the direction of your life. If I'm correct, I've heard it's really common to want another child after a miscarriage, even if it isn't the best choice for you right then.
I'd say wait at least a year before trying to concieve. I know that seems like an eternity, but then you will be more clear-headed about the choice--you'll have spent time deciding if you really want that complication, and if you do decide you want a child, you will be more certain that the choice is about the future, not your past loss. You know?
Now you have time to think about this. I HIGHLY suggest that you do so before sealing your future.
If I had miscarried when I was 17 I would probably had baby lust afterwards too and want to conceive again...but I didn't miscarry...and I kinda wished I was atleast 18 before I had gotten pregnant...because all the legal stuff I had to sign at my first Pre-Natal appointment had to be signed by my mom too..and that just made me feel....well..like a teen mom..even though I was all for that...I just felt like a statistic *I'm 18 now and no longer feel that way even though i'm STILL a teenager...I feel even so more empowered because I can vote and such*....Even though I had been living on my own for the past year and independent and such having my moms signature on those papers too made me feel like a child....Stuff like that bothers me though..maybe I'm different..if that wouldnt bother you and you hellbent on ttc ..just make sure ur body is healthy and go for it girl! I wish u the best of luck! and no matter what anyone says or does dont let them make u feel like a statistic or worthless or anything less than a SUPER human. That's what we are...
Thank you all for your response's it really helps it helps to know people who know how i feel I do plan on finnishing School before I try again =) this time I'll be prepared =), You girls have helped me alot when I was first pregnant and even after =) so glad I found this community. My boyfriend has also asked me to marry him :shock: 8)
For 5 months I thought I was pregnant, then, I took a ultrasound to see the baby. That was when I found out that I wasn't. It was like losing a child. I have been thinking about ttc, but I don't know If I should. I know I would make a great mom, and I have at least $548 coming in every month, more when I get a job. I wanted to be a mom so much, I cried for days when I found out that I wasn't. Any advice?(dumb Q! everyone here has advice! thats why I love this site!
I wanted another baby immediately following my abortion. I think it's the feeling of having something and then losing something that triggers these emotions. You may not REALLY want one. You just miss what could've been. I'm not good at explaining things, so that may not make sense. You'll know if conceiving is right for you.
well ive never had a miscarriage. but like everyone else has been saying, go for it. It doesn't matter how old you are, if you want a baby and you think you can do it, then go for it! I wish you the best of luck.
I have not had a miscarriage but I believe if you really want another baby and you know you can do it...then do it. You only live once right?
o god, i get baby lust all the time.
especially after a miscarriage its especially hard becasue you got used to the fact that you were pregnant.
i know many moms who are really young and have ttc. if you truely want to do it then go for it.
good luck.
Hey girl. I say, "GO FOR IT"!!! I don't see why not? 8)
I ttc'd after miscarrying and had Cae. pm me if you want to talk
I totally understand where you're comming from and I say go for it. Your age doesn't matter. If you want to, have at it.
Yes, I have! I had a misscarriage and I ttc'd at 18, and now I'm 7 1/2 months pregnant :) If you want another baby, I say go for it!
7.5 already?!?!?! :shock:
sorry, off topic, but i swear you where a KA only yesterday!
I miscarried last year and now I'm almost 7 months, but my situation was different. Neither were planned pregnancies, but I say if you think you can do it, then you can!! Good luck!!
ttc'ing has always been a hot topic here on girlmom, and while all the other ladies have been giving you the "go for it", I'd like to offer something a little different.
We all know that teen motherhood is possible and often really great. But goddamn if it isn't also so gut wrenching and full of loss and sorrow sometimes. I have not miscarried, so if I am not sensitive to everything you're experiencing, please tell me. But what I suggest is that you take the miscarriage as an opportunity to reconsider the direction of your life. If I'm correct, I've heard it's really common to want another child after a miscarriage, even if it isn't the best choice for you right then.
I'd say wait at least a year before trying to concieve. I know that seems like an eternity, but then you will be more clear-headed about the choice--you'll have spent time deciding if you really want that complication, and if you do decide you want a child, you will be more certain that the choice is about the future, not your past loss. You know?
Now you have time to think about this. I HIGHLY suggest that you do so before sealing your future.
If I had miscarried when I was 17 I would probably had baby lust afterwards too and want to conceive again...but I didn't miscarry...and I kinda wished I was atleast 18 before I had gotten pregnant...because all the legal stuff I had to sign at my first Pre-Natal appointment had to be signed by my mom too..and that just made me feel....well..like a teen mom..even though I was all for that...I just felt like a statistic *I'm 18 now and no longer feel that way even though i'm STILL a teenager...I feel even so more empowered because I can vote and such*....Even though I had been living on my own for the past year and independent and such having my moms signature on those papers too made me feel like a child....Stuff like that bothers me though..maybe I'm different..if that wouldnt bother you and you hellbent on ttc ..just make sure ur body is healthy and go for it girl! I wish u the best of luck! and no matter what anyone says or does dont let them make u feel like a statistic or worthless or anything less than a SUPER human. That's what we are...
Thank you all for your response's it really helps it helps to know people who know how i feel I do plan on finnishing School before I try again =) this time I'll be prepared =), You girls have helped me alot when I was first pregnant and even after =) so glad I found this community. My boyfriend has also asked me to marry him :shock: 8)
i think you should go for it.. babys are great:)
For 5 months I thought I was pregnant, then, I took a ultrasound to see the baby. That was when I found out that I wasn't. It was like losing a child. I have been thinking about ttc, but I don't know If I should. I know I would make a great mom, and I have at least $548 coming in every month, more when I get a job. I wanted to be a mom so much, I cried for days when I found out that I wasn't. Any advice?(dumb Q! everyone here has advice! thats why I love this site!
I wanted another baby immediately following my abortion. I think it's the feeling of having something and then losing something that triggers these emotions. You may not REALLY want one. You just miss what could've been. I'm not good at explaining things, so that may not make sense. You'll know if conceiving is right for you.
well ive never had a miscarriage. but like everyone else has been saying, go for it. It doesn't matter how old you are, if you want a baby and you think you can do it, then go for it! I wish you the best of luck.