Well. I posted my situation on here last week...
Me and one of my bestfriends got into a little romantic situation and us being so caught up in our own feelings we weren't thinking. Now I'm pregnant he still has a girlfriend and he's going to tell her I'm pregnant next week and I honest don't wrong her if we each end up with a bullet in the head. We're trying to figure out a way to break the news too her...
He's going to take her out to dinner and break the news to her because he feels so guilty he needs to tell her as soon as possible and we trying to figure out a way to break it to her softly...But I don't think its possible.
All I know is I messed up. I became one of the girls we all hate and I should have known better since I've been in this situation before.
Any ideas?
Oh wow...Congrats on the pregnancy btw... Sorry I dont have any suggestions though..
We don't "all hate" "those" girls. You made a mistake. It happens, you don't need to beat yourself up about it. Is he trying to make his relationship with her work? I don't see how that happening could be good for anyone involved, but that doesn't mean he won't want to try.
The important thing here is you. You're pregnant, from the tone of your post you plan on continuing this pregnancy. Do you honestly think this woman could become a danger to you? Regardless of what she feels or any of that, you're entitled to your safety, and you're entitled to be free of harrassment. If it becomes a problem, please don't hesitate to get a restraining order. The last thing you want is to become a victim of violence do to someone's jealousy or anger. The one she should be upset with is him. He was the one in a committed relationship to her, not you. You didn't promise her your fidelity, he did. Though women in that position aren't prone to that perspective, it's a fact. I'd also caution you against persuing any kind of romantic relationship with him if that's the direction you're trying to take. It'd be a good idea to think that over for a while.
I agree with Mamamayhem. If she has an issue with anyone, it should be him. You didn't commit anything to her. Yeah, we all make mistakes, but in life, you gotta move on. No one is perfect, including her.
As far as the girlfriend in concerned, I don't see the point in doing anything that may land you in jail. It's not that serious. Yeah, she may have a right to be upset. But, as far as getting revenge, that's not the answer. Although, a lot of people think it is. I think the best think for her to do is decide if she wants to be with him still or just split.
Either way, it shouldn't impact on you. You're pregnant, you should try to stay as drama-free as possible. That's something they need to work out. I mean, say your peace if you need to and maybe try and keep it at that.
Yeah. I'm not too worried about her threatening my life because it isn't gonna happen I'm just very nervous for him. How do you tell someone you've been with 9 years and that wants children with him, that another woman is having his baby?
Now that I really think about it...I think there really is no right way to go about telling her because there isn't anything right about the situation.
As far as making it work with her...
The relationship is kind of a dead end one it's like a dead marriage without a ring and certificate as long as I've known him he hasn't really been in love with her. he's loves her, cares for her, but as far as marriage he said he doesn't see it with her. He asked me if he should marry her 3 years ago and i told him do it but he felt he'd asking her to marry him just because and not out of love for her so...he never proposed.
So in a ways he tries to make it work he stays and what not but I think its just because he's been with her so long and made so many promises and she has nobody without him she can't even support herself. Plus 9 years you know theres a big soft spot.
At the end of the day as long as she doesn't mistreat or harm my child they can do whatever they want.
Yeah. I'm not too worried about her threatening my life because it isn't gonna happen I'm just very nervous for him. How do you tell someone you've been with 9 years and that wants children with him, that another woman is having his baby?
Now that I really think about it...I think there really is no right way to go about telling her because there isn't anything right about the situation.
As far as making it work with her...
The relationship is kind of a dead end one it's like a dead marriage without a ring and certificate as long as I've known him he hasn't really been in love with her. he's loves her, cares for her, but as far as marriage he said he doesn't see it with her. He asked me if he should marry her 3 years ago and i told him do it but he felt he'd asking her to marry him just because and not out of love for her so...he never proposed.
So in a ways he tries to make it work he stays and what not but I think its just because he's been with her so long and made so many promises and she has nobody without him she can't even support herself. Plus 9 years you know theres a big soft spot.
At the end of the day as long as she doesn't mistreat or harm my child they can do whatever they want.
Wow, I hope he doesn't REALLY get murdered next week.... this post would definitely go into the crime file. ;)
I hope everything works out and no one ends up dead.
yeah...me too. I like when people aren't dead. seriously though, i hope it goes well.
Yikes, when I read that someone was being murdered, first thing that popped into my head was death row.. :shock:
OK, no one is in prison (phew!). At least your bd is willing to confess his mistake, that has to count for something...Both of you are doing the right thing, I hope it all works out for you.