Hello lovely mamas.
We all have been told countless times not to hold our babies too much or they will be spoiled...
Well they are all wrong! You cannot spoil the baby. The reason you feel so drawn to holding your upset infant is that infants cry to express needs and our instincts are to meet our babes needs.
Too much love is never bad. The things that can "spoil" an older child are not acts of love and comfort.
If you're baby cries, hold them, or have someone else do so. Invest in some slings or just use a bed sheet. Each time you respond to your kiddo you give them reassurance that they are cared for and that their needs will be met. Your kiddo is more likely to become self-confident and independent because they know that no matter the situation when they need their mamas, we will be there.
:D Thanks
:mrgreen: agreed :!:
Yes, infants are biologically programmed to want to be held/close to mama or caregiver. Human infants, in comparison to many other mammals, are born very immaturely and have a long dependant stage. It is instinct for babies to want to be held. Psychologically, it can be damaging to withhold contact from an infant.
That's what i think is most important for people to know. we live in a "no-touch" society and we need to try to brake away from that. people are contasntly telling us to not hold our kids, not sleep with them, not breast-feed for long, etc. It's all bullshit. Studies show that babies that are held, and attached to thier primary care-giver are more secure, confident, indep. etc.
thanks so much for posting this cause i am always getting that "let him cry, you're spoiling him speech". aaaaaaaah! it drives me bananas cause whenever my son cries i know its not just because he wants to...it's because he want something, even if it is just to be held! heck, if i'm willing to hold him, then everybody else should just back off!
My grandma, who is also my babysitter, just told me this morning that my grandpa said he was "going to tell on her for holding Kaden so much" I just smiled and told her "hold him as much as you want". I think that is why i wanted my grandma to watch him instead of taking him to a babysitter. I was going to take him to one that is right by my school, but she has so many other kids there I don't want my son to not get the attention he needs. I knew my grandma would hold him and rock him and that's why I asked her to watch him for me.