As for everyone else attacking the mods and everything -- you guys do not know everything that is going on between us and AM.
no..they pretty much do .. All of it has been on the boards .. I only got 2 mesages from mods. . u on mod squard which i posted it on here . and the other was saying that my excusses where dumb.
so yah . they do know everything that is going on between us ..
unless I dont know the same thing they dont.
"We felt that now was not the time for AM to have backroom access. "
Dont worry I dont have access to anything . AlexZander'sMom is still totally banned
"to talk about SI. " haha.. it is also very nice that u deleted my post also.. even though there is obviosly a lot of people who wanted to talk about it. .
for one, i never knew what the reason was that she needed BR access. when someone starts to get mad with the mods over us not acting quickly enough we wonder why that is. she never explained to us why she needed access ASAP. she did PM me about anonymous mama but i only got it now, after work and after i have been away from a computer for five hours. when someone doesn't tell us why they are acting strangely we don't know how to handle it. we discussed it among ourselves about whether or not she should be in the BR and at the time it just seemed like it would be drama brought to the BR (and just to make it clear, no mod had any idea that members could edit posts in the looking spot, as mods and mod_squad can do that).
i'm sorry that you guys feel let down by us and upset by our comments. we try to work as a whole and for you guys. i admit some of this was not handled correctly. we have all been discussing it though. what you see on the main boards was probably only a 1/3 of what we had discussed. i even PMed her and got no response back. none of us want drama on here. but when something like this happens we have to jump to the worst conclusion. i'm sorry that in this case it outted a sensative subject. had we known that it never would have come to this. i will even admit that my own snarky comments were uncalled for. but making britt leave will do nothing good. britt works really hard at making sure she is around GM. we have all made mistakes and i am sure britt was only thinking in the best interest of GM (irregardless of what you think, we all try to do the best for GM). i don't think she should step down. at all.
alezandersmom, i hope your okay. had i, or we, known what this was about things would have been handled differently. i hope we can all learn from this and move on. i hope you coming out about this is only a positive thing (even though it might not seem it right now) and that someone here is able to talk to you about it and make you feel not so alone.
The sad part about all of this is is that when we make people turn away and have no one to talk to about si their si continues to get worse........am please dont let this get a hold of you.....be careful mama
its hard enough to talk about si with anyone....
mods i dont necisarily (sp) think that anyone should step down but this was handled the wrong way regardless and just as if another member had been so disrespectful we would demand an apology from them....a sincere one and their willingness to accept responsibility for their mistakes. I dont think there should be anything short of that same thing in this situation.
I didn't know the reason AM had to post in the BR at all. I'm sorry, maybe there was something said that she had to post back there. And I do hope, as well she is okay ... the only thing I read about her wanting to get back in there was that we were slow in adding her to the BR because it had been 7 hours. But 7 hours isn't much, honestly - when I applied it had been several days. And that's cool. But it wasn't a pressing issue to be added to the BR. I wish I had known in AM's situation.
And we discuss EVERYONE that applies to the backroom that we add, even if they've "hit" the requirements of being in the BR. For the safety of the site and our members, we want EVERYONE to be safe.
I feel some of it's a huge misunderstanding and I hope this isn't sounding like a huge "cover our asses" type-shit.
Yeah I admit that my snarkyness looked pretty bad, but that's just me. You all have your fucking snarky moments, but I have one once and I should step down?
Like they said, she never explained to any of us that she needed the BR for something so serious. She just seemed anxious to get into all of the locked forums in a timely manner. All we got were antsy PMs telling us how slow we were at letting people in the locked forums. Not once did she say "hey mods, I really need to talk about something that I'm not comfortable posting in public." I can guarantee you that would have been taken into consideration.
and as for banning her, I just banned her anonymousmama names first, obviously. Because if you look in this thread she still was able to post under her usual name. She still had plenty of opportunity to PM me or any of the other mods and let us know why she did what she did. She outed herself, I never once said her name. It wasn't until after she responded that I decided to ban her because if you've ever been a mod, you'd know that we are constantly trying to make sure that there aren't trolls invading our safe space and many of her posts seemed aggravating and trollish to me and most of the other mods.
I didn't want things to get out of hand while I was the only person able to respond to everyone so I banned her thinking I was doing the right thing. Maybe it was wrong but it wasn't some power trip. It's just we've been down this road before and I thought we were dealing with yet another troll.
and I do hope you're okay too because I feel like shit that I was responsible for drawing attention to you which I know won't change much but that's all I can say..
"hey m]ods, I really need to talk about something that I'm not comfortable posting in public." I can guarantee you that would have been taken into consideration.
and as for banning her, I just banned her anonymousmama names first, obviously. Because if you look in this thread she still was able to post under her usual name. She still had plenty of opportunity to PM me or any of the other mods and let us know why she did what she did. She outed herself, I never once said her name. It wasn't until after she responded that I decided to ban her
it wasn't some power trip. I.
It is not just once!
I didnt know i had to explain to u every lil' thing. People shouldnt have to have a certain reason. There are more then just one topic i wanted to talk about .
if u actually read the anonymous mama name : u would of thought that it WAS serious ..
and it does seem like a power trip
from what i've seen of her other threads im thanking britt for how she responded. I don't think it was necessarily right that she outed the SI thread but it was out anyways. This is a public forum anyone can read it.
you have a working name right now... use that until everything else is said and done.
britt did what i am sure any of us mods would do. so please do no take this out on her. for you to make up several names while your normal name was still active, and use a username so close to what we use is suspicious. i didn't receive your PM about anonymous mama until almost 5 here and this thread was already started. i had sent you the PM this morning on your old username so you could have checked it... either way i think this should be taken into PMs and dealt with that way from here on.
This is a very big deal. I do not have time to effectively address this now. I promise to address this first thing in the morning. I love this space. I want to help fix this. I love you all and I am sorry to be so out of the loop today.
yeah you can pm me too. email at
umm... i'm a bit confused. what's up here?
no..they pretty much do .. All of it has been on the boards .. I only got 2 mesages from mods. . u on mod squard which i posted it on here . and the other was saying that my excusses where dumb.
so yah . they do know everything that is going on between us ..
unless I dont know the same thing they dont.
"We felt that now was not the time for AM to have backroom access. "
Dont worry I dont have access to anything . AlexZander'sMom is still totally banned
"to talk about SI. " haha.. it is also very nice that u deleted my post also.. even though there is obviosly a lot of people who wanted to talk about it. .
for one, i never knew what the reason was that she needed BR access. when someone starts to get mad with the mods over us not acting quickly enough we wonder why that is. she never explained to us why she needed access ASAP. she did PM me about anonymous mama but i only got it now, after work and after i have been away from a computer for five hours. when someone doesn't tell us why they are acting strangely we don't know how to handle it. we discussed it among ourselves about whether or not she should be in the BR and at the time it just seemed like it would be drama brought to the BR (and just to make it clear, no mod had any idea that members could edit posts in the looking spot, as mods and mod_squad can do that).
i'm sorry that you guys feel let down by us and upset by our comments. we try to work as a whole and for you guys. i admit some of this was not handled correctly. we have all been discussing it though. what you see on the main boards was probably only a 1/3 of what we had discussed. i even PMed her and got no response back. none of us want drama on here. but when something like this happens we have to jump to the worst conclusion. i'm sorry that in this case it outted a sensative subject. had we known that it never would have come to this. i will even admit that my own snarky comments were uncalled for. but making britt leave will do nothing good. britt works really hard at making sure she is around GM. we have all made mistakes and i am sure britt was only thinking in the best interest of GM (irregardless of what you think, we all try to do the best for GM). i don't think she should step down. at all.
alezandersmom, i hope your okay. had i, or we, known what this was about things would have been handled differently. i hope we can all learn from this and move on. i hope you coming out about this is only a positive thing (even though it might not seem it right now) and that someone here is able to talk to you about it and make you feel not so alone.
The sad part about all of this is is that when we make people turn away and have no one to talk to about si their si continues to get worse........am please dont let this get a hold of you.....be careful mama
its hard enough to talk about si with anyone....
mods i dont necisarily (sp) think that anyone should step down but this was handled the wrong way regardless and just as if another member had been so disrespectful we would demand an apology from them....a sincere one and their willingness to accept responsibility for their mistakes. I dont think there should be anything short of that same thing in this situation.
I didn't know the reason AM had to post in the BR at all. I'm sorry, maybe there was something said that she had to post back there. And I do hope, as well she is okay ... the only thing I read about her wanting to get back in there was that we were slow in adding her to the BR because it had been 7 hours. But 7 hours isn't much, honestly - when I applied it had been several days. And that's cool. But it wasn't a pressing issue to be added to the BR. I wish I had known in AM's situation.
And we discuss EVERYONE that applies to the backroom that we add, even if they've "hit" the requirements of being in the BR. For the safety of the site and our members, we want EVERYONE to be safe.
I feel some of it's a huge misunderstanding and I hope this isn't sounding like a huge "cover our asses" type-shit.
chicamocha .. which account did u pm..
my alexZander's mom was banned. and still is.
i haven't recieve any messages on here
word to heather though i had to wait several days to gain acess to br.....it does take some time that is understandable
but making me leave everything is perfect again???
and it is AlexZander
Yeah I admit that my snarkyness looked pretty bad, but that's just me. You all have your fucking snarky moments, but I have one once and I should step down?
Like they said, she never explained to any of us that she needed the BR for something so serious. She just seemed anxious to get into all of the locked forums in a timely manner. All we got were antsy PMs telling us how slow we were at letting people in the locked forums. Not once did she say "hey mods, I really need to talk about something that I'm not comfortable posting in public." I can guarantee you that would have been taken into consideration.
and as for banning her, I just banned her anonymousmama names first, obviously. Because if you look in this thread she still was able to post under her usual name. She still had plenty of opportunity to PM me or any of the other mods and let us know why she did what she did. She outed herself, I never once said her name. It wasn't until after she responded that I decided to ban her because if you've ever been a mod, you'd know that we are constantly trying to make sure that there aren't trolls invading our safe space and many of her posts seemed aggravating and trollish to me and most of the other mods.
I didn't want things to get out of hand while I was the only person able to respond to everyone so I banned her thinking I was doing the right thing. Maybe it was wrong but it wasn't some power trip. It's just we've been down this road before and I thought we were dealing with yet another troll.
i wasnt complaing about that .
i said the idea for the automatic thing cuz my other forum site like this has one .. like i explained before. and u guys toke it wrong
and I do hope you're okay too because I feel like shit that I was responsible for drawing attention to you which I know won't change much but that's all I can say..
It is not just once!
I didnt know i had to explain to u every lil' thing. People shouldnt have to have a certain reason. There are more then just one topic i wanted to talk about .
if u actually read the anonymous mama name : u would of thought that it WAS serious ..
and it does seem like a power trip
and if Maybe it was wrong
then why the hell is it STILL BANNED
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because we ALL need to discuss it as mods before it goes any further down the wrong road.
from what i've seen of her other threads im thanking britt for how she responded. I don't think it was necessarily right that she outed the SI thread but it was out anyways. This is a public forum anyone can read it.
you have a working name right now... use that until everything else is said and done.
britt did what i am sure any of us mods would do. so please do no take this out on her. for you to make up several names while your normal name was still active, and use a username so close to what we use is suspicious. i didn't receive your PM about anonymous mama until almost 5 here and this thread was already started. i had sent you the PM this morning on your old username so you could have checked it... either way i think this should be taken into PMs and dealt with that way from here on.
This is a very big deal. I do not have time to effectively address this now. I promise to address this first thing in the morning. I love this space. I want to help fix this. I love you all and I am sorry to be so out of the loop today.
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