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This site is getting a little cluttery. We need to combine some forums. What are ya'lls suggestions? I say combine any or all of the following-

Play and Have Fun with Wielding Words and Domesticities
Our Space with Tech
Relationships with Family and Friends

Objections? Different Ideas?

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The only thing for me is that I like having "Our Space" alone ... but I dunno. The others seems fine with me.

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I think play and have fun with weilding words and dom. is a bit much.

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i think that combining relationships with family and friends is a good idea.

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I don't like the idea of combining relationships with friends and family. The reason the relationships forum was brought OUT of friends and family (it used to be combined) is because then it gave girls in relationships a space to talk about their relationships without it being in the face of single mamas, if singla mamas didn't want to read about it they could just avoid the forum entirely and not have every other post in friends and family being about how great someones relationship was.

Before, people would talk about their relationships in friends and family and it brought up hurt feelings and made everything all hectic, because partnered people knew they had to recognize their privilege in being partnered but still felt they need to talk about aspects of it, and single mothers didn't want it to be so in their face all the time, that's the reason why Relationships was created and separated from Friends and Family.

The other ones I can see combining because they don't get much traffic anyways, sharing domestic tips is a bit of fun anyways.

And Tech and Our Space are pretty much the same things anyways, Tech doesn't get much traffic and probably won't get as much as Our Space, but if you combined both and got rid of Tech and kept Our Space but w/ a little note to bring up any technical problems too, I can see how that'd work.

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I think relationships & Family/Friends are good together, but I like all the other ones separately. They're too different, IMO.

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I like the idea of dom. and play and have fun together.

The rest i dont think are good combos. Too much.

Especially about the relationships one. Like Naivete mentioned.

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Relationships/Friends & family should be seperate for what naivete mentioned, I think. I like the idea about just calling tech/Oour Space Our Space and putting a little note about tech, too - good idea.

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ramonegirl wrote:
Relationships/Friends & family should be seperate for what naivete mentioned, I think. I like the idea about just calling tech/Oour Space Our Space and putting a little note about tech, too - good idea.

I agree w/ this entirely.

I think WW, Dom, and P+HF ALL together would be a bit much, but they are some of the less trafficey forums so I could see maybe two of them together? I think if WW gets wrapped into anything, then maybe school & work would be good b/c it's a bit academic? lol. I don't really know.

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Okay, so can we all agree on Our Space sucking in tech?

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adcaela wrote:
Okay, so can we all agree on Our Space sucking in tech?

I think thats a good idea if yes labeled Our Space.

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And Tech and Our Space are pretty much the same things anyways, Tech doesn't get much traffic and probably won't get as much as Our Space, but if you combined both and got rid of Tech and kept Our Space but w/ a little note to bring up any technical problems too, I can see how that'd work.

Yeah I agree, I think we should do tech and our space

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DeeLicious wrote:
i think that combining relationships with family and friends is a good idea.

Me too. They're similar, but they're not the same, but they run under the same category basically because most of of our relationships are also a part of our families when it comes to certain situations (BDs are also former boyfriends/husbands etc).

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StarlightBlaze wrote:
DeeLicious wrote:
i think that combining relationships with family and friends is a good idea.

Me too. They're similar, but they're not the same, but they run under the same category basically because most of of our relationships are also a part of our families when it comes to certain situations (BDs are also former boyfriends/husbands etc).

did you guys not read what naitive said, the reason relationships was taken out of family and friends was b/c people requested that it not be talked about in fandf.

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I agree that they should remain separate, I hadn't thought about the history

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tricia wrote:
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i think that combining relationships with family and friends is a good idea.

Me too. They're similar, but they're not the same, but they run under the same category basically because most of of our relationships are also a part of our families when it comes to certain situations (BDs are also former boyfriends/husbands etc).

did you guys not read what naitive said, the reason relationships was taken out of family and friends was b/c people requested that it not be talked about in fandf.

You don't need to get defensive. Sorry, I missed her post. Big deal.

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I wasn't defensive,

But it was a big deal. I was a mod before we separated them, it was a huge deal before they were separated. so yeah it kinda is a big deal.

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tricia wrote:
I wasn't defensive,

But it was a big deal. I was a mod before we separated them, it was a huge deal before they were separated. so yeah it kinda is a big deal.

You're being defensive by saying it's a big deal.

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I'm sorry you feel that way as I'm not trying to be defensive at all, just trying to explain the background.

But this is taking away from the main point of the thread, so I'm done, feel free to pm me if you have a problem.

I think tech and our space should be combined and that it probably it.

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StarlightBlaze wrote:
tricia wrote:
I wasn't defensive,

But it was a big deal. I was a mod before we separated them, it was a huge deal before they were separated. so yeah it kinda is a big deal.

You're being defensive by saying it's a big deal.

It really doesn't matter who was getting defensive or whether anybody was getting defensive. Let's get this thread back on topic.

It sounds like a lot of us agree that Family and Friends, and relationships should remain separate for the reasons that naivete laid out. After reading naivete's post is there anyone who still thinks they should be combined? Why? Unless there's an overwhelming response to that, I think they should be left as they are since a lot of thought went into their separation and members have listed some pretty convincing reasons.

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Well your post just sounded kinda crabby to me, so I acted out, sorry for that also.

And I still think Relationships and F&F should be combined. This post was about suggestions, not bashing who's idea isn't that great. The question was asked, and I answered. Simple, and now, I'm done saying what I think.

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lmfao. I think she may sound crabby because I remember how much uproar went into the decision to change it in the first place and come to an agreement that everyone was happy with, the mods back then went through a lotttt with that decision and faced a lot of flack and anger and it was just a whole big issue, and to see someone want to change it back to what it was might make me a little crabby too ;) I don't think it was anything against you.

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naivete wrote:
lmfao. I think she may sound crabby because I remember how much uproar went into the decision to change it in the first place and come to an agreement that everyone was happy with, the mods back then went through a lotttt with that decision and faced a lot of flack and anger and it was just a whole big issue, and to see someone want to change it back to what it was might make me a little crabby too ;) I don't think it was anything against you.

Yah, I understand. I think I kinda just assumed it too at the same time because my son is acting up. He's been throwing a tantrum for the past half hour and I guess it's catching up on me.

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I think play and have fun with dom. would work good. School/work and WW MIGHT work. And our space with a note about tech questions.

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tricia wrote:
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i think that combining relationships with family and friends is a good idea.

Me too. They're similar, but they're not the same, but they run under the same category basically because most of of our relationships are also a part of our families when it comes to certain situations (BDs are also former boyfriends/husbands etc).

did you guys not read what naitive said, the reason relationships was taken out of family and friends was b/c people requested that it not be talked about in fandf.

ummm...i did read what she said actually hence the fact that my post was written before hers. anyway, i totally agree with what she said. i didnt know that they were once together and it had been requested that they be seperated, but now that i am aware of that, i see that combining them would not be very useful.

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tech and our space are combined.

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I'm one of those single mams that likes skipping all the Relationships posts, so I'd be really glad if they stayed seperate.

When I first started being a "homemaker" I really liked being able to go through the Dom. archives, but I guess it wouldn't be a big deal if they were combined.

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I think domesticities should be seperate.. and fam & friends & relationships should too. How about combining weilding words and play and have fun?

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SativaStarr wrote:
I think domesticities should be seperate.. and fam & friends & relationships should too. How about combining weilding words and play and have fun?

I think this is a great idea.

Also, "Organize/Local resource..." could be combined with "If you need help NOW" because they both compile resources.

I could see "Your Stories" disappearing- often, alot of these posts fit into other topics, or could go in "Play and have fun"

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Amy Rox wrote:
SativaStarr wrote:
I think domesticities should be seperate.. and fam & friends & relationships should too. How about combining weilding words and play and have fun?

I think this is a great idea.

Also, "Organize/Local resource..." could be combined with "If you need help NOW" because they both compile resources.

I could see "Your Stories" disappearing- often, alot of these posts fit into other topics, or could go in "Play and have fun"

I agree that combining weilding words and play & have fun is a good idea.

The only problem I see with combining Organize and If you need help NOW is that the help resource would all have to be stickied....and we'd have to scroll down really far to get to the organize/local resource stuff

I think a lot of the stuff in Our Stories in not really the fun, fluffy stuff...but doesn't necessarily fit anywhere else, though.

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our stories could go with family and friends or relationships.

i find that i rarely have anything to share in our stories and that lots of those posts would be at home in either of those catagories.

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