I'm so sick and tired of the stigma that people with mental illness face. On one side, you have people arguing that your illness doesn't even exist, that you should suck it up and be normal. On the other side you have people saying that anyone with a mental illness is dangerous, has an obligation to everyone else around them to take medication that may or may not even help, and cannot possibly be good parents. And on top of it all...we are blamed for our mental illness. It's our fault somehow.
Fuck that, anyone who's never experienced mental illness cannot possibly know that it "doesn't exist" or that this medicine actually helps, doesn't make the person feel even worse. Stop telling us that we feel this way because we don't eat right, or don't excercise enough. Yea, I know these things can help you feel better...but often over/under eating and no interest in exercise are a symptom, not the cause of the problem.
We are told not to talk about our problem, nobody wants to hear it. When we get into a conversation about it, we are quieted by a variety of methods..."I don't believe in depression", "Well, I was depressed for two weeks, and I got over it...you can to".."well, why aren't you taking your meds?". Even on GM, when the topic of depression comes up, there's always an attempt to quiet it.
If we, as mamas, try to reach out for help with our illnes...we get social workers called on us..they tell us we're unfit mothers for being sick...some have even had their children taken away. More often than not, we aren't offered the help we need to make things better, we are just given more BS to deal with. If our meds don't work, we are taking it wrong, or we must be missing doses. Or we reach out to our family and friends, and they say nothing...there's such a cloud of silence around mental illness that they feel they can't communicate with us about it...and often silence us at the very moment we need their help.
I've heard some nasty comments since the VA Tech tragedy about the fact that the suspect had a mental illness and was hospitalized for it...about how these things should be kept on file, and then they would know who was at risk. That scares me. What if they started keeping that on your school record...and refused to allow you into high school, college, or could use that against you when trying to get a job. I know it's against the law now, and a human right's violation .... but could it be done...as a sort of internal "patriot act" in the interest of the safety of the masses? Could they just keep pushing until we aren't welcome in society at all again?