How pissed I am on a daily basis. I'm not trying to play the "woe is me" role. I mean like I have to walk everywhere I need to go. Because nobody feels like driving "all the way out there" to give me a ride to the store,plus I cant afford a car. I feel like Im worthless everytime I use my EBT card at the supermarket. I get the funny looks, and good forbid I allow my self the simple pleasure of a candy bar. Then there is the rude cashier that tells me I dont have enough on my balance to cover my purchase. I had already told her I would pay the rest in cash. She then printed out the reciept and loadly tells me my balnce is only"__"dollars. Yea like i really need the other people in line to know my buisness! I love the way some of my friends just dont get I cant go out, and hell no my mom wont watch her for a few minutes! I hate going to the DSS office period. I'm sick of natsy looks of some social workers. I love the fact that most of them sit in the back surfing online and talking on the phone. Belive I had to volunteer there i've seen some of them do it! It pisses me off because I'm supposed to have it so easy because of whatever. I know that it would not be easy having a child period. I knew itwas my decision. My ranting is about issues I have pretty much knew would happen and have pretty much accepted. It just that sometomes i t just pisses me off, I cant let out those really except through here. As IRL I have no momma friends or ppl I can really talk to. I feel like I been hidin g these feeelings for so long I explode if I dont let them out. If nothing else thanks for listening.
I know how you feel. I remember sitting at work with some other women while they talked about how they wished they could be single moms because they'd get whatever and whatever assistance and wouldn't that just be EASY?? With me sitting there, single mom, knowing full well how hard it is to get that stuff and how hard it is to admit you have to use it.
Knowing you can only go to certain doctors where you have to wait for hours before you see anyone and the minute they look at your chart and see your insurance they label you as a deadbeat and talk to you like you're an idiot. Looking at the labels in the supermarket making sure you pick the WIC approved items and having that trainee check you out who doesn't know how WIC works and all the people in line behind you sighing and glaring because it's taking so long.
It's hard. It's a very difficult way to live and a lot of people don't get that. I'm sorry your mom is so unsympathetic, I wish she was helping you more. The only thing I can really offer is that I've been there and I understand.
im in the same place as both of you girls and i totally understand. especially about DSS and WIC and all that it just sucks sometimes.
I know how you feel. For a long while I was on assistance. Still kind of. My family never likes to watch my kids period. There is always an excuse. Just when you think you are getting ahead someone comes down to smash you back.
I hate that I have to use the one doctor in my town that is the only one who will accept my kids insurance. Then we go through the hassel of it being covered not covered... and then being treated like crap just because I have that insurance. I have a job that offers insurance, but my position is not allowed.
I hate when I go to a store... and use my EBT card... and the cashier is like "Here is the remaining of your EBT." Says it really loud. It wouldn't be a big deal if people didn't complain about their tax dollars and so on.
I read articles after articles how all these single moms got help from the gov. How one lady got a car, insurance, an apartment... here I am thinking how? I know I am well off compared to most single moms. I have a decent paying job, but I still struggle because rent is high, gas is high, and my car payment needs to be paid. They don't consider it a bill. So I don't get help for the 260 a week for child care...
i understand. i need to vent sometimes too. strange that now that i've gotten lolder its somehow more accptable. but yeah vent away!
I just want to say that you are awesome. Every time I read your posts I just sit here and am like "OMG she is sooo right!" You rock. You say things that I always think about. Why do they think that just because we need a little bit of help that we are worthless? We are doing what we need to for our kids to survive and for us to survive! I always get those same looks when I use WIC to get formula, and it's like "What would you rather me not get him formula at all?"
Ill be your mommy friend! LoL but I know it's not the same as having a friend in the same town or close to. I'm here for you if you wanna PM me sometime when I'm on.