it has been three years. bd has never seen his child once. he didnt think about my baby until when i went looking for HIM. which was, admittedly, maybe not my best idea ever.... it appears to be working out rather sourly. he has a family now. a wife and a baby. and he lives in another time zone. i am a good mom. i have no drug or alcohol problems. we have our own place. we are not rich but he is always fed, always taken care of, and happy.
so my questions are:
is it wrong of me to file for child support knowing he has so little, too, and another family to support?
and the big one:
how likely do you think it is that he can get some kind of custody. he seems pretty confident, but my friend kathleen said that with her niece, the judges were almost willing to give her back to her mom, who abused and neglected her badly, because they felt that any mom is better than no mom. i dont do either of those things.
im not sure how worried i should be here. im going to do some research before i file, but i was hoping i could get some insight from some people who have had some personal experience in this area.
is it worth it to try to pursue child support if it means risking my kid? i know he is planning this as a scare tactic, or a threat, to try to get me to back off on the child support, but im still not sure what my reaction should be... im really unhappy right now.