I left BD, as you all know. Im staying with my sister and I havent spoken to BD yet, since the "incident", although he has called and left me a few messages. I dont really know what is important, that I need to do asap. I don't know how to go about filing for custody bcus im afraid he might take Riley from me. Anything else I need to do? Thanks a lot!
Go down to your local court house. They can tell you how to file for custody, and where. You make also want to consider a restraining order.
Also, if at all possible, talk to a lawyer about your concerns, and they can tell you hwo to keep him from getting Riley.
also, make sure that your name is taken off of things - credit cards, bank accounts, utilities, leases - anything that could ultimately harm your credit and leave you financially responsible.
change you internet passwords.
I would absolutly go talk to a lawyer and find out the steps you need to take. I can find you a lawyer that will work pro-bono, or many lawyers will do free consultations.
your not married and so i don't think a lawyer may be necisary...
did you report the "incident" to the police? I would do that asap b/c it will only help your case for custody. For my county atleast you could DL the custody paperwork on the net. Do a quick search and see what you come up with. Then just go to family court and submit the paperwork.
I would get rid of any bills or bank accounts that are in both of your names.
good luck mama. if you need to talk i am here for you okay?? ::hugs::
here is the family court website of oregon (i think thats where your from...)
http://www.ojd.state.or.us/osca/cpsd/courtimprovement/familylaw/flpacket3.htm
you should be able to DL and fill out the paperwork. Ashley (ama84) knows a ton about this stuff and she is really helpful. If you need help she may be able to help you with questions on how to fill it out. Good luck I did the paperwork on my own after DLing it to so if you need help let me know... <3
Thanks for all the help!! Im checking out all that stuff now! Thanks!
make sure you have all important documents, Licences, birth certificiates, etc.
File for custody of Riley NOW don't wait, in some states the parent that files first gets granted temporary custody...
Don't let him scare you, (i know that this one can be hard BELIEVE ME I KNOW) but it is important that you don't let him see the fear, abusers live off of that fear.
Stay strong
all my love
trish
Thanks gals. Im getting everything done tomorrow! I dont think BD would really want to have the responsibility on his own to raise Riley..but i wouldnt doubt it if he tried to get her just to spite me. Im definitely filing for custody asap. My sisters BD (their not dating anymore) has a friend whose dad is a lawyer..and he said that he'd talk to him and see what he says. Thanks gals!