For those of you who know me, you know I was in a physically/verbally abusive relationship. I was married to my husband for almost 2 years and he was abusive the whole time.
I'm thinking about changing my name back to my maiden name after I get divorced. Anyone ever done this or know someone who did?
Will it be wierd for my daughter to have a different last name from me? I would LOVE to change her name too, but I believe I'd have to have BD's permission and I greatly doubt he'd give it. He lives in another state and I get an email about once every 2 wks asking how his daughter is. But he never asks to see her or anything like that. In situations like this, it'd be so much easier if he would just drop off the face of the earth.
On a related note, anyone have full custody of their baby and how did you get it?
Sorry I rambled on for so long... :oops:
Go to your local clerk of courts and get paperwork for a legal name change. Thye have three kinds
Child
Adult
family
You can petiton for a family change with the argument that you would like your daughter to share the same name as you but you cannot keep your married name because of the painful ties it has.
It up to the judge really worse thing they could do is say no and only grant your name change
I know a lot of people who have different names then their moms bcus of marriages and divorces. I can see why you'd like your daughter to have the same name as you, though. I suggest doing what Ama said. Also, you asked about having full custody? I have ful custody of my daughter and BD doesnt even have visitation right now bcus of past abuse to me, current abuse to another girl, etc..so I'm gonna worry about that when th time comes. I filed for custody asap. Good luck!! PM me if you need anything
I know a lot of people who have different names then their moms bcus of marriages and divorces. I can see why you'd like your daughter to have the same name as you, though. I suggest doing what Ama said. Also, you asked about having full custody? I have ful custody of my daughter and BD doesnt even have visitation right now bcus of past abuse to me, current abuse to another girl, etc..so I'm gonna worry about that when th time comes. I filed for custody asap. Good luck!! PM me if you need anything
When my parents got divorced she changed her name back to her maiden name. then when she got married to my step dad she changed her name again. It didnt take long at all. I have a different last name then my mom, but i do see my dad sometimes and talk to him often. my friend Chris has his moms maiden last name, and she is married now and it doesnt really bother him. good luck
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she is my mom... im tired...
I'm pretty sure you don't have to actually go through a legal name change. if you change your name after marrige all you have to do is show your marrige licence (& pay some $) at the dmv for a new id/dl & show it again at the ss office for a new card. so changing it back should be as simple as showing some kind of proof of divorce.
I would go for chaning both of your name to your maiden name but if you are only able to change your own back don't be ashamed about having a diff (last) name as your kid. my was diff from my moms & for the most part it didn't bother me.
by this part I ment changing your name back should be that simple. I don't know how you'd go about changin your kids name. I think you could have her go by your last name for school/daycare without having to go through the legal process. I've heard you can go by any name you want as long as you aren't being decitefull (like changing a kids name after kidnaping them or changing your own to avoid unpaid bills).
unless in the final judgement of the divorse she requested her maiden name back she has to go through a legal name change. Only a judge can do this, it isn't an automatic thing. They ask you to put down any loans in your name, debts ect every place lived. In case you are trying to get out of money owed by changing your name, especially in a marriage when the debts are joint.