Has anyone had this happen to them? When I was pregnant with Tyler, my stepmom was also pregnant (unplanned). She was 38. My sister, Skylar, was born three months before Tyler. I'm not pregnant now and am not planning on becoming pregnant, but I recently found out my mom is pregnant (unplanned), due January 10th. She turns 38 next month. I will be nearly 21 when my new sibling is born, and Tyler will be 2 1/2 - weird!
My mom was 24 when she had her first son. I was the same age when I had Liam. But wait, it was just so very different according to her. Yeah, she was married, catholic and all that bullshit in between.
I got a tone of shit from my mom when I was pregnant, I never did see her once, and she never apologized.
:wink: 1971 vs. 2002, bullshit to me.
ames
My mom had my sister when she was 38 and I was 18. I just had my baby now that I am 24, so there isn't even 6 years between my sister and my daughter.
Goddamn I need glasses, I totally read your post wrong....
No I have NOT been pregnant at the same time as my mom.
sorry about that.
ames
When I was pregnant with my first child, my mom was also pregnant with my young half-sister, who is now 13. Since my mom and I have never had much contact with one another and don't even live in the same city, this wasn't really that big a deal. But it was something I was aware of.
No, I haven't but my youngest sister and my nephew are only a year apart. My mom was 38, and my sister was 16. It seems pretty weird, especially now because they are 8 and 9 and my nephew is a lot bigger than my sister, THey are really close though, and spend a lot of time together. They don't go to the same school, but they participate in after school activites together
my mil and her oldest son's girlfriend were pregnant at the same time. my husband and his nephew are less than a month apart in age.
my mil and her oldest son's girlfriend were pregnant at the same time. my husband and his nephew are less than a month apart in age.
My step mom and I were pregnant at the same time. I was due February 6th and she was due February 7th. She miscarried in her 4th month, so we did not have babies together.......but we were both pregnant. She did, however, have a baby later on....my daughter turned 6 in January and my brother will be 5 in June. lol
weird.
was she at all resentful of you that you didn't miscarry and she did? i know a lot of older moms think young moms don't "deserve" their babies.
i wasn't pregnant at the same time as my mom, but i was pregnant at the same time as my sister in law, and she was more than twice my age. i was really jealous that no one was happy about my pregnancy like they were about hers, and i got very snooty about the fact that i had an easy pregnancy, birth and postpartum and she didn't, saying it was because i was at nature's selected age for childbearing. (i now realize that our health and experiences were basically beyond both of our control, but she got three baby showers and i got zero!)
That sucks! I hate how it was "okay" to be a young mom then but it isn't now - bs!
LOL it's okay ;)
That must have been hard. My stepmom was due in the beginning of June (I was due in July) but she gave birth in April at 32 weeks. Skylar had to stay in the NICU for 6 weeks.
My best friend was pregnant at the same time as her mum, her mum was very upset because she felt that Sheryl being pregnant made her look old and ridiculous. Sadly my friend miscarried but had a daughter 2 yrs later. Uncle and niece are like siblings and just live around the corner from each other. I was pregnant at the same time as her mum and her aunt, who are also my dh's aunts.
my mil is like despritly ttc now and bil and his wife are currently pg...
we and steve are thinking of ttc (dont ask me why the hell i would reproduce with him again cuz i dont know) but i am kind of against it because having an uncle/aunt who is younger than like their neice/nephew
would seem to me to be a bit traumatizing
My mums cousins uncle is younger than his nephew. It isn't really traumatising so long as they're not brought up calling them uncle or anything to be honest.
my mom's youngest brother (my uncle) is only 2 years older then me... Mike's aunt is also pg now (due any day) so Xander will be older then Mike's cousin...
i am not pregnant at the same time as my mom, but i am pregnant at the same time as my cousin!! who is only 10 years older than me and she is on her third!!
She was extremely resentful, hateful, and flat out mean to me. When I mentioned it to my dad he was like "well you have to understand, shes a grown woman who wants a family very much and cant have one now....and you're just a teenager"
I quit going to my dads while I was pregnant. I resumed going after Destiny was born and she was still mean as hell to me...
After she had my little brother (when Destiny was over a year old) she apologized to me. Told me she'd had no clue how hard being a mom was, at any age, and that she didnt mean to make things harder on me.
I wasn't pregnant at the same time as my mom, but I do have a brother that is almost 16 years younger than I am. My son was born just a month after my brother turned 4.
Even though the uncle is indeed older then the nephew (by only 4 years) it is in no way traumatizing for them. I also don't believe that it is traumatizing if the children refer to their "lables" as family members (sister/brother, aunt/uncle, niece/nephew). As far as my family goes, my son and brother are more like siblings than anything. My brother is more like a "step-child" to me -- we do NOT have a brother/sister relationship whatsoever. I take care of him, taxi him around, help with his schoolwork/projects, take him to his sporting events, etc. He IS like a brother to my son, though.
It worked out well. My mother was 42 when my brother was born. She had been TTC for 5 years unsuccessfuly. She gave up all home and then was surprised by her pregnancy. She has had several traumatic miscarriages and ALWAYS wanted another child. Needless to say, she was ecstatic when my brother was finally born. Of course, she wouldn't be able to have another child though as to have a sibling for my brother.
My son was born when I was 19. My husband and I split up when I was 3 months pregnant. I did get pregnant when my son was about 18 months old and I miscarried. I got pregnant again a few months later as a result of a horribly abusive relationship. I aborted. I had no hope of being able to have another child anywhere in the timetable of my son being close in age to one. (He'll be 5 on Tuesday and there are still no babies in the immediate future).
It was wonderful that both my brother and my son were able to have a "sibling" type relationship without actually having any siblings. Based on this experience, I have to say that it is in no way traumatizing. My son and brother are VERY close to each other and take care of each other. It's been great for them to be able to grow up together. The titles of uncle/nephew have no effect at all (except when my brother tries to lay down the law -- but his excuse is that he's older anyway). They introduce each other as my uncle/nephew whenever they meet someone new.
i was pregnant, actually i was six months ahead of my sister. whats sad is she felt i stole her thunder. she's my oldest sister and married, so i guess i beat her to the first grandkid. opps. i would imagen mother and daughter would be very awkward. with both hormones raging i could imagine the stakes would be higher
my x is 17 and his "aunt" (his moms sister) is 13... i thought that was...interesting to say the least
My little sisters are 13 & 14 and Matthias is almost 8. It was weird when they were 5 & 6 and telling people they had a nephew.
Me and my mom were preggo at the same time. It was weird. We look alot alike so people would assume that we were sisters and say "How cute 2 sisters pregnant at the same time" I had my son first then she had my sisters ( yes twins) 3mos. later. Our children get along great but my younger sister (5) thinks that my son is her brother. We still strange looks when we go shopping together and people just cant get over the fact that my mom has new babies and a new grandson.
I have been PG at the same time as SO's step mom (step MIL) 3 times. When I was PG with my first (due 3/00) his step mom was also due 3/00, although they had a stillbirth.
They had several miscarriages before she carried to term. She was due 10/02 and I was due 3/03. They found out the were PG again when their son was 3 months old and due in 10/03. Our DD was 3 months when I found out that I was PG again and due 4/04. We both had DDs born a month early.
So, there are five of the kids all together, Karsten (nephew) 4, Jess (uncle) 22m, Sophia (neice) 16 m, Kia (11 m), Lydia 5 m. I am glad the my kids have relatives their age. My sisters and Justins siblings are no where near ready to have kids.
Step MIL is only 29, Justins dad is 38 (we are 22). His dad was a teen parent also. We could have had it both ways, Justin's mom and step dad were considering TTC as well but they decided that being grandparents was a better opyion for them.
Melissa
My bd's sister got pg when I was 36 wks, but it wasnt really weird, i just gave her all my old maternity clothes tho. Im glad that she is pg becuz then my bd's mom wont pressure me about having eric spend the night becuz she'll have a baby already living with her...