I am having a hard time admitting to this, but I am feeling really disrespected by my husband. When I was pregnant with Jasper, he promised me he would get a vasectomy when the baby was born. I asked him if he was sure, because if not, I would just get my tubes tied, but he agreed pregnancy and labor was enough for me, and he could be the one to deal with a minor operation. Well, 9 1/2 months later, he STILL hasn't done it! I put the phone number to the doctor by the phone, and said call and make your appointment now. He didn't. I have done this several times. We have had fights about this, and I have told him how disrespected I feel by all of this, and he doesn't even really address that. For a long time, I withheld sex from him, which was hard for both of us. It caused major tension between us to the point that I almost left him. Then we started having sex again sans birth control, but I was so afraid I would get pregnant again I stopped letting him. I went to the store and stared at the birth control section for a long time, then left with nothing because I don't want to tell him is OK to ignore his responsibility. I am withholding sex again, and I hate it because I am constantly having to reject him. He asks for sex all the time. He wants to just do things that can't get me pregnant, but I'm like no way! If you want sex get a damn vasectomy! This is not the only thing he does this with. He is always making promises and then not doing what he says he will, or FINALLY doing it months later. What can I do? This is really hurting our relationship. I feel like a prude or something. He really enjoys porn, and that has never bothered me, but it is starting to piss me off because he is getting sexual satisfaction and I am not! I am so frustrated about this. I feel like another pregnancy would destroy me and destroy our marriage. I have already thought about the possibilities of abortion or raising three kids, neither of which I want to have to do.