I found out i was pregnant like, 3 weeks ago and it still feels so unreal. I mean i know i'm gonna be a mom soon and i take my prenatal vitamins and eat good things and all the stuff that comes with knowing you're pregnant...but i just don't feel like, a bond yet..am i supposed to? i'm around 11 weeks give or take.. Maybe is it because very few people know yet? When the news is out there, does it start feeling more real? Sorry i sound so clueless..but you know, i kind of am.. :?
i'm at 19 weeks now i still feel that way. it is slowly starting to sink in as my belly is starting to grow, but for the first three months, i would often completely forget. it's totally normal to feel like this, especially if there aren't much physical signs of pregnancy yet. also, for me, i'm just not the person to get very excited about the pregnancy - i'm happy that i will have another child, but i find pregnancy to be a bit freaky and not much enjoyable, and i don't bond much with the fetus before it's born.
It took a while for it to sink in for me. Actually, it took almost nine months, but I was in a pretty messed up headspace.
It seems sort of unreal for me early on as well. It's sometimes inconvinient and annoying with the morning sickness and tiredness lol. But once I start to show it starts to feel more real to me. And once I start feeling those little kicks regularly I enjoy pregnancy. For me it is a special time, and when I start feeling the movement and hear the heartbeat and see my belly grow I really start to believe there will be a new baby. But it always has a slightly unreal quality for me, at least until I'm holding my baby.
I think it really didnt hit me until I was showing... It can take time to "sink in".
my son is 7 weeks old today... it STILL hasn't hit me that i was pregnant or that i gave birth... it takes time for everyone
that was how i felt. It took a few months before i looked at him and said thats my son... i still have trouble refering to myself as "mama" and to bd as "daddy". It takes a long time i guess
britt - its so normal to wonder if you should have more of a bond. it seems like there is this image of mothers who are just instantly all giving and nurturing and stuff, and when we don't feel connected to our fetuses, babies, kids, whatever, its hard not to feel like we failed somehow at the whole mom thing.
take time to let your news sink in. its only been 3 weeks.. heh my kid is over 3 years and sometimes i am still shocked that i made him and birthed him and am a mother. doesn't mean i don't love him with every part of me though, and i'm sure thats the same in your case.
sounds like you are doing the right thing by taking your vitamins and eating healthy, thats a great start to your pregnancy. even if that emotional bond isn't quite there yet, you are already doing things that mean you accept this choice of yours and are willing to do the best you can for your future baby. and thats awesome :)
i meant to include this in my other post.. have you been able to hear the heartbeat at any of your prenatal appointments? hearing his heart beating was one of my defining moments in pregnancy, it was like "proof" that i was in fact creating a baby. (which can be a hard concept to wrap your head around).
seeing him on the ultrasound was really exciting too, but you might have to wait a bit before they'll do that. somethings to look forward to either way.
Like the others have said, it takes for it to sink in. I couldnt believe it still, when i started showing and even when she was born I felt like it wasnt real. Shes a year old now, and sometimes Im still like, is this REALLY MY daughter? Its crazy!
Ditto to everyone.
It sunk in for me when i started to show. I think i was more in denial at first.
I am at 30 weeks and sometimes it still doesn't seem real to me. Seeing the ultrasound and then starting to show makes me realize there is something in there, but I don't think it will really seem real to me until after the birth.
I'm about 13 weeks pregnant and it still hasn't hit me yet either. I mean I see my stomach growing, but it still seems sureal. I think that it takes a while for first time moms to realize that they are pregnant because they have never experienced it before. Don't worry, I believe that every mom feels a bond with there child . It just takes longer for some people. You will be fine.