I am 18 and pregnant by my 32 yr old boyfriend. I love him so much and we live together, i know he'll always stand by me and our child, but my mum isnt so sure. she keeps calling him a retard and saying hes lazy and mental. Clive is none of these things at all!
We are very close, but as much as i love him, i dont want to lose my mum. she was completely livid when she found out about the baby. I'm nearly 4 months gone now and she still hasnt calmed down saying we're irresponsible and will make terrible parents. Clive told me that it doesnt matter what she thinks because we have each other and our child but that doesnt stop it worrying me.
Help!!! someone, anyone, i need serious advice!! Thanks.
This is a hard situation BUT its seems that she is mad about clive and the baby. So even if you were to leave clive, would she still be feeling the same way.
This is ultimately your decision. It is never easy to choose and when someone puts you in that predicament it is selfish of them. Maybe you need to sit down with your mother and tell her how you feel. It seems that clive is a little more supportive then your mom is.
Just sit down and think about everything.
It seems that you and clive have both decided that you want this baby and be together. Congratulations!
This comes down to a hard decision but what is best for you? (ask yourself that).
I tried talking to mum, but she is adamant we're doing the wrong thing. she's given me an ultimatum: clive and the baby or her. i really dont wanna lose her but at the same time clive and i just want to be together and have this baby. im really scared and dont know what to do to stop me losing either of them. HELP PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Seeing that you are pregnant , the most important thing now is your baby. Do whats best for him/her. And thats having a father, a fathe ris more important than a grandmother. As a mother your children come first and everything else (including your parents) take a back seat.
Yeah, but she's my MUM. she's my parent too! she's banned my dad from coming near me. this tiff with my mum is costing me my entire family so i dont know what to do!
my mom was the same was in the beginning when i got pregnant with jayden. but a little bit before i had jayden she came around because there was nothing she could do about it i had a baby and if she wanted to be in my life i came attached with a baby. she adores jayden now but in the beginning it was really rough.
I know she's your mom, but she's being pretty unreasonable. Do what YOU want to do. Don't let her bully you into anything.
Try sitting her down and talking to her calmly. Why does she feel these things about Clive? Does she have any reasons at all to believe that he's not going to be a good partner?
She may just be upset that you're going to have a baby before going to college. Let her know that having a baby will not keep you from your future plans.
If she's still being unreasonable, then you've gotta do what's going to make YOU happy, not her and not Clive. YOU. Maybe after a few months she'll cool off, but she may not.
This is all about you. Don't do what others want you to do.
Good luck!
BTW, for those reading this thread, a baby having a father does not necessarily mean that its the best thing for a baby. There are many, many wonderful families that do not have a father. Just look at single moms and lesbian moms.
Mum hates Clive purely for the age gap between us. He's gona be a great dad, he's got the patience and temperament for it. she just wont see that. i left college last year so i dont see how that'd be bothering her. i was failing everything :oops: and so left. clive and i are doing things the way we want to but she wont or cant understand that.
Seeing that you are pregnant , the most important thing now is your baby. Do whats best for him/her. And thats having a father, a fathe ris more important than a grandmother. As a mother your children come first and everything else (including your parents) take a back seat.
I would just like to say that in my sons life his grandma is way more important than his father. She takes care of him when i work and she loves him and buys him stuff, where as his father only wants to watch him when it would be cool for him to have a kid. So a father is not always as important and never bought him anything. I agree that your children are most important but sometimes their father isn't going to help them.
to the op, I think you need to sit down and talk to your mom. Tell her how you feel that she is important in your life and so is clive, and that you dont want to have to choose between them. I can understand why she would feel the way she does, and maybe she just needs to get to know him better before she decides whether to like him or not. Remember to keep your best intrest in mind. I know my mom was very important to me when I was pregnant. Be sure to do what YOU want, not what your mom wants or what Clive wants. This is your life and you will be most affected by the choice you make. Good luck in making your desision.
Mum has said that its obvious Clive is more important to me than she is and that she is moving away to let me lead the life that is only going to see me ruin both my life and the life of my child. clive and i are meant for each other and that is something im sure of now, so what ever happens we're staying together, i just want my mum in my life as well. it doesnt look like she's going to come round which is what frightens me most about the whole situation. however supportive clive is, he's not a woman and so hasnt been pregnant and so cant give me advice as my mum could. i feel so lost...........
i want the baby, and so does clive. we're both really looking forward to it, i just want mum involved as well, its her 1st grandchild, shouldnt she want to be involved? i dunno how i can keep her in my life and get her involved in my childs life. my nan died when i was 12 and we were really close, i want that bond for my child, there is nothing else that comes close in the world.....
i want the baby, and so does clive. we're both really looking forward to it, i just want mum involved as well, its her 1st grandchild, shouldnt she want to be involved? i dunno how i can keep her in my life and get her involved in my childs life. my nan died when i was 12 and we were really close, i want that bond for my child, there is nothing else that comes close in the world.....
I love my mom to death but no matter what i do she always supports me so its hard to understand exactly how your feeling and to tell you what to do( not tell you but give you advice).
The main thing is with that kind of ultimanen she is hurting you.
This is prolly the hardest decision you will ever have to make in your life. My BD turned into a ass hole after i had my son, and my mom couldnt stand him for that. Even while i was pregnant he was such a jerk. My mo never asked me to choose but she would beat around it. At first i would fight with her because i loved him and just knew that he was going to be there for me no matter what, so i would fight with my mom nonstop about him. Well here i am, my son is 5 months old and guess who has been there for me the whole time. MY MOM, and where is my BD, oh hes ther when he feels like it or needs something. Just remeber theres never a guarentee that he is going to be there for you the whole time. I never though my BD would do to me the things he has. Blood is thicker than water.
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I dunno wat 2 do!!!!!!!! HELP!!!!!!!
I am 18 and pregnant by my 32 yr old boyfriend. I love him so much and we live together, i know he'll always stand by me and our child, but my mum isnt so sure. she keeps calling him a retard and saying hes lazy and mental. Clive is none of these things at all!
We are very close, but as much as i love him, i dont want to lose my mum. she was completely livid when she found out about the baby. I'm nearly 4 months gone now and she still hasnt calmed down saying we're irresponsible and will make terrible parents. Clive told me that it doesnt matter what she thinks because we have each other and our child but that doesnt stop it worrying me.
Help!!! someone, anyone, i need serious advice!! Thanks.
Do I leave Clive to keep my mum
This is a hard situation BUT its seems that she is mad about clive and the baby. So even if you were to leave clive, would she still be feeling the same way.
This is ultimately your decision. It is never easy to choose and when someone puts you in that predicament it is selfish of them. Maybe you need to sit down with your mother and tell her how you feel. It seems that clive is a little more supportive then your mom is.
Just sit down and think about everything.
It seems that you and clive have both decided that you want this baby and be together. Congratulations!
This comes down to a hard decision but what is best for you? (ask yourself that).
Do I leave Clive to keep my mum
I tried talking to mum, but she is adamant we're doing the wrong thing. she's given me an ultimatum: clive and the baby or her. i really dont wanna lose her but at the same time clive and i just want to be together and have this baby. im really scared and dont know what to do to stop me losing either of them. HELP PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Do I leave Clive to keep my mum
Seeing that you are pregnant , the most important thing now is your baby. Do whats best for him/her. And thats having a father, a fathe ris more important than a grandmother. As a mother your children come first and everything else (including your parents) take a back seat.
Do I leave Clive to keep my mum
Yeah, but she's my MUM. she's my parent too! she's banned my dad from coming near me. this tiff with my mum is costing me my entire family so i dont know what to do!
Do I leave Clive to keep my mum
my mom was the same was in the beginning when i got pregnant with jayden. but a little bit before i had jayden she came around because there was nothing she could do about it i had a baby and if she wanted to be in my life i came attached with a baby. she adores jayden now but in the beginning it was really rough.
good luck and congrats
Do I leave Clive to keep my mum
I know she's your mom, but she's being pretty unreasonable. Do what YOU want to do. Don't let her bully you into anything.
Try sitting her down and talking to her calmly. Why does she feel these things about Clive? Does she have any reasons at all to believe that he's not going to be a good partner?
She may just be upset that you're going to have a baby before going to college. Let her know that having a baby will not keep you from your future plans.
If she's still being unreasonable, then you've gotta do what's going to make YOU happy, not her and not Clive. YOU. Maybe after a few months she'll cool off, but she may not.
This is all about you. Don't do what others want you to do.
Good luck!
BTW, for those reading this thread, a baby having a father does not necessarily mean that its the best thing for a baby. There are many, many wonderful families that do not have a father. Just look at single moms and lesbian moms.
Do I leave Clive to keep my mum
Mum hates Clive purely for the age gap between us. He's gona be a great dad, he's got the patience and temperament for it. she just wont see that. i left college last year so i dont see how that'd be bothering her. i was failing everything :oops: and so left. clive and i are doing things the way we want to but she wont or cant understand that.
Do I leave Clive to keep my mum
I would just like to say that in my sons life his grandma is way more important than his father. She takes care of him when i work and she loves him and buys him stuff, where as his father only wants to watch him when it would be cool for him to have a kid. So a father is not always as important and never bought him anything. I agree that your children are most important but sometimes their father isn't going to help them.
to the op, I think you need to sit down and talk to your mom. Tell her how you feel that she is important in your life and so is clive, and that you dont want to have to choose between them. I can understand why she would feel the way she does, and maybe she just needs to get to know him better before she decides whether to like him or not. Remember to keep your best intrest in mind. I know my mom was very important to me when I was pregnant. Be sure to do what YOU want, not what your mom wants or what Clive wants. This is your life and you will be most affected by the choice you make. Good luck in making your desision.
Do I leave Clive to keep my mum
Mum has said that its obvious Clive is more important to me than she is and that she is moving away to let me lead the life that is only going to see me ruin both my life and the life of my child. clive and i are meant for each other and that is something im sure of now, so what ever happens we're staying together, i just want my mum in my life as well. it doesnt look like she's going to come round which is what frightens me most about the whole situation. however supportive clive is, he's not a woman and so hasnt been pregnant and so cant give me advice as my mum could. i feel so lost...........
Do I leave Clive to keep my mum
i personally think she is being selfish.
She cant give you an ultamanen(spelling). She should never do that to you ever. No one should especially if she is your mom.
This is your decision and sometimes tough love is needed.
When you choose to keep, or abort, or adoption for your baby it should be based on what YOU want.
Do I leave Clive to keep my mum
i want the baby, and so does clive. we're both really looking forward to it, i just want mum involved as well, its her 1st grandchild, shouldnt she want to be involved? i dunno how i can keep her in my life and get her involved in my childs life. my nan died when i was 12 and we were really close, i want that bond for my child, there is nothing else that comes close in the world.....
Do I leave Clive to keep my mum
I love my mom to death but no matter what i do she always supports me so its hard to understand exactly how your feeling and to tell you what to do( not tell you but give you advice).
The main thing is with that kind of ultimanen she is hurting you.
Listen to your heart girl.
Do I leave Clive to keep my mum
This is prolly the hardest decision you will ever have to make in your life. My BD turned into a ass hole after i had my son, and my mom couldnt stand him for that. Even while i was pregnant he was such a jerk. My mo never asked me to choose but she would beat around it. At first i would fight with her because i loved him and just knew that he was going to be there for me no matter what, so i would fight with my mom nonstop about him. Well here i am, my son is 5 months old and guess who has been there for me the whole time. MY MOM, and where is my BD, oh hes ther when he feels like it or needs something. Just remeber theres never a guarentee that he is going to be there for you the whole time. I never though my BD would do to me the things he has. Blood is thicker than water.