Well as some of you know me and bd broke up for good about a 3 weeks ago. We started talking again but we got in a fight and he ended up hitting me and breaking my friends car window because she got in his face about it. Anyway. So i posted before about how he was calling me, blowing up my cell phone and coming to my work everyday. Well for the past week he hasn't which i am really glad about but i have to admit i was kind of wondering why. Well yesterday i was talking to my friend m who is friends with k. K hangs out with bd a lot so she knows whats up with him. Well it turns out that he hasnt been trying to get ahold of me because he is seeing this new girl who i REALLY dont like (we havent gotten along since jr. high). He is supposed to be staying clean for his probation and she is known around the neighborhood for being a big user. I dont know if he is actually trying to date her or if he is just trying to have sex with her. But either way I am so sad and pissed! I mean we arent broken up for a week and he finds someone else?? WTF? He acts like the past 3 years just didnt happen, and like we dont have a son together. He hasnt even asked to see Eric is almost a month. Just when i went to see him i would bring eric, but he doesnt even want to see him or take care of him. I feel so used, and I feel soo lied to. He promised all these things and not one of them came true. I also feel so so stupid for being with him as long as i did. Now I am just the babys mom who is a bitch and who no one likes. And who, god forbid, wants him to pay child support! Anything but that!! I am just so incredibly mad right now its not even funny. I cant BELIEVE he just went out and got someone new! I just had to vent... :evil: :evil: :evil: I am so freaking pissed!!!!
sorry. i just remembered that we are not supposed to say the b word, i apoligize in advance if i offended anyone.
u have every right to be seriously irritated by that treatment. But just think of it like this: u r so much betta off without him and your son too. my father hit me and my mum around when i was growing up so i know how it feels from a childs perspective. If he's hit u 1ce he'll do it again. i still have nightmares. i havent seen my father since i was 4 im now 18 and can still REMEMBER what he put us through, so u r betta off without him. I know its hard but u will find sum1 else & be able 2 move on.
Gud Luk
You have every right to feel bad. You've invested allot of time in BD. You believed in him, and wanted to have a life together. That is a hard thing to let go of, even when you know being rid of him is the best thing for you. You just can't expect yourself to get over a three year relationship over night.
I've been in a similar position, my son's BD ended up getting a new girl friend while I was still pregnant. He ended up getting her pregnant too, and they got married on my sons 1st birthday. I was out of my mind pissed off. I was pretty much over the fact that he had left me, but it just seemed so unfair that he got to go on with his life like nothing happened. I felt like how dare he be fucking happy. It took me a long time to stop being resentful. But it does get easier. I know for sure, that I would never be as happy as I am now if I was still with him.
you are not stupid to feel that way at all. i felt the same way when jaydens father left he hasnt seen and doesnt want to see jayden either. i still get upset when i hear things about the girls he dates/ sleeps with. you are much better off without him he doesnt sound like a good guy anyway.
and just to let you know i like you and your wonderful. dont let him bring you down you are a wonderful person and you definatley deserve better than him!
its hard to get over someone you have been w/ for 3 years, i know, its still hard for me at times to get over my bd who i was with for about 4 years. it sucks. but you are MUCH better off without him. A's dad doesnt pay child support, or see her at all. its on my part tho, because hes crazy. like he has threatened to kidnap her and whatnot. yah now im getting way off topic, but anyways you kick ass and i cant wait to meet you next weekend.
Aww you guys are so nice! Thanks i love you guys!