A friend of mine who I correspond with online is also pregnant, and hasnt told her parents. Well when I was talking with her today, she informed me she had told her parents and it didnt go over to well. I told her that what her parents are doing is child abuse and that I know in Canada there are pregnancy centers for girls who have no support or money to go for the duration of their pregnancy where they will get medical help and then aid in finding work and low income housing. I have no clue what they do in the states though in this kind of situation and so im asking you girls for help.
She is sixteen, and her parents are highly religous. They will not allow her to get an abortion (she didnt want one anyways but there is no choice). She is escorted to school where her mother sits in the parkinglot at the exit of the school to ensure she stays there all day, and then escorts her home. They will NOT allow her any prenatal care or access to a doctor, because they are religious. They have taken away personal items like razor and toothbrush to punish her. She dosent want her baby to grow up in that kind of house hold, but she dosent know what she can do. She cant join up here because they are tracking her webuseage to ensure she dosent go to sites like these, she can only go on msn and check her email, which they also check. I dont know how to help her. Any moms in the states know what she can do?
"They will NOT allow her any prenatal care or access to a doctor, because they are religious."
Something about that screams 'illegal', religious belief or not. From the way you put it, she obviously wants to get to a doctor and get prenatal care, so the manner in which her parents are forcing their view seems wrong from a legal standpoint.
What state is she in? Because laws here change state to state - so it's hard to say without that piece of info.
She lives in new york. And theres no way that isnt illegal, I mean you cant prevent a girl from seeking medical care for her and her child.
According to http://64.233.161.104/search?q=cache:cRUIFuVkOrEJ:www.agi-usa.org/pubs/ib_minors_00.pdf+NY+law,+minor+child+receiving+prenatal+care&hl=en, all she needs to do is consent to prenatal care and she's fine. She doesn't need parental consent at all, which is what we both suspected from the beginning.
She needs to have a serious discussion with her parents (though, I don't know how much they'll listen), because if they're so against abortion and want her to carry to term, she *needs* prenatal care.
Bah. I wish I could go back an edit that bad coding.
Thats the problem. They wont physically allow her to leave their house,
so theres no way she can go out and do it other then sneaking out at night (they keep constant watch on her) and then getting kicked out. Thats why I think she needs to get family services somehow involved and have her taken out of that unhealthy situation and put somewhere she can get care. She agrees but dosent know any where she can do that
does she have anyone at school she can go to? Like a counselor, or teacher that she trusts? I know many people in her situation would be reluctant to get help at school, but there should be someone there who could help her. They are required to report abuse or neglect. She needs to go to the doctor.
Effigie-I fixed your link, should work now.
She needs to see someone.
They took her toothbrush away, wtf?
Won't let her get prenatal crae.
She needs to get out.
Asap.
thats got to be the sickest thing i have heard of , tooth brush and shaver
its pretty sad she has no one for support , noone to talk too , bet she cant even cry if fear of her rediculos (sp?) family. She must feel so alone and feel like a spider in a web stupid boundaries her parents have set for her and how the're like big brother watching her , shes going to explode well i would put under that pressure , shes got to get out theres got to be someone tht can help her i dont think her parents wait outside the class room , so i think the best way to go about it , is put her trust into someone like a counsilour at school or something she needs out her parents are sick you would think being religous theylld be understanding etc geez
well i hope things improve for your friend and shes able to get out before things get too bad and she suffers from depression or worse
please send her our love and tell her that we are thinking of her! I think its appauling what her parents are doing..religion or not, she needs medical care for her and her fetus's health..! Please let us know if anything more happens..advice her to speak to someone at her school!
U sound like a very good friend and shes lucky to have someone like you.
I don't know if this is even possible, but could you find out where she lives and call someone for her? I mean does she get the chance to talk to you alone so she could tell you some of her info? Because she must have had some way to talk to u to tell you what was going on in the first place...Have you talked to her lately? Sorry if my idea sounded ridiculous...just thought maybe there might be a way or something