To start with, I am an ally, not a girlmom. I am also an escort. I'm posting anonymously to keep my privacy, as I have some people in my life who would love to expose this to my ultra-christian family.
I want to tell this to you all to encourage awareness of sexworkers on the board, and maybe hope that it might open some eyes.
I started escorting about a month ago. I am licensed in Canada. While to the government I simply "spend time with men", to me I just have sex with them. If I were ever in a violent situation with a client, the police have every obligation to help me and if they didn't, there would be a large community backlash.
Maybe the right word is "priveledged", that I work for an agency and not on the streets. I luckily managed to get my $300 Cdn for my license together, so that I can legally work in a local agency. My agency's rates are approx. $300 an hour, with $50 of it going to my agency. I don't mean to say that street hookers are any less than agency hookers, just that my working conditions are better in my city.
I am not ashamed of what I do, or embarassed. I know my own limits, however, in how much judgement I can take from people I love, which is why I don't tell everyone in my life. If I meet a stranger, I might mention it, and if they seem to be judgemental, then fuck them.
Of all of the emotional issues I've had in the last month, none of them have been related to my work. It simply doesn't bother me. I can see maybe getting burned out after years of working in the industry, but when I leave a client's house, I am no different.
My points I want to get across are:
I don't have a problem with what I'm doing.
My job is like every other job, except I get to spend more time at home enjoying life and, recently, starting volunteer work.
I am not giving away my body, or selling it.
I am proud of who I am. My job in no way affects that.
Sex workers are people. Normal people. No heathens here!
Sex workers are not all drug addicts, or alcoholics. Not all of them have been sexually abused. Not all of them have experienced domestic violence. Some of them are, or have, but they are still stereotypes.
In most cases, from my experience, becoming a hooker is just another decision. I looked at ads in the paper, and applied for the job I wanted. Same as everyone else.
I think I've said everything I wanted to say. If I put my foot in my mouth at all, I'm ready to be called on it. Haven't had my morning pot of coffee yet![/b]