ok time to bare my soul. my husband and I knew each other for six weeks before we got married (yeah I was pregnant, we were both catholic and soldiers). After my son was born my husband was deployed for ten months and when I finally came to Germany to see him I was a reservist and everything changed. he expects me to run my whole life around his time. like he will tell me he is going to be gone for five minutes and then is gone for like 2 1/2 hours. He gets mad when I take the car without giving him notice or if I'm not home to make his dinner or if I get on him about doing something (after I've asked nicely for the last ten minutes). I love my husband and he is a sweet man most of the time but I don't want my boys to grow up thinking this is the way you treat women and i don't want to wait on him. I do everything around the house and i'm still a damn soldier I don't know what he wants anymore but I don't know how to put any of this in words. we have been married almost three years and we have two beautiful boys who are my world. I don't want to leave him but I don't want to feel used either.