I have been thinking alot about this guy i dated last year lately. I'm not sure why... i liked this guy ALOT, but at the time he was living out of state and wasn't going to be back until July. We hit it off right away and had alot in common. He wanted a big family and had a lot of the same goals for his family and kids as i did. It was just perfect it seemed like. Nothing really went wrong, we just had pretty much that one night were we stayed up ALL night and talked about everything and nothing and i loved it. But he went back to Illinios and i just never really called him becuase i figured he was to busy for a realtionship and i didn't really need to deal with a long distance one at the time, so i just kinda left it at the couple of nights that we had, and the few weeks that we talked on the phone. Well he called me about 2 months ago and wanted to hang out, but we just kinda said okay well talk to you later, and never called each other. But i have been thinking about him ALOT and i dont know what to do about it, should i call him, see him? i am in a very serious realtionship with the love of my life and i don't want to do anything to hurt that, but i just cant get him out of my head, and wonder "what if" what if me and Codi were to get together? Just all these things. Me and jeremy have been together for the better part of 3 years and we love each other more than anything... BUT! i really liked this guy and i honestly saw a future with him... i just don't know what to do. Should i call him, ask to see him, hang out with him... i would tell jeremy if i do, i don't want to lie to him or hurt him. Okay well that's it... any advice would be great.
I think it's normal to have "what ifs," but I think that it could put you in a bad position to break off a relationship you like for a "what if." It doesn't mean you can't go for it, obviously, but you may have changed in the time apart. I feel that honesty is important and that though you don't need to tell your current partner everything, letting him know that you're going to see other people (or at least hang out with, etc) is really important because if it's a committed relationship that is it would hurt him.
Only you know what's best for you, but I'd really suggest persuing nothing more than a friendship with him at least at first.
i called jeremy and talked to him about it, i can't stand to even have thoughts about another guy. I love Jeremy SOOO much i would do anything for him. but i can't get codi out of my head. I don't know if it hurt jeremy or not telling him, but it helped me a little. Atleadt he knows. I don't think i would ever leave jeremy for anyone...but it's the thoughts that are driving me crazy!
Just two weeks ago I was going through the same thing.
Should I see my ex? Should I not?
Well. I went against the advice of quit a few people and went on an outting to the mall with him. It was horrible. I had no idea what I was thinking.
My advice? If you are happy with what you have now, don't risk anything. Just tell though haunting thoughts of "what if" to go away.