I'm so horny. I need sex and he's the only guy I've had sex with. Honestly, I don't want to have sex with anyone else. I just want him back.
I don't want to tell him I want him back just to have sex. What should I do?
I don't really know how to respond to this. Yes, being lonely sucks. But, sometimes it's somethign we have to go through.
When I broke it off with bd, a month before I was due, 2 weeks before our wedding, I went through a TON of lonelyness. I wanted him back, I wanted just to fuck, I wanted him just to lay in bed with, to wrap his arms around me and hold me tight just the way that he knew how to.
And, you know, I learned that lonlyness is an emotion that I had never let myself experience. So, I did, I was lonely until I didn't feel it any more.
And, you know, I think that having "just sex" with someone who you used to have a close connection with can get really messy really quickly. Seriously, as the other women have said, I would just get yourself off and allow yourself to experience the emotions you're experiencing without acting on them.
yeah, i don't really think that sex could ever be "just sex" with the father of my child, regardless of whether or not we were together, or even whether or not i liked him.
i agree with the above 2 posts. Me and BD have broken up a few times in the past and we didn't want to have sex with anyone else so we decided to continue to have sex with each other, it NEVER worked someone always gets hurt in the end and you could never move on if you are still sleeping with your ex.
as someone who has occasionally, and even frequently slept with the father of my kid, DON'T DO IT. It fucks the whole dynamic of your relationship up, you are telling him you want him but you don't want him?! It makes things so much more confusing.
If you're really in need of sex you can find a nice, safe, casual partner i'm sure, and whoever said 'get a vibrator' um YES. get a good one with the spinny shaft and beads inside and clit stimulation. Get the fucking works and spend a ton of cash on it so you know it won't ever let you down.
and yeah, BE lonely. Being lonely is okay, you won't always be lonely, and once the stink of lonliness and desparation wears off, people will find you so much more attractive.
Keep reminding yourself that you ARE worthy of love and affection, on YOUR terms, that's the one thing i have to keep doing, every day, because being lonely can be really harsh on your self-esteem.
I understand where youre coming from 100%. When I broke up with BD I still wanted his dick, like ONLY his. It sucked and then I told him flat out I thought we should still fuck and he took me up on it. It was.......cold? He didnt touch me the same, didnt hold me afterward, no nice words, nothing really but "just sex". Unfortunately when we're with someone we begin to view the sex aspect in a different manner, more intimate/affectionate and when we're not with that person anymore we **think** that its the sex we want, that itll be the same, and you really dont want it with anyone else. But in reality its just sex when youre not an "us" anymore and youre looking for the comfort that wont be there. This is a normal part of getting over a relationship. Masturbation and loneliness is quite healthy in healing!!!!
My ex boyfriend of two years and I are just having sex. HAH! Yeah right. So we aren't boyfriend and girlfriend which was the point of breaking up but he calls me 2-3 times a day and calls me say goodnight. We compain to each other, celebrate with each other, snuggle, kiss, hold hands... it can never be just sex once you have a real relationship with someone. I was supposed to be just having sex...
Me and my BD broke up about 3 months ago and to be honest I have thought the same thing over and over. I wanted sex so bad and with him it just felt right and comfortable. Then I had to think of why we werent together anymore and that bringing up those emotions would hurt the progress I have made in trying to get over him. Its true, lonliness is an emotion you have to experience and overcome and its such a bumpy road. Just be thankful there are alot of new ways to pleasure yourself without him...
get a vibrator.
ha. perfect.
get some porn and have a fiddle , go out and met someone else, go to a sex shop.
But I want him
I don't really know how to respond to this. Yes, being lonely sucks. But, sometimes it's somethign we have to go through.
When I broke it off with bd, a month before I was due, 2 weeks before our wedding, I went through a TON of lonelyness. I wanted him back, I wanted just to fuck, I wanted him just to lay in bed with, to wrap his arms around me and hold me tight just the way that he knew how to.
And, you know, I learned that lonlyness is an emotion that I had never let myself experience. So, I did, I was lonely until I didn't feel it any more.
And, you know, I think that having "just sex" with someone who you used to have a close connection with can get really messy really quickly. Seriously, as the other women have said, I would just get yourself off and allow yourself to experience the emotions you're experiencing without acting on them.
yeah, i don't really think that sex could ever be "just sex" with the father of my child, regardless of whether or not we were together, or even whether or not i liked him.
Beleive me "just sex" turns into a lot more. There is almost no way to have a strong connection then go to just having sex with them.
i agree with the above 2 posts. Me and BD have broken up a few times in the past and we didn't want to have sex with anyone else so we decided to continue to have sex with each other, it NEVER worked someone always gets hurt in the end and you could never move on if you are still sleeping with your ex.
as someone who has occasionally, and even frequently slept with the father of my kid, DON'T DO IT. It fucks the whole dynamic of your relationship up, you are telling him you want him but you don't want him?! It makes things so much more confusing.
If you're really in need of sex you can find a nice, safe, casual partner i'm sure, and whoever said 'get a vibrator' um YES. get a good one with the spinny shaft and beads inside and clit stimulation. Get the fucking works and spend a ton of cash on it so you know it won't ever let you down.
and yeah, BE lonely. Being lonely is okay, you won't always be lonely, and once the stink of lonliness and desparation wears off, people will find you so much more attractive.
Keep reminding yourself that you ARE worthy of love and affection, on YOUR terms, that's the one thing i have to keep doing, every day, because being lonely can be really harsh on your self-esteem.
My BD and I started out as "just sex"...that lasted for about a week.
I couldnt imagine breaking up with him, and just "having sex" now. Too many feelings involved.
I also know someone whose been "just having sex" for like 2 years. Its one of the most screwed up relationships ive seen.
I understand where youre coming from 100%. When I broke up with BD I still wanted his dick, like ONLY his. It sucked and then I told him flat out I thought we should still fuck and he took me up on it. It was.......cold? He didnt touch me the same, didnt hold me afterward, no nice words, nothing really but "just sex". Unfortunately when we're with someone we begin to view the sex aspect in a different manner, more intimate/affectionate and when we're not with that person anymore we **think** that its the sex we want, that itll be the same, and you really dont want it with anyone else. But in reality its just sex when youre not an "us" anymore and youre looking for the comfort that wont be there. This is a normal part of getting over a relationship. Masturbation and loneliness is quite healthy in healing!!!!
My ex boyfriend of two years and I are just having sex. HAH! Yeah right. So we aren't boyfriend and girlfriend which was the point of breaking up but he calls me 2-3 times a day and calls me say goodnight. We compain to each other, celebrate with each other, snuggle, kiss, hold hands... it can never be just sex once you have a real relationship with someone. I was supposed to be just having sex...
Me and my BD broke up about 3 months ago and to be honest I have thought the same thing over and over. I wanted sex so bad and with him it just felt right and comfortable. Then I had to think of why we werent together anymore and that bringing up those emotions would hurt the progress I have made in trying to get over him. Its true, lonliness is an emotion you have to experience and overcome and its such a bumpy road. Just be thankful there are alot of new ways to pleasure yourself without him...