someone help

A LOT of children grow up without their biological dads, any dad sometimes, and they turn out great. Fighting in front of any age child can be damaging to their inner security and emotional needs. If youre not happy its going to reflect in everything you do. YOU need to be happy. LEAVE. Forget what anyone says about your child needing its father, your child needs a happy mommy, and you need to be happy.

Have you tried to talk to your mom about why she left your dad? Maybe it was a similar situation, and she was really unhappy.

You don't have to be with your bd. Every adult I have talked to who's parents stayed together "for the sake of the kids" wishs their parents had split up. You desurve to be happy (just like your mom does).
Your kids deserves to grow up in an enviornment that is safe - physically, emotionally, and mentally and if there's a lot of screaming and fighting in the home it doesn't sound emotionially or mentally safe. Plus, you want your kid to grow up and see what respectful relaitionships look like. You need to model that for your kid.
I think that her dad can be fully involved in her life, even if you two aren't together.
I left my kids dad when I was 8 months pregnant, and it was the best decision I have ever made. I finally was happy, and now I am in a better place in my life than I would ever be if I were with him.
Good luck, mama, and remember thatyou deserve to be in a happy, healthy relationship. And, your daughter needs you to be in a happy, healthy relationship (or no relationship), more than to have her parents together.

Well, If you're not happy you two should end it. But just because you 2 end the relatioship doesn't mean he can't be there for your daughter. You should't be in an unhappy relationship. Do what you think is best.

I agree with what the others have posted. I think that ultimately your own happiness will be reflected in the way that you are around your daughter, and so losing the negativity created by your fighting with your boyfriend can only be a good thing. You will end up with a calmer, happier environment for her to grow up in.

You didn't make it clear in your post, but it's not like if you choose to end the relationship, she will no longer have a father...if he wants to continue to be there for her, then he will be. I think the best choice for both of you is the one that makes you happy.

i was with my bd for 5 years when i got pregnant and the relationship was sort of going down hill for a while but i chose to keep my son. when he was born we did not really fight but after i recouperated from the after birth it was right back to fighting. we would fight about everything and sometimes it would get physical and as a result now everytime you raise your voice around my 1 year old he starts to cry. i really hate my self for that. i finally left his father about 6 months ago and it was the best thing i could do not really for me but for my baby. it really is not healthy to fight in front of the baby and it really does effect him/her. i also think that if your boyfriend tries to kill himself knowing he has a baby that needs him then he should not be in her life at all.

You are NOT responsible for his emotional well being. He is a capable person, and if he wants to get help, he is capable of picking up the phone and calling someone for help.
It is NOT your job to take care of his mental health, that is his job -- he is an adult and therefor must be allowed to be an adult.
Do not let his depression stand in the way of your happieness. If he says he is going to kill himself if you leave, then he is using his mental health to manipulate you, and that is mental abuse.

well i know how you feel. im staying for my daughter but it really gets bad. im about to leave him. if you think it will get better and you can work things out than i would say stay but if you 2 are always going to argu and you know it wont get better than it will mess you childs life up more than you leaving him.

I heard a quote once and it kinda fits this situation, a childs needs are best met by a parent whos needs are met. If you are unhappy you child will pick up on that, and you wont be able to be as good of a parent to your child if you are constantly in a state of uneasiness and unhappiness. If he is responsible enough, you can set up visitation but you shouldn't have to sacrifice your happiness for the sake of your child.

So sorry you have to go through this, but know that you are not alone. All of the supportive replies are a testament tto that! You are better off leaving at this point in time as opposed to wainting until your child is older and more attached to your partner. My bd left me when I was 8 mos pregnant and I had to move in with my mom since I'd quit work and could no longer afford the appartment we shared (even though I paid most of the rent!) We got back together briefly after my son was born, but I finally ended it when I saw that he was never going to change. My son was 5 mos old. Since we never really lived together after the baby was born, and my son did not see him regularily enough to grow attached, he really did not miss him when he was gone. I have a friend who went to high school w/me and lived with her bd until her daughter was two, and when she left it was a lot harder for her child since she had really bonded with her father and did not understand why he left. Sounds like you're better off without him, and your daughter will be too, although others might try to tell you otherwise. (I've heard of parents "staying together for the child[ren], but it isn't healthy if the relationship is mostly negative.) I've always found a lot of support at Girl Mom, and it's a real comfort to know that you aren't the only one who is dealing with these issues. Take care of yourself and your daughter!