i am scared to death.... i am pregnant now and i was drug tested at my doctors today. i dont think it will come up clean.... i am not even 3 months pregnant, and i have been around smoke and taken a few hits (weed), and i know yes its wrong and im horrible and everything, but what i want to know is what will happen??? i live in rhode island. i dont want my family knowing, but what will they do to me if its positive?? can they take my baby away?? if it is positive it will be the last time and every other test including if they test me and the baby at birth will be negative. i am not going to take any further risks of something going wrong in my pregnancy or any more chances of making this situation worse. i am so ashamed and i feel awful. i never should have taken even a single hit because now look what happened... i am terrified my doctor will report me and i will be seen as a drug addict or they will try to take my kid or put me away or something. im not saying it was ok to take a few hits while pregnant, but i really want my baby and i dont want to be in trouble with the law and im never doing it again.... do u think if every other test is negative that they can still punish me somehow??? what should i do and could i lose my baby? what do you think will happen to me???? i cant eat or sleep or anything and i cant talk to my parents either they would be so heartbroken and probably kick me out since im such a fuck up. i feel so horrible right now... i am so upset and mad at myself... you probably think i deserve whatever happens to me (sometimes i do 2 ) but i just hate myself and i really really really regret it and i am so scared about what will happen to me if i am reported because i want this baby and i am so exited, i read everything i can on pregnancy, parenting , ect. i am working extra and saving my money and all that and i know how bad it was of me to do that and i wish i could take it back but i cant. :( :( i feel like the worst person in the world right now.
ok i feel really ashamed to admitt all of that and i know i am bad and probably dont deserve my child but i am just looking for like if anyone knows what could happen to me because of the drug test that is most likely gonna be positive....... i feel like im gonna be judged so badly, and i know i deserve it but im so sad right now i wish i could take it back and that the test will be negative.... i have tried so hard to take care of myself so far (eating right,, vitamins, exercise, extra sleep, ect) and it was wrong of me to smoke even if it was only a few hits or whatever..... i cant even say how i feel really because its a mix of hating myself for screwing up so bad to really wanting my baby and hoping that im not in trouble with the law or the state or something. i feel like a failure already and my kid isnt even here yet.
It seems a little funny to me that they would drug test you!!! I really dont think its any of your doctors buisness at this point, because whats done is done. Marajuana stays in your system for a long time, and I dont know if there is a way they can prove you smoked it before you knew you were pregnant. If they took babies away from everyone that smoked weed, then...hell, i wouldnt have mine living with me today, and neitehr would a large portion of the population. Honestly, I wouldnt worry to much about it.
Why did they drug test you?? This was your doctor, its none of your doctors buisness, unless he sees a huge risk..Did he give you the choice to refuse it? Im sorry I have soo many questions, it just seems like your rights were violated....but maybe I am wrong.
Did your doctor tell you why they were doing a drug test? Is it routine for all pregnant woman?
I don't recall having a drug test when I was pregnant, unless they did one as part of the many blood tests I had and I wasn't told.
I don't know if they test can show how long it's been in your system, but I would say you smoked before you found out you were pregnant and have since stopped.
I don't know a lot about drug testing and what they do about positive results, but I hope everything turns out okay.
well they asked me if i smoked or did drugs and i said yes before i knew i was pregnant, or before i was pregnant, something like that. then the lady was like well we are going to be drug testing you now and we are required to report it to the state if its positive, it is better that we do it now than wait until the baby is born. i said i couldnt go and i left after they took my blood. i went today and as soon as i got there i had to do a urine sample and when i met with my doctor she said they would be drug testing me for me and the babies good or something to that effect. she made it seem like the testing would be more than once, but i am not sure. so i really hope that if they report me i wont have to do any more testing or like a rehab or something because it was a tiny tiny bit of weed!!!!!! plus as you guys said, weed stays in the system for a long time. i am 11 weeks pregnant and did smoke very often before becoming pregnant, so i think i might just act shocked when they say its positive and say well it must be still traceable from before, which it very well could be... or else admit to being around smoke... i dont know but i am so scared that they are going to get the state or dcyf or social services whoever they call involved and i will be tested again and again and "watched over"... i mean from now on i wont even go near someone smoking or smoke but im so scared still. also i believe that you can refuse but they sort of pushed me around, like didnt give me an option of refusing they said its required and they are also required to notify social or child services or something like that if its positive!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
It is better that they did it now, not when the babyw as born.
Chances are you will be charged and sentenced to take NA classes, if you go to each class and pay your fines, you should be fine by the time the baby is born.
The most important thing you can do is cooperate.
Ugh. I can understand why they do it and refusing would probably make them more suspicious and more determined to test you.
I'd suggest going along with whatever they make you do. Seeming totally cooperative will probably make them less suspicious and continue staying a way from smoke throughout your pregnancy.
If they do keep testing, they should see the levels going down over time and that will prove you're not smoking anymore.
I don't think your baby will be taken away if your test results show that you're not smoking anymore. You might still be hassled by social services, but as long as you continue to avoid smoke, they'd have no grounds to remove your child from you.
would that be on my record like as a crime? could i keep it a secret somehow because i dont want anyone knowing like my family and stuff. i know it was wrong of me but i think that is kind of an extreme punishment for weed and also, even if i didnt take those few hits i would still test positive im almost sure because i have been smoking heavily for 2 years. ranging from once a week to every day, up until the day i found out.
Your exact charges will depend on state laws.
From my knowledge, you will probably be charged with a misdemeanor, it wouldnt be a felony unless you were caught dealing, or with a huge amount ON YOU.
Typically, if you are sentenced to take drug classes, it will be dropped from your criminal record.
If you're over 18, you don't HAVE to tell your parents, but if you decide to get a lawyer (probably not necessary for a midemeanor charge at this point, but always good to talk to one if you're unsure) or if you're taking classes, they will probably find out.
As upsetting as all this must be, you need to forget the details and focus on keeping your baby. Luckily, you have plenty of time to work it out before the baby is born.
I just wanted to address this.
You are not a fuck up at all! Noone here is going to think that you deserve whatever happens to you. You don't need to beat up on yourself like that, this is a safe space for you.
I've never experienced morning sickness, but I know that more than a few women suffer extremely, and the only thing that helps them is to smoke some weed.
It isn't really recommended during pregnancy, but it's not a horrible thing to do if you need it ( whether to be able to hold down food, or to chill out after a stressful encounter, or for pain... ).
It's great that you recognize that it is a risk for YOU, and you seem to be motivated to stay clean.
You should just know that people here won't judge you based on YOUR decisions regarding YOUR pregnancy.
On that note, I really hope your situation works itself out!!
I tested positive for weed when I was 2 months pregnant because I smoked before I knew. The hospital did not take my baby from me or report me to CPS or anything. My doctor lectured me and she did not check my blood for weed ( at least I don't think so) after that. I didn't smoke anymore and my daughter was born healthy and beautiful. Don't feel bad. I don't know the laws in your state but in Cali nothing happened to me for testing positive.
i doubt there going to do anything too harsh. weed has some effects on the baby, but minimul. i think they'd be more worried about something more hardcore then pot. on a piss test, pot stays in your system and can show up 30 days after you smoke. if they take a hair folical test, then can tell when you smoked and how much you smoked. i doubt there going to go that far in dept. smoking pot doesn't make you a horrible person. whether you new you were pregnant or not. they "say" its not addicting, but there's times i get around and still have the craving for it (and mind you i haven't smoked in 3 years, and i smoked on and off for only 6 months) a slip up doesn't deem you a horrible mother already. From the way you sound, you won't be doing it agian. they can't tell you family anything. its the doctor patient privliage. In california, as soon as you pregnant your parents can't find out anything, and the moment you hit 7 months, you known as an adult int he medical world. Don't stress out too much about it. Too much stress and stain on your body does more harm for your baby. Keep us updated, i have a feeling everything will be fine.
ok my doctor called me today and told me what i figured. i tested postive for marijuana. i will be "randomly tested" and i should try to completely quit because it isn't good for the baby, its worse than cigarettes. those were her words. and she didnt say anything about reporting me so i am not sure if she did. well hopefully everything will be fine from now on and now i know i definately cannot smoke bc of getting tested. i mean i feel guilty smoking anyway, but now its a sure thing i cant. hopefully nothing else will happen and she didnt report me .
Here, CPS doesn't really care about pot. A positive screen means a report is made and CPS basically says, "Oh."
You are not a horrible person. Personally, I don't think pot should be illegal, but that's another issue. Everybody does things that are not ideal when they're pregnant. I ate at McDonald's and never gave up my caffeine habit, either. I didn't exercise enough and I often forgot my prenatals. It's okay. Please take care of yourself and be gentle!
It sounds like things will be okay
my neighbor is 32 weeks pregnant and she didnt find out she was pg until she was like 4 months along and during the time she didnt know she was smoking alot of weed and drinking :( and her doctors know and WIC knows and she gets to keep her baby they just make her feel bad about it alot...but ya never know stuff like this varys from state to state
Does anybody know the laws i in Portland Oregon??? I have 2 teenage children and smoked the entire time. They are happy and healthy!!! Smoking weed was the only way i survived the morning sickness and back pain let alone the depression and nerves that go along with pregnancy. I am now 8 montha pregnant and have been honest with my doc about my views. They mentioned they found THC in the begining and took blood @ the hospital a few weeks ago because I tried to quit but I weas so sick and the Meds they gave me were so much worse and the side effects where worse than a couple hits of weed. I firmly belive its good for the baby!!! I had 2 children that are a students never any problems that were both over 9lbs. I am a great mother dont smoke or drink and resent the fact my baby could be taken away over my choice!!! Seriously does anyone know if its leagal. I am quitting until she is born just in case but I only have 36 days till I am due>>>>>I dont even want to have her @ any hospitial now!!!! Me and my baby r happy and healthy then y should there b a problem???? I'm Scared now!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
You're not a bad person. Don't worry. And I don't think you can get in legal trouble for the drug being IN your body; the cops have to find it ON your person and to have had probable cause to search you in the first place.
if you test postive AND something happens that could be a result of yr using (premature labor for example), THEN it is mandated to report to CPS by yr health care workers. even if the premature labor turns out not to be related to yr using, its mandated to report. CPS investigages & then decides what the situation is.
drugs aren't good for fetus/baby. weed is a drug. it impacts how neurons/nerves work. also, if you smoke weed, just like smoking cigarettes, it leads to an increased risk of asthma, bronchitis, allergies in yr kids.
depression usually doesn't get better with weed in general. it actually generally makes it worse for most people.
just like there are lots of people who drive while drunk, and live to talk, its not a good idea to use weed during yr pregnancy. its risky. your kids are healthy? you were lucky!
if you think yr depressed, i'd recomend talking with a doc or nusre.
Jinxx,
Weed is not good for your baby. I dont know about the USA, but I know in Canada if your baby is born strung out, its automatically reported to CPS. It probably wouldnt be a good idea to quit now because you dont have much to go, but I would find out the laws in your area and see what will happen. Just because your two other kids "seem" to be fine, doesnt mean they are. Drinking/Drugs during pregnancy is strongly recommended against for a good reason. Doctors go to school for a long time and know what they are talking about when they tell you (esp. during pregnancy) to stay away from any type of drug/alcohol (yes i know they used to recommend beer)
I just wanted to point another thing out, your pregnant for 40 weeks.. out of your life, what you do in that 40 weeks will effect your bub for the rest of their life.. is that really fair? so because you decided to get high during your pregnancy, ur bub suffers the consequences forever?? i dunno it was just food for thought, and no that last comment wasnt directed at anyone in specific
what would need to happen for them to do a meconium screen? and if you smoked occasionally ( a few times a month at most) until 21 weeks could a meconium screen be positive?? could your baby be taken away??? i live in rhode island.
In theory, a mec screen could be positive at birth even if you quit @ 21 weeks, but it would depend on how much you smoked and how much THC was in your fat cells to be released. Also, if you burned fat for energy in pregnancy (i.e., didn't gain much weight) it would be more likely to be positive.
Here, all babies of moms with positive tox screens in pregnancy get meconium and urine screens at birth. positive ones are reported to CPS, who as I said before doesn't care about THC (though this is Washington). I don't know what the guidelines are for your state.
Apparently this is an issue that varies very much state to state. To the best of my knowledge, I have never been drug tested as part of my prenatal care and I know for certain that my son and I were not drug tested when he was born. And with my first son I did admit to using drugs prior to pregnancy at my intitial intake. While I dont advocate marijuana use during pregnancy, I do have to agree with the PP that it is a very effective treatment for severe nausea/vomiting (I had hypermeisis gravidarum my entire pregnancy w/ my son). I would think that if I has been drug tested, I would have been informed since I'm certain I would have tested positive for marijuana.