What do I do with him?
He just turned 4, and is really making me angry. He is continually defiant, and goes out of his way to make me upset.
Ive tried it all. Time outs, telling him his actions make me mad/sad/angry/hurt/upset, rewarding good behaviour, yelling, taking toys away, distracting...EVERYTHING.
I dont know what to do. He will do things like say " I want to hurt the baby", OR "I want to kill the baby". He tells me he dosnt like me. He spits. He dosn't listen to anything I say, no matter how many times I say it. He wont play with his toys, and occupies most of his time following me around, saying things that are mean, making obnoxious noises, and sticking out his tounge. Its very rare that I enjoy my time spent with him, because he just acts mean, and out of control.
I dont know what to do. He is actually a very smart kid...he can focus on a task for well over an hour, he can read, write, do simple math ect. He has many traits that identify with being gifted, which in itself, is a whole mess of different special needs.
Im at my wits end with him, though.