So, I got a letter in the mail the other day from the Department of Human Services Office of Child Support telling me I HAVE to call them and tell them the where abouts of BD. If they don't get this information, they will take my Medicaid away from me and my son. The thing is, I don't know where he is. And the minimal info they need to locate him, I sadly do not know either. I know his full name (his middle name I'm unsure of), but I do not know his current address or his day of birth, but I know it's in June sometime. I have a deadline for this information and I'm stuck. What if I try and try and cannot get this info? I could care less about myself. I'm just so scared my son won't have health insurance. And if I had the money to pay all his doctor bills out of pocket, I would... but I don't. I did not know BD long enough to actually remember all his info word by word.
I drove past his house today to get his address, but last I heard he has moved out. His grandma still lives there tho, so I'm sure if something gets sent there for him she'll give it to him.
How the hell is a girl supposed to do it now days? What if a girl didn't even know the name of their childs father by chance, or any of his info... would she have to struggle paying doctor bills on her own? I mean, I understand someone has to pay these medical bills back, but it's just hard when it seems like BD has disappeared off the face of the earth and you don't know much about him. I just don't know what to do.
Has anyone else experienced this, or have any advice? Thanks
just give them all you know... you cant do any more than that.
im sorry your dealing with this
ok so i know a little about this, where do you live? ok first off. you tell them as much as you know. for me i told them i had no idea who the father was. however there was a form i could sign saying i was either afraid of the absent parent, or had a restraining order against him. also i know for my state, i saw a little pamphelete saying that if i dont report my bd to childsupport, i could lose services, however they will never take away services to my child, ie medicaid for such dishonesty. they try to scare you, not because they want you to get child support so you can be better off, but the more child support you get , the higher your income, the higher your income the less services they have to provide you. its all a scam. ( sorry im a little heated with defacs right now) but give them all you know, you arent responsible for if or when they find him. you could say " sam, a guy i met at a party" they cant do anything to you and if you tell them anything, they have to take your word for it, they cant say " oh you know more than your telling us , we are going to cut you off" i told them i didnt know anything and they left it at that. i would try to get child support if i were you, but i wouldnt stress over losing your services, they act real harsh about it, but go ahead tell them as much as you know, they cant deny you if they never find him.
For your first question, I live in Michigan.
Second, I did tell her as much as I knew, and she STILL told me I MUST find out more information, because what I gave her didn't come up in her system.
Also, what I didn't mention in my original post, is that my child already HAS a father. My boyfriend has been with me throughout almost the entire pregnancy, he was there for the birth, and now he is raising him as his own. My boyfriend absolutly does not want my sons real father in his life at all, he even said he would pay 300 hundred dollars a month just for medical coverage for my son just to keep BD out of our lives. I wish it was all that easy though. We are both unemployed at the moment, and the deadline is Jan. 11th, so his plans look a little hazy.
I wish, too, that BD didn't have to be involved. In my eyes, he is not really fit to take care of a 2 month old, and the thought of letting my little baby go with him back to Detroit somewhere with the negative people he hangs out with, drinking, smoking weed and all that stuff scares the shit out of me. Who knows what could happen to him.
Hopefully everything will work out...
btw a man not interested in paying child support sure as hell isnt going to come back to change diapers. so dont go worring about him coming back into your lives. second. give her more information. make the shit up. ive never heard of that bullshit. jonny brasco. 1600 cherry tree lane. what can they do? plus try out of state. that keeps em busy longer. sorry if this sounds dishonest or seem over complicated. i dont know why they would tell you that you gave them not enough info.( this is why i tell people to absolutely always insist they dont know jack about bd. cause its always a fucking hassle, another way the system tries to take away from women) maybe if you could give them a last know address. or a school you thought he went to. did he ever have a job that you know of? they can contact a last known employer for a social security number.
did you tell them you know where his grandma lives? Maybe they could send her something and she would cooperate.
Well, I'm gonna call them back tomorrow and tell them his grandmas info, because I just recently got it (after I had first talked to them). Hopefully that will settle things cuz this a big pain in the ass that I hate dealing with.
I don't know a lot about this but I agree with the above posters. I don't think there is any state where they can deny benefits b/c you can't find/don't know the father.