So as I've said in past posts I was Close to my older brother who recently passed away.
I Protected him from girls I knew would hurt him for so long, he was shy and not confident he believed that girls were above him so I always tried to protect him from a broken heart. So when he met Danielle through a friend I was suspicious but I just kind of watched from a distance to make sure everything was ok and it seemed great she was amazing to him but sometimes she was just unreachable, it seemed weird. I thought she was cheating on him but at 15 she was in school! Now he was 19 and she had said she was 18 so no one thought anything of it. I don't have a problem with age differences in relationships. Who am I to judge anyone on their age? But we found out she was 15 and she'd been lying for 5 months. He loved her so he moved past that. about 3 months after that she broke up with him and shortly after that claimed he had hit her and all kinds of things like that. and Honestly I can guarantee that he would NEVER do that EVER he's just not that type of person. So after talking to the police and her having no witnesses and the police questioning her story she admitted it wasn't true. It absolutely broke his heart to have trusted and loved her so much and then her do that to him. I was completely enraged by her actions and vowed never to speak to her again because if I did all tihs anger would come out and I'm aggressive and I do have anger problems sometimes so I just decided staying away would be best.
Now 2 years later Danielle is 17 and she phoned and wanted to wish me happy birthday and she wants to be friends, I still hold a Huge Grudge against her for all the shit she pulled, because at that point he was sick with leukemia and she was what kept him going and then she does that? some days I thought he was going to give up but he never did he fought until the last moment. But do I really wanna be friends with her? I don't know if I could ever trust her. But I don't want to hold something she did 2 years ago against her maybe she's changed?
What do you ladies think?
i dont know,people change i guess.but if i were in ur shoes,i wouldnt try and make a friendship.wuts the point?wut i believe is once a liar always a liar.ok i do agree some people change but some dont...unless youd want to risk it but she doesnt seem worthwhile.maybe just being polite would be cool,but i wouldnt go all buddy buddy with her
I'm sorry for your hurt. It must be horrible to lose a close brother.
But, i don't think it was Danielle's repsonsbility to "keep him going" while he was sick, nor your responsibility to "protect him" from girls you thought may hurt him. She should not have made a false police report, that was outright vicious, maybe you can discuss this with her. Ask her what happened, why she thought that was OK. Alot of people make stupid mistakes, alot of people get emotional, and alot of relationships don't work out.
she's a little older now, a little more mature and maybe she wants to be there for you because she understands your pain. Maybe she was afraid to be in love with someone who was dying. I think you hsould talk to her, but be clear- let her know you and your brother were hurt by her. If she shows no remorse, it's porbably not worth it.
I didn't mean it like it was her responsibility to keep him going I just meant that she meant a lot to him and when she did the things she did It hurt him a lot. I also know it wasn't my responsibility to protect him but he was so fragile being sick and his heart had been broken way too many times... I'm sure all mama's can understand wanting to protect the person who really means most to you.
I can't begin to fathom how hurt and conflicted you must feel. I lost my best friend last may and when he died it hurt so much. It hurt even more when I talked to his mother because I felt as if I hurt him so much, that I could have saved his life, but didn't and that she must hate me. I really feel that you should at least give her a chance. We all make mistakes and do things that we regret. I'm betting she's feeling really guilty about all the things in the past and wants to be friends with you so that you can help her come to terms with the some of the guilt she has. I would talk to her about it, maybe just casually mention it and if she has no remorse then sever the relationship. If she has guilt, then try to understand her and maybe when things progress you can try to forgive her. I don't know if this is good advice or bad advice, but I give you my sincerest sympathy.