I have a couple of younge friends, who although they are very low income, spend extra money on expensive baby clothes. They do this becuase they like to put on up the appearance that they're well off, and that they're doing well with there kids (not that they aren't). One of my friends is constantly worried someone is going to call her on her age (18) and get her baby taken away from her. Really she doubts herself more than anyone around her would. I've told her a million times that that'll never happen, that she's a great mom, and age doesn't matter. But she's constantly making sure her baby is prefect looking in matching outfits etc. She's ultra-paranoid.
My other friend who does this, does it basically beucase she grew up poor and didn't get squat as a kid. She wants better for her kid. She thinks giving her baby the brand-names is giving it better, and kind of makes me feel like my kid gets less becuase I try to get a lot of his things second hand.
I've told these girls all about second hand, and how you can find perefectly good stuff there, and have money for other important things.
Will any of you ladies admit to buy expensive/new clothes just to make yourself feel better when someone gives you a nasty stare? Do you think, if you put up the "right" appearance, than people will think good things about your mothering abilities? I think it's a terrible waste of these girls limited resources and too bad they feel they need to be like that. I Wish I could help them to see that your parenting abilities are not based on how or what you put your kid in, as long as it's adequate.