Why do you cry so much?

I could have almost written this post word for word. The only exception for me is if I'm extremely frustrated by something.

I think the last time something real that was sad made me cry was back in 1996, the first time a friend my age died. Since then friends and family have died, I've given birth to two kids, and SO had to go to Florida for a year and I never cried over any of it. I was sad, miserable at times, but I can never actually cry over any of it and it makes me feel like...I'm cut off from my emotions or something.

for me i think i am just super sensitive to certain issues. most things don't really make me cry or want to cry but there are some things that I just can't help. Are there things in life you want to cry over but can't??? Are you having the same non emotional response as Xie???

I don't cry a lot; I used to never cry at all. For many years, beginning, I believe, with my estrangement from my family at fourteen, the relinquishment of my first son, etc, my feelings were very repressed; I was a very detached person; intellectualized and analyzed everything; felt nothing.
But in the past few years since I've begun to remember and come to terms with these events in my past, I have been able to cry much more easily, and sometimes unable to control it.
I lost contact with my father after I left home; although we lived in the same city and although I always knew where he was, I didn't have the courage to contact him and we didn't speak to each other for nearly a decade. We are back in contact now. We have begun to rebuild our relationship over the past few years. Although we do not talk about the past (we mostly only talk about neutral things like politics or the weather or movies or our jobs or whatever, not personal things), almost anything having to do with him causes me to be quite emotional. I often end up crying when I'm around him. Even if he isn't trying to make me cry. Even if he just tells a joke, I'll start laughing and end up crying. If he puts his arm around my shoulder or gives me a hug, my eyes immediately tear up. I've just missed him so much all these years, and I've repressed my feelings about that because not having him in my life was almost too painful to live with. And now that he's back in my life, this sadness is very close to the surface all the time. I think, if and when I reunite with my birthson, it will be the same way. Because I had to shove those feelings down in order to survive and function in life, but they're still there. There has been no closure, the trauma has never been dealt with effectively. The emotions are there, just waiting to be released like a floodgate. :? It's kinda scary to think about. It seems safer not to deal with such intense, dangerous emotions, but I know I'll have to someday.
So anyway, I cry a lot now, especially when I'm around my dad. It's kind of embarrassing not to have good control of my emotions, but it's also good in a way, because being able to cry is helping me heal. It makes me emotionally healthier. It makes me feel better. It makes me feel; and I wasn't able to feel anything at all, good or bad, for many years.
Although sad movies sometimes make me cry, that's different... it's like a drippy, sentimental sort of crying. Cheap thrills, emotionally speaking. It doesn't really touch the heart of me or tap into my real emotions.
I don't cry a lot about posts I read on this forum, or any other forum; although I care about the people here, and about all my internet friends, their problems do not usually touch me in an intensely personal way. Although one did, and that is Avery. I have cried about her situation, although my tears do not help her at all and are an insult to her, actually, considering the strength and gallantry and grace and courageous good cheer with which she's handling these horrendous curveballs life keeps throwing at her. She deserves strength and support from those who care about her, not whiny-ass sniveling. Avery is one tough mama, IMO. She's an inspiration.

Im a crier!! I cry a LOT when im frustrated! It makes me feel better!

I cry when frustrated and fed up.

I cry all the time I dont know any other way to let my feelings out when I just sit and cry about what is bothering me I feel alot better I think its just what some of us do, crying does help me feel better about whats happening in my life

I think my secret is depression.

Yeah, I cry at everything when my medicine runs out. I also cry at sad parts of films, if I feel like I relate to it. I cried like a baby at the end of Big Fish, and at the end of Brokedown Palace. I cry at the end of The English Patient (my favourite film) every single time I watch it. I cried at Donnie Darko, and was depressed for about two days after I saw it. I cried at the last episode of SATC, but not at the last episode of Friends (although I was prepared to, and I was thus disappointed).

I like to cry at films. It's cathartic for me.

When I was in high school, I cried at the end of The Cosby Show, and I cried when they graduated from high school in 90210. I sobbing about halfway through Legends of the Fall, and could not stop.

Yes, I'm really cool, I know. :roll:

I've been looking for volunteer opportunities online and last night I came across the California foster parent site and it had this giant thing about how kids older than 5 or siblings really need adoptive parents because evryone just wants a baby. I cried hystericaly, taking big gulps of air.
I was trying to find something to do with my time that would make me feel good about myself and I end up like this?
Ugh, my heart bleeds too much.

Have you considering volunteering with the Big Sister program or some other mentoring program?
I agree it totally sucks about foster kids; the whole foster care system needs a lot of work. :?

My secrets to crying are frustration, PTSD, depression, being fed up with everything, stress..... I have been uber sensitive all my life. I've always cried atleast once a week. I guess I feel a little bit better after crying..
When you're alone, and can't really communicate emotions verbally, I guess crying can make it (for me anyways) a way to get rid of them.

I was just thinking about that the other day. I think I will look them up.
Thanks!

I am over sensitive, especially now during my pregnancy. I cry over a lot of things. I guess I don't try it just happens. I cry sometimes because I am over joyed.

i cry because im super sensitive,but lately ill just hide it and wont show my tears atleast around my daughters.i used to cry over everything after i had my first and second.one time i saw a car accident and a lady sitting outside her car,and i burst into tears thinking wut if that had been me?or my daughter?i had hoped so much that the lady was ok even though i didnt know her.

I cant remember last time i cried...im pretty sure i was pregnant.. I guess im weird.

heh. I cry when I'm sad, angry and happy and it doesn't take much to open up the floodgates. I dunno my secret, but I know I get it from my mom.

I think crying is a good, healthy, natural way to relieve anger, sadness, stress or frustration. It's not harmful or destructive, like kicking and screaming, breaking things, smoking, drinking, etc.

I cry because I'm sick of everything. I never used to at all, I could take on the world and not cry about it. Over the years though, all the hardships and shit kind of chip away, erode the strength kwim? Now I'm just so pathetically weak with my emotions that if someone hurts me I just can't stop. I'm just so sick of the shit and it's just so much now a buildup of everything and I can't help it.

I cry Way way WAY too much.

I cried like someone had just died when Steve from Blues Clues went to college, and I wasn't even watching it with my kiddo, I was home alone.

I cry a couple times a day, usually. On a good day.

Yeah, I think it's from ignoring my depression for 10 years and not seeking help. i just have alot of sadness I haven't expressed yet and it all comes out at the most inconvenient of times.

I think people can't help but cry when they're writing something they feel very emotional over. Sometimes people relive the experience when they're typing it out; like a rape experience, for example.

I cry because I feel that it is a safe way to let out all of my anger and my frustration. Crying in a way makes me feel like I got some relief out of the whole thing.

Lisa

I used to hardly ever cry, but being pregnant has done a number on my emotions. I find myself crying over the littlest things that other people might see as not emotional...things I should get mad over (fights or whatever) make me cry... I feel better afterwards tho...so its ok