Ok, so this is the deal...
BD and I have been talking about getting married since we were friends and like 16. Before we were together or had our daughter. So, we're aiming for Dec. 8th.... And we'd like to plan a destination wedding. That way we'll get to take a trip, and spend our money on ourselves as opposed to feeding a couple hundred guests we only half know, and feel obligated to invite.
I have my heart set on someplace warm, considering that escaping a Canadian prairie winter has such a nice appeal to it. Italy also appeals to us... But I can't get a straight answer on climate at that time of year in Tuscany.
BD and I can't seem to agree on the location, and we sort of need to get that figured.... So, do any of you know anyone who was married at a destination? Or were you married there yourself??? How was your experience??? Resort names would be awesome!!!!!!!
And if anyone knows what Tuscany is like From Dec 1st to the 14th, that would be awesome too!!!!!!!!!!!
girlmom isn't really the place to do wedding planning but there are some rad forums out there if you just do a google search. one called something like indiebride.com (double check that) is especially cool.
i'm getting married at a "destination wedding" this nye, and we are going through a travel agent. its just easier, especially since we are bringing a fair bit of people and i honestly don't want to have to stress about things. we're going to mexico, but we considered other places too. i think you're going to have to rethink italy though, your marriage certificate from there won't be recognized here (if you can even GET married there). same goes for the dominican republic. i mean they'll marry you but you'll have to go to the courthouse and get a civil wedding certificate or whatever it is anyways.
prices are about $2000-$4500/person for one week, and just a bit more for two weeks, depending on where you go. make sure the resort is kid friendly, some are adult only. some also let kids stay free. wedding fees are about a grand, in US dollars though, and have to be arranged with the resort.
go to a travel agency and get a ton of magazines. each resort will be described with prices listed and all the details right there. the internet is a stupid place to look because everything is spam, or a scam, mostly. and start talking to travel agents soon, because they don't have many departure dates and such (its all direct flights to the airport nearest the resort if you go through a travel agency) and you don't want to miss out.
but like i said, girlmom really isn't the best place to discuss this. i know its hard since this is a great place to go to talk about things and get advice, but think about who you're talking to. lj is one place where you can find communities devoted to wedding planning, or there are those other forums i mentioned already.
From what I have read you can have a civil ceremony without a hitch in Italy. The Lady I spoke with said that Catholic ceremonies are harder but it can still be done as long as you swear in at the Canadian Embassy. I think I'd rather do the whole resort thing anyways. I'm going to have someone else plan everything because I don't want to be stressed at all.
Where are you going to in Mexico?
Sorry if this isn't the place. I'm more interested in info from other people who have been to resort areas that they really enjoyed.
we haven't decided exactly where we're going. they don't "release" the prices to canadian travellers until spring, so we're just now finding out how much everything is.
by the way, i noticed what you wrote in that thread about getting called out. why would you say you got called out for posting this? all i did was give you some better places to look, rather than asking a bunch of moms who are largely single, largely living in poverty, largely doing anything but planning a vacation that will cost the family thousands and thousands of dollars. i am very interested in why you'd automatically assume that you were called out. i felt your response was very belittling in the other thread, and thats after i did my best to help you. what is up with that??
I just wanted to explain a bit why girlmom is probably not the best place to plan a wedding or a ceremony in Tuscany.
Um... december in Tuscany? Like yeah, we all spend our winters in Tuscany. Then we like to summer in France. of course that's only when we're not fighting to get Medicaid to cover our kid's dental needs. Or when we're trying to find daycare so we can graduate from high school. When we have money to spend on ourselves we like to splurge and get Domino's delivered cause we're just too tired to cook.
And then well maybe some of us would like to get married to our bd, but we're too young, gay, or simply can't find the jerk.
Sorry for being snarky. I'm just saying girlmom is for young marginalized mothers. the problem you're having is simply out of the realm of possibility for most of us.
and word to seyva.
I don't think anything said here was "called out"ish. I think seyva and kaya were both pretty right on...
And yeah, totally out of the realm of possibility for most of us. I seriously doubt most poor young moms could give you advice on resorts.
Kaya, Thanks for the advice.
I appreciate it.
And I'm sorry for offending anyone else.
With that said, this was an honest enough mistake.
I wanted some advice from young moms on resorts they had even visited as kids with their parents, advice from young moms who are married.... how they incorporated their children? What they wore? Etc.
But this is not the place.
And for that I'm sorry.