People get me so mad :evil: ...The other day I was talking to my friend and I asked him , how come you didn't pick up the phone? and he's like " I was tired , you know I actually work unlike some people I know who sit around all day long being lazy"...... like wtf !?!?!? I have a 6 month old baby who I'm with all day and I'm trying to finish school and he gives me that shit!!! I'm guessing that he thinks having a baby is sitting around all day and that just because I don't have a job right now I'm being lazy ??....
Sometimes I think I don't get anough credit for what I'm doing...Like for example , my other friend asks me why I haven't called her the whole day and I explain to her that Joshua was cranky and the little time he was sleeping I was laying down because I was tired...and she's all like " tired from what ? " Uhhh...let's see from spending the whole day with a cranky teething baby...geesh they act like it's a walk in the park or something...My hubby does it too sometimes......everytime I begin to tell him how tired I am and How I just want to lay down...he starts talking about how his job is more tiring....hmmm...try being a SAHM , see how tired you'll be...
Don't you mamas ever feel that way ??? Like friends who don't have kids think you have it easy because you don't have a job...? it gets me mad everytime I hear " well at least you don't have to go to work all day"
I wish theyd knew how tough it really is.......
they don't understand : (
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Mon, 2006-04-17 00:21
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they don't understand : (
These people who say these things, do any of them actually have kids? My guess is no.
As for your hubby, I suggest you go out for an entire day and leave the baby with him. Then we'll see how tired he is when you get home.
You just need to stand your ground. You need to tell them that until they do what you do during the day they can keep their mouths shut. If anybody said anything like that to me they would get an earful. That's just outragous!
Stand up for yourself girl! Being a mom is a full time job with no financial payoff. Although it is not as physically demanding as someone who does manual labour all day, it is emotionally strenuous. You don't get set lunch or coffee breaks. To add to that, you can still be recovering from the delivery for months and months afterward. And the Breastfeeding, OH the breastfeeding!!!!
Take care, your "friends" need a serious attitude check!
SAHM get no hwere near enough credit for what they actually do do. Only othe STAP know what its like. Ignore all these comments. I do. I get made to feel like crap cos I don't go out to work.
I claim benefits, and get looked down on for this. But I hold my head hugh and I am proud. Not because I claim them, but because I have asked and accepted help when needed. I have a 5 year old son, a 2 year old daughtr and a 5 month old son.
Child care would probably cost more than I could ever earn, so really, there is no point in me going to work. I also don't wan to miss out on the first years of my childrens lives.
yeah I guess the only way they would know what it's like is when they have kids of their own...I just wish they'd have a little more consideration. Just because I don't have a "job" they think I have it easy..bens-mum : wow girl your strong , 3 kids...
and jube: I wish my hubby would stay a whole day with the baby ! ! I bet he wouldn't be able to handle it! but it's not like he's going to admitt that...
SAHM'S : WE ROCK !!!!!!!! :D
I got a job outside of the house because being a SAHM was something I couldn't handle after one year. People really do take SAHP for granted!
Invite your "friends" to come spend a few days w/ you two...they'll be changing their attitudes real fast. Anytime i had anyone say something about SAHM's having it so easy i'd offer to let them come do it for a few days and see how easy it really is.
My husband never really compared his job to mine as a sahm, but there were times where it felt like he had an attitude of why i couldn't get more done around the house and he didn't understand how hard it is to go out to the store and such w/ two small children. I ended up getting a job away from the house for a few months (to save my sanity!) and he had the girls all evening and sometimes all day on the weekends by himself. He became so much more understanding. When i'd come home from work he'd usually sit and tell me about their day and apologize and praise me for being able to handle being a sahm. So like someone else said, leave your baby w/ hubby for a few evenings or a couple days while you go do stuff for you and see how well he handles things.
i get that all the time!!! when i was living with my bd and going to school full time and breastfeeding twins at the tender age of 15 anytime i needed a break or anytime i felt tired he gave me shit about him having to go to work and how he wished that he could stay at home all day with the kids as if it was easy! he never did shit for those kids!!
now that i am living back with my mom, she always gives me shit for the house not being perfectly spotlessly clean. i have 2 31/2 year olds, i am in school, when i am at home i dont have a second for myself when i am at school i dont have a second for myself. and she yells at me for leaving some dishes in the sink because its more important for me to clean than to sit down and eat dinner with my family. she is never home so she doesnt understand. and she always tells me that she is going to kick me out if i dont start doing more around the house because she is tired of supporting me when i am doing nothing all day.
GOSH it makes me SO angry.