i found this on myspace and it made me realize how bad i want a good relationship. it makes me so depressed that i dont have one. sometimes i feel like no one will ever love me.
Leave her cute text messages.
Trust her over everyone else.
Tell her she looks beautiful.
Look her in the eye when you talk to her.
Tell her stupid jokes to make her laugh.
Let her mess with your hair.
Buy her flowers for no real reason.
Just walk around with her.
Include her in everything you do.
When she crys do whatever to make her smile.
Forgive her for her mistakes.
Look at her like she's the only girl you see.
Tickle her even if she says stop.
When she starts swearing at you tell her you love her.
Let her fall asleep in your arms.
Get her mad, then kiss her.
Tease her and let her tease you back.
Call her when you say you'll call her.
Stay up with her all night when she's sick.
Watch her favorite movie.
Kiss her forehead.
Write her letters.
Let her wear your clothes.
Surprise visit her after you say you can't make it.
Call her just to say hi, even if its for five minutes.
When she's sad, hang out with her.
Let her know she is important.
Let her take all the photos of you she wants.
Kiss her in the rain.
AND WHEN YOU FALL IN LOVE WITH HER, TELL HER
And when you do tell her.. Love her like you never loved before.
Wow that is just totally beautiful!! and someone will find you and love you that exsact way!! dont look for it let it come to you. Dont be sad about it everything happens for a reason and your time to shine will come!!
While that is pretty cute, and it did kinda make me smile, it's important to remember that that's a list of "shoulds," not necessarily the way partners behave. In fact, I'd wager that it's pretty damn rare that folks live up to all that.
You are worthy of love and admiration and respect and attention. No matter what. We all are. We are all flawed, fucked up, confused, and beautiful and wonderful and deserving of love. But that's not to say that you need someone else's love. Because, mama, the best kind of love and praise you can get is your own. It's tailored to fit and there's no such thing as a break-up. I know it's not the same, but maybe you need to:
leave yourself cute text messages,
trust yourself over everyone else,
tell yourself you look beautiful,
buy yourself flowers for no reason,
go for a walk,
forgive yourself,
and so on...
Thats cute, but I saw one on myspace that was titled "everything that a girl wants" or something and I think that it is really damaging to let girls think that if she gets a man everything will be ok, or that she should think that. I don't have a daughter, but if I did I wouldn't want her to think that her point in life was to become a girlfriend or a housewife. If thats what ends up happening, so be it but I would want her to think that she should want to have opportunities, and have a chance to do anything she might ever want to do. Not just get a cute text message. I know thats not what you meant from posting this, and I hope that you don't take this to be offensive because thats not what I mean at all. Its just the vibe I got when I saw this bulliten on myspace.
Also Lauren, I feel like that sometimes too. And its like, when I stop thinking about it then someone comes along when I am not out there looking for love, kinda weird. There are people out there who will love you, and if not you always have girlmom :D
My DH doesn't do most of those things, but he's still a wonderful person. So, I started buying flowers for myself.