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CarolinesMom
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Sleeping in Mommys bed

Caroline used to have no problem going to sleep in her crib, but all of a sudden and won't go to bed unless she is in my bed and I am laying next to her! I always move her as soon as she falls asleep but most of the time she will wake up sometime during the night and not want to go back to bed after she eats but when I put her in my bed she goes right back to sleep. I dont' mind but I don't want her to get in the habit of doing that all the time, especially since I am moving out in october after I get married. Any tips on what I can so? I hate to make her cry it out, especially when i don't mind her doing it right now. Are there any other ways I can help her fall asleep by herself withough listening to her scream forever?
~Melanie

PS: When we were at my moms, she was so worn out and tired and went to bed later than normal, so I can just lay her down with a pillow next to her and she would go right to sleep, but now that we are home it doesn't seem to work!

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Why not let her sleep with you untill you move out and then either choose to let her stay in your bed or move her to her own bed?
How old is she?
I co-sleep with my 3.5 year old and have since she was born, it's just so much easier for us and I always felt safer having her right next to me.

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She is 7 months, going on 8. It is more convenient sometimes to just let me sleep with her and I deff enjoy it. There must be some sort of need if she al of a sudden wants to sleep with me. I will just keep doing what I am doing and just see how it goes. I just don't want her to do it forever. My 4 yr old brother HAS to sleep with my mom and step dad and I just don't want that to happen to me. I do worry about her falling off or sufficating though. I have a queen size bed and right now Caroline doesn't move when she sleeps but she can crawl already. And I just partially cover her with the same covers I use. It just worries me sometimes.

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If you don't want her to sleep with you once you move out and get married then you might not want to get her used to sleeping with you now. My grandparents let Brayden sleep with them when he was little and once I moved out of their house and me and my husband got our own place he was used to it. He was the same age as your baby when we moved and he will be 2 in August. He still sleeps with us. No matter what we have tried he still sleeps in our bed. Not that I mind so much, but some nights it is hard. He moves around alot. He will crawl over me at night, kick me, steal my pillow. Plus when me and my husband want some just mommy and daddy time we have to do it in the living room. And something just hurt on the carpet. I love him to death, but I would like to have my bed back.

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Okay this is gonna sound bad. When my husband and I first moved in together, he had a two year old from another realationship. And even though I love Brandon, I couldn't have him sleeping in my bed. So, we bought him a big bed with a cushioned bedrail, and we laid down with him until he fell asleep, and then we went to bed. If he woke up in the middle of the night, we did the same thing. Maybe a co-sleeper, or moving her crib close enough to your bed so she can still feel like shes next to you. You can even leave the rail in the down position, if she won't stand up and fall.

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if you let her...

If you just let her, she will grow out of it, usually on her own.
My son still chooses to sleep with me sometimes, and i have no problems, hes almost 4. I let him sleep in my bed from day one, its just so much easier for breastfeeding and comfort. Alot of children will want to have that closeness when going through stress, and anything is stress to such a minikid. dont worry about her being too dependent. A child that is emotionally supported is more likely to be indipendent as they get older. as for a privacy issue for..ahem..special times, well, naps and sneaking off to another room help. but seriously. we co slept, and still often do. when my son was almost 18 months, we got him a big boy bed, and put it in his room. after a while of playing around and on it, he was used to it. I told him it was his bed often, and guess what. one night, after a bath, and in his pjs, he comes in the room, tells us good night, and goes to his bad, lays down, and covers up. rarely wants to sleep with me now. I'm usually on the couch, and hes on the bed.