Well my daughter is 8 months I love her to death but sometimes get really depressed! I start to think of how young Iam and how I havent done much with my life! And I think about what I would be doing if I never had her or got pregnant!! :cry: Does this make me a bad mother? I love her so very much but once in awhile I feel this way. I feel so wrong for this any one know what I mean or am I alone?
I think mothers of all ages go thru it. You shouldn't worry about what you haven't done with your life yet - think of what you have done. If you were thirty and hadn't done anything I could understand but your young and you already have a family. thats a huge accomplishment. I think we all miss what we were doing before our kids or what we could be doing but I think even older mom's think that way too. Can your husband or a friend watch the baby one night a week or month so you can go out??? I know I feel better after a night out with the girls (sans kidlet) It could be PPD (I don't know how long after baby that will go for tho another mama should know) but I doubt it. I think its more or less you just looking back at everything. But hey do something about it then. Go back to school and do something with your life (I don't mean it like your sitting around on your ass doing nothing - being a mama is hard work) or get a job if you don't already have one. Do something that means something to you. good luck girly.
You sound like a normal young mama to me.
Sometimes I think about what I could be doing, if I hadn't had a baby. I'd still be able to drop everything and leave town whenever I pleased. I'd still be able to go to concerts and festivals, or hang out in a mall or book store for hours.
But then I remind myself that raising children is temporary. Eventually, they get big enough to watch themselves. Then they learn to drive and move away, and you can go back to doing all the things you enjoy again.
When I'm 36, all my old classmates will probably be just starting to settle down and raise families, but I'll be done raising mine and off vacationing in Europe or Mexico.
Recently I took a mini vacation and visited my cousin in Los Angeles and I didn't take my kids with me. I felt so guilty after every night of going out and having fun because I felt like "oh my god I miss this...I like this...I wish I could do this a lot!" But my kids....and then I felt bad for wishing I could go out more and let go like that because I felt like I was resenting the fact that I have kids. But then I realized thats normal...all mtohers of all ages probably go through this...and at the end of it all I love my children. I love my life back home and I miss my kids when I'm away and I need them they are my life. So it sounds to me your just having normal thoughts and its not bad to have them at all.
I struggled like that after my first as well. I was just 17 and so scared I may have made the wrong decision. I used to go out for walks while my mom watched him and cry on the deck outside before I came back in.
It's normal in mother of every single age bracket, social backround or economic circumstance.
nothingmuch...I loved your response.
Like everyone else I too sometimes wish I could go out whenever I feel like it, or hit the road for a vacation. But now I realize, hey! motherhood isn't forever! My daughter will grow up and be able to watch herself, she'll move away and I'll still be young enough to enjoy life!
Being a young mom has another benefit! Yeah!
Im pretty sure all of us mothers (young and old alike) have gone through feelings like that. I feel like that all the time, but then I see all the stuff that I get to enjoy that other people dont my age. Most of my friends are out partying and stuff, and I love them to death, but I have to be focused and responsible now and it helps me in other aspects of my life such as school and work. I have something to work for and Im using my teen years to my advantage, not just to hang out and drink and chill ya know. I dont know if that made any sense haha Im tired!!
I often think about what my life would've been like without my kids. I wouldn't trade them for anything in the world, but sometimes I long for that childless person that I could become once in awhile just so I could see where I'd at in my life. I can't imagine it'd be much, honestly. I'm happy with how things worked out, but sometimes... I just wonder.
It'd be nice if we could be become childless for a short period of time to see what we would do with ourselves, and then immediately go back to our life with children when we're done making fools of ourselves. :wink:
I imagine we would all be like our childless friends, though, don't you think?