So I was at the grocery store with my best friend and some guy who was parked beside me was leaving as we were entering, he had his kid with him and was all like "I have a kid, you have a kid, I'm single, are you?" He then asked for my number but was 100% not my type (well I guess 99% as he did have a kid...)so I kindly let him down, but it led to a conversation with my friend about dating single dads and how we find dads sexy. I think my ideal next relationship would be with another single parent who was in school or had a careerlike job who understood my time constriants and the issues of parenting, what do you girls think, what are your experiences with single dads? (And does anyone know where this dream boy of mine is hiding?)
I dont have any experience except with this guy who took the same bus as me in the morning. Everyday he would be on with his little boy and they were both adorable lol Actually the father was extremely sexy! Our conversation never really went any further then work and his son though. Mostly I just stared :shock:
I've never dated a single dad, but I can't imagine having to deal with his child's mother. I've had a hard enough time with my husband's ex with no kids involved. I don't know how I would deal with exchanging kids, different rules, etc. To me, the responsibvility of balancing the rules and routines of my kids with that of someone else's would be very hard.
But of course, lots of people make it work.
I think a college GRADUATE would understand time constraints and goals as much as a student, if not more. My BD was a person with no goals, so I made a point to only date college graduates after we broke up.
All the single dads I know are dead beats, but I'd date a single mama.
I still really hate the stereotype. Why aren't single mamas applauded and considered oh so sexy? Cause they're doing their job. Just like single dads are. I wouldn't go out of my way to give extra props for a guy doing what they should be doing.
My dad was a single dad to us for about half our lives, and my mom a single mom to us for half our lives too. Yet her part, the hardest part I think because she had us when we were children whereas we lived with our father when we were already teenagers, largely goes unnoticed, yet so many people go on and on about how great my father was because he was a single dad.
I don't give dads more props. But I do find myself dating single dads quite a bit, not because I think them having their kids is "sexy" but because we're on the same level, our personalities mesh, and they understand that sometimes plans change at very short notice.
I've dated guys in all sorts of the daddy spectrum, too. One who loves his daughter and has joint custody, one who barely ever sees his child because he lives so far away (but always pays child support) and ONE guy who almost never sees his son, and doesn't pay anything, and when I found that out I never dated him again. I won't put up with that shit, I KNOW what that mama's going through.
But yeah. I don't rule them out, but I don't go directly for them either. Just kinda happens sometimes.
I think the whole "his kid's mom" thing whould scare me off a bit ^^ but I whould try ^^
ive had no probelmes dating men with children when dealing with the mother... as long as they respect me and i respect them everything usually works.. as a matter of fact my own daughters step mom and i get along better than me and her father becuase we have a mutual understanding and love for my child