Okay, so BD is in the military, currently in Iraq. we were friends for almost 3 years, however we have not gotten along since I got pregnant.
Our daughter is 5 months old. He met her last week...but is back in Iraq now and will be there until November. To make a long story short......I dont NEED the child support, but it would sure be helpful. All along, I guess I expected him to offer it to me...you know....to help his kid....but I guess he doesn't think like I do. So then I figured after he met her he would for sure want to help out....well...not so much now either. So....I kind of wrote him an email stating that I didnt like the way things went when he was home and that I am disappointed in him for not doing anything for our daughter. (he hasnt paid for anything for her...and only came and saw her maybe 3 times during the two weeks he got to be home for BECAUSE she was born.) He signed the paternity affidavit...and we had the dna test done....shes his.
So....if he doesnt respond to my email in a way like oh maybe I should pay child support and help out......should I go to his commanders and have it be court ordered (its a different process when a soldier is deployed) Honestly, I can get by (barely) without the child support...but it would be helpful...I would like to be able to save something just in case there is an emergency, you know? I feel like I deserve it...and maybe thats the wrong way to feel about it...but i am working my ass of for this kid...and I didnt even get a thank you. ugh. I feel like I am wayyyyyyy off in feeling this way and it totally sucks. I hate asking people for money...and I dont want to be rude....but I mean...this is his kid....he should pay....and hes not here to help me out at all physically...and I know thats not his fault....but isn't it right for him to have to pay??
I know this might all sound stupid...but I dont know what to do about all of this....