My soon to be mother in law insists on being with me and my fiance when we have the baby. I think its great that she is being so supportive and excited for us. However, she lives across country from us and I haven't even met her in person yet... we've talked on the phone a few times and the chats always went well. She keeps telling my fiance that she and her mother (my soon to be grandma in law?) are going to come out at the end of August no matter what.
The thing is I don't want the added pressure of meeting my MIL right when I'm about to pop... especially since I can become very irritable very very easily when I'm stressed and physically uncomfortable. I tried to polietly explain this to my fiance, by telling him that I'd prefer to meet his mom and family a little bit AFTER the baby is born, when I'm looking/feeling better so that I can be a proper hostess to them- they've never been to CA and want to look around here, but its over 100 degrees in the summer and that just makes me even more cranky with my pregnancy. And when I'm ready to have the baby or even right after I have the baby, I don't want to be driving them all around the valley. Not to mention they'd have to stay in a hotel because my fiance and I are living with my family in an already crowded house, and his family may not be able to get a rental car.
I understand that my fiance is close to his mom and grandma and would like to share this experience with them, especially since he hasn't visited with them in over a year. But they just witnessed the birth of his sister's baby only 2 weeks ago. I was hoping this was something that I could share with MY mom.
I really do want to meet my fiance's mom, grandma, and family, but under these particular circumstances I'd rather meet them later, when I know I'll be in my right mind and more comfortable.
Any suggestions on how to tell my fiance that I don't want his mom here right when we have the baby, without hurting his or her feelings???