i met this guy. but i dont think i am ready for a relationship.
i have only known him for about two weeks, and he already asked me to go out of town with him to a big family reunion.
one of the main problems too, is that he is ten years older than me.
i am 19 and he is almost 29. i dont see it as that much of a problem, but his roomates keep making fun of him when i come over because i am so much younger. and now that they have been making a bid deal about it, he has been mentioning it alot more and it kinda wierds me out. i dont know what he wants from me or what i want from him. but this age thing seems to be a pretty big barrier
does anyone think that 10 years is too old???
10 years is fine. what matters is that you're both comfortable with it, and that you're ready for a relationship.
i don't think that's bad at all. i don't look at age as an issue. bd is older then the guy i am dating now and he is soooo immature compared to him. it you're comfortable with it, that's fine. don't let age get to you and have fun :)
my bd is 8 years older than i am. i think its down to a maturity thing. if you dont have a problem with it but he isnt mature enough to handle ie. allow 'friends' to dictate his actions and feelings than he isnt mature enough to date you. maybe he can deal with it and is just feeling self concious but let time be your guide, if he continues its time to let him know its not ok.
i dont know, its also the fact that i dont know exactly what he wants from me. i guess if i get to know him better- time will tell.
i dont think that he is letting his friends dictate his actions. we were laughing at it and at them, he told me that it doesnt matter to him, but he keeps bringing it up.
I don't think 10 years is a big deal at all.. my older sister and her BD are 10 years apart.. they have been together since she was like 20 and he was 30.. I honestly dont even notice the age difference between them..
10 years isn't an impassable obstical. One of my good friends from work has spent nearly 30 years married to a man who's 10 years her senior and was once her high school english teacher. Just a few weeks ago she said she never really felt the age difference until now. she's 50 and he's 60 and starting to age a little faster.
could you sit down with him and talk about the age thing? his friends probably aren't teaseing him because they think anything of you good or bad. they probably just think it's funny that he's dating someone so close to an ange where it would be very uncool or even illegal to have a relationship. you know? you're almost unatainable fruit. what would happen if you just asked him what the deal was?
DH is 36 and I will be 27 on July 28th.
I find that I am quite a bit more mature most of the time, so there you go :)
I think that as you get older, age matters less. I wouldn't not date someone because of their age, the main thing is maturity. So if it doesn't bother you, which it seems like is the case, I say go for it!
I'm the kind of person that believes age is just a number...my ex is 12 years older than I am and we didn't really notice it when we were together until he mentioned stuff that came out when he was a senior and I was a little girl...that kind of weirded me out...OH and my mom is 7 years older than my dad...so if it's not a really big deal for u and him then may you have the happiest relationship and don't worry what other ppl think...ur only dating him not them...GOOD LUCK.
my BF is 10 years older then me.