Just curious as to what you all think. If you were interested in someone for a relationship or dating, would you have sex with them the first time you hung out? Do you think a person would be interested in dating you when they know they can get sex without the dating part? I am just wondering what having sex on the first "get-together" tells a person.
You know I've always wondered the same thing. Like would they think I'm "easy" or whatever. It's just so hard sometimes you know. I would probably hold off on the first date just so that u guys can talk and stuff cuz if he ends up being boring you don't want to end up being with the dude just for the sex. In my opinion anyway. :? :lol: :?
I definately don't think it's true that a guy won't want to date you if he can get the sex without it. Not in my experience anyway. Maybe there are some guys that are interested only in sex, but there are others that are more interested in a relationship. The ones that are only interested in sex you probably don't want to be with anyway.
I think some guys lose "respect" for a girl that will sleep with them on the first date, but that's some pretty outdated double standard. Because, of course, it's ok for them to sleep with you on the first date but not the other way around?
Pretty much all of my relationships have grown out of casual sex.
As have mine, with the sole exception of BD.
My mom always told me not to have sex before I got married because "A guy won't buy the cow, if he can get the milk for free." I always thought what the fuck, why the hell would I want to be with someone who thought of marrying (or in this case dating) as buying me for sex.
Sex is a totally normal, healthy part of life. There's nothing wrong with having sex or "being easy" as a PP called it. As long as you are being safe I don't care how many people you have sex with whether you're dating them or not.
There are people I'd have sex with and never date and there are people I'd sleep with on a first date, and people I'd date but wouldn't sleep with for a long time, you should have sex when you're both comfortable with it, not after a magic checklist of qualifications.
i agree 100% with adecaela!!
Slept with DH on our first meeting. It was awhile before we left the house for an actual date.
We've been together for ten years this fall, married for seven, have a four-year-old and another due this fall.
Ah, the wages of sin...
for me ( bare in mind this is me) i have to be with someone for awhile before sex ( as in 5 dates minimium) . sex is for me not him there for its only when i feel like doing it. if i met a man who i wanted to sleep with by all means id do it. its not like men think twice, however for me it just takes awhile before i really wanna hit the sack. i have met a few men who turned me on enough at first glance to sleep with immediately but for most when its only after we have a decent conversation that i feel like having sex. i think if they are only there for the sex than it will be over shortly , but if thats true its better to get them out of your life early rather than waste time on them and then the sex and then the break up. its true people attach the "easy" lable but thats more of a scorn for women who dump men, thus its only a put down rather than the way men feel about those women, because they were sure loving it when they were gladdly recieving sex thus, they didnt really care. so i say go for it.
What if you waited and then realized that they only dated you for however many days/weeks so that they could sleep with you? To me, that would be harder than sleeping with someone on the first date and then never seeing them again.
i think there is not right or wrong answer to this question, every individual has a different outlook on sex and relationships, first dates or marrige, does it really matter? what matters is what YOU want, you will know when the time is right, it will just happen..
try not to plan it too much, you dont wanna be disappointed in yourself if it doesnt go to plan, just wait until your ready, and know thats what you want..