I am no longer with my BD yet we are really close friends. He has been staying with me (sleeping on the couch) in my apartment recently to help me out with the kids while I'm trying to deal with something in my personal life. Tonight, a "friend" of his dropped by randomly. I'm not really sure the relationship between them but I know she isn't his girlfriend. He said he had no idea she was coming he had told her before that he would be staying at my place and if she wanted to hang out to call his cell. He said they just hang out thats all. But its not like he has to justify to me what they are anyway either ya know? Well I didn't like it that she just showed up at my place tonight. I don't like it that right now hes out in my livingroom watching a movie with her I don't like it that she babbled over my kids saying how cute they are and gave Tommie candy when I was in the other room when she was clearly in her pjs, had just had a bath, already brushed her teeth and was saying goodnight to BD. I think I'm jealous....but why? I mean BD and I are no longer together and if the opportunity to date again was there I wouldn't take it but here I am frustrated and angry in my bedroom knowing she is out there with him. I would feel stupid and irrational if I went out there and asked her to leave because on what grounds? Yes, this is my apartment, but BD is staying with me to help me out so why should that include that he cant have friends because afterall he did say they were only friends. I'm being nuts huh? How should I approach this because I feel like my feelings arent justified because I don't even know exactly why I feel them to even try to tell BD about them. I don't want him thinking I want him again and come off as being jealous. I don't want to tell him he can't have friends over either cause that seems irrational and mean. I don't have a problem when his guy friends have been over lately but something about this chick is rubbing me the wrong way. Its almost as if shes being bitchy to me. She kept giving me shitty looks, bumping into me on purpose while "passing by" to get into the kitchen when she could have gone the opposite way and when I went out there to pick up some of Niko's toys she made a point to move closer to BD and lay all over him. Thoughts and advice would be appreciated ladies!