i hate sex i have no intrest in it all all i would rather roll over and go to sleep SO wants to have sex all the time and i think it is tearing us apart that i dont want to. i dont know what to do anymore i dont want to lose him over this but i feel like i might.
Hey. I know exactly what you mean. I'm the same way. Sometimes, before we go to sleep, I go to the bathroom and try to wait until he falls asleep just b/cuz I don't want to do it. Most of the time, it doesn't work.
He's mad at me a lot b/cuz he says I never want to. I try to get in the mood, but I just don't want to have sex. We do anywayz.
I really don't know what to tell you, other than that I feel the same way.
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The morning sickness has really killed my sex drive, but in general, my partner and I have always had pretty different sex drives. Part of how we have dealt with this is choosing to be non-monogamous. Another way we have dealt with this is discussing what we want out of partner sex. A big part of it for us is the intimacy. I don't really want to have sex with him for the most part, but at the very least I can hold him while he jacks off. Exchanging massages might be another good substitute. Depending on how you define sex, manual sex, oral sex, or a good S/m scene might be more important than intercourse. I don't encourage being sexual with people if you don't want to, but I would try and focus on any ways of showing affection or possibly being sexual that you *do* want to engage in, and offering them freely.
ive never really had this problem, with me or with my partner, but i do find times when i really dont want to have sex, so like boigrrrlwonder said, try different things.. like the massages and stuff.. my guy is soooo ticklish i never have a problem haha..
I hear ya! Before I got pregnant, BD and I had a very active, awesome sex life and I was almost always in the mood. When I got pregnant my sex drive went away and never returned. I dont want to do it ever, so we rarely do it and it is a constant source of fighting in our relationship. I dont really have any advice. However, there have been one or two occations when I have forced myself to get in the mood. Like I pretended that I was all hot and horny when I really wasnt, but once everything got going I did get in the mood, know what I mean? Could you maybe try that and see if it works?
I hear ya! Before I got pregnant, BD and I had a very active, awesome sex life and I was almost always in the mood. When I got pregnant my sex drive went away and never returned. I dont want to do it ever, so we rarely do it and it is a constant source of fighting in our relationship. I dont really have any advice. However, there have been one or two occations when I have forced myself to get in the mood. Like I pretended that I was all hot and horny when I really wasnt, but once everything got going I did get in the mood, know what I mean? Could you maybe try that and see if it works?
I sometimes feel like the lack of sex drive was an underlying issue when bd and I split 9 months ago. I had just had Cae within the past year and was really not interested. I think it's sort of what caused him to go out all the time. being at home was "boring". Honestly, I am way better off without him. I feel like I have a heightened sex drive now, but I think that if I was dating someone I'd realize it was still pretty low.
I also did the pretend I'm interested until it actually becomes good, but it felt sort of creepy.
ugh..by the time we're having sex, I'm so tired, all I can do is moan a little and hold on tight. Seff's sex drive is rediculous! He ALWAYS want to go, but i like all the little non-sexual moments we have. I try telling him and he tries to control himself for 5 min, then gives up and we're back at sqare one. I'm starting to loose my mind! I'm glad I'm not the only one. Actually, I've rather have vaginal than give/recive oral. I don't like getting it and I *hate* giving it. problem is, big suprise here, he loved getting head. damn him! I tried to for him a few days ago, but got grossed out in a major way and had to stop...it lasted..oh...about 2 min. he was so dissapointed, but it was just too gross to suck it up (no pun intended) and finish, so vaginal it is! I feel bad, but it just tastes so bad to me (not just the end, pre-cum totally grosses me out now, too) the worst is that I used to be able to swallow without a problem. ugh....
sorry, this kinda turned out to be really long....but the short version is that I totally understand. It's just so hard to keep up with their drives sometimes... :x
More totally unsolicited advice, but there are ways that males can make their cum and pre-cum taste better. The easiest way is probably pineapple juice. Also, you can try using condoms during oral sex, though it will take much longer for him to get off that way.
But, for what it's worth, I'm sort of with you on the not particularly liking oral sex.
If u use condoms during oral sex make sure theyre flavored and not regular lubed or whatever...I'm pretty sure that stuff cant be good for u and it tastes SO gross lol...
I stopped having sex too..before i got prego actually...which is kinda amazing that i got pregnant in the first place!..lol...