well ive been really upset for the past few days and getting depressed..
i dont know where to live, with BD and his fam, or my fam. for the past few months ive been back and forth. but now ppl are telling me i need to decide where i want to live now. im only 17 and still attached to my family, my friends, and everything at home. i feel really uncomfortable whenever i go to BDs house with his fam because i dont know them at all and they dont speak english at all. and recently without telling me his mom took baby for a DNA testing.. which makes it seem like she doesnt trust/like me. and when BD goes to work i feel really akward and i have nothing to do besides sit in a room all day with baby. i know its not healthy at all and i want to be able to do things the way i want. BD is starting to get more aggressive everyday and its scaring me. im scared one day hes going to go across the world with my son and ill never see him again. im at his house atm and he wont let me go back to my family because he thinks they are mean and they wouldnt treat our son right. i have no idea what to do now. i want the best for my baby. if anyone can help or have advice that would be great. Thanks for your time.
NEED ADVICE where to live?
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Thu, 2006-07-27 15:48
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NEED ADVICE where to live?
Live with your family. you said yourself that you feel uncomfortable there, and he sounds like a jerk. He can still see your son if you live with your family and you will feel safer.
I don't see any pros to living with BD's parents, only cons. From what you said, staying with your family seems like the logical and best choice for you and baby. You didn't mention a single good thing about living with BD's family. It seems like it would be a completely negative, isolating, and depressing situation. Not to mention that BD is starting to act aggressive and scare you.
How horrible of BD's mother to have your sons DNA tested with your permission. I don't know how DNA testing procedures work, but I've always assumed that the mothers permission would be required unless you didn't have custody for whatever reason.
LISTEN TO YOUR GUT! you gut wrote that last post. an what i hear is.... your family isn't taking your baby without your permission for DNA testing, aren't controlling your life, or threatening you... what do you hear?
I agree with the pp. If you don't feel right at his house and don't trust his family, don't stay there.