parents and SEX!

My parents are actually pretty cool with my fiance sleeping over, but thats my fiance. I think honestly if i started dating another guy they would NOT in anyway be cool with it. Andrews been around for almost 3 years, so they are used to him and he "spends the night" every other week as a transition to move in when the baby is born. They know we have sex, and had sex when he stayed, even before I got pregnant.

Im not really sure how i will react if my son or daughter wants to have sex. Probably the way my mom did, have a serious talk with them, and if they feel they are ready to have sex, I will support him/her. That being said, I havnt become a mother yet.

I have a pretty good relationship with my mom, but I don't talk about my sex life with her and I don't bring guys over to have sex when she is home. I don't know, maybe if it was just her it would be different but my dad is ultra conservative and as far as he is concerned I have only had sex once to get pregnant with Eric. And if I brought a guy home to sleep over, he would flip. So no.

When Eric is older and starts having sex I hope he will feel comfortable talking with me. I would be more than happy to help him and his partner get protection and talk about issues with me. I hope he waits until he is ready but I will definitely support him.

i hope that when the time comes riley and i will have a very open relationship concerning sex et al.. but if i decide im not comfortable with her having sex in my home, i would hope that she is respectful of that

well i have had guys come over and have sex like in the middle of the night, when my parents didn't know. i know my parents r way not ok with me having sex, and i honestly think that when i got pregantn they were completely shocked, because they didn't think i was having sex. obviously they have to know that when i go to a hotel to visit my boyfriend out of town we r probably going to have sex, but i have never asked to have a guy spend the night until a couple weeks ago, my boyfriend suprised me on his way home from training (he was gone for 2 weeks) and he had been up since 4:30am that morning so i asked if he could stay in the guest room and they said ok, and then i even told them that he stayed with me for a couple nights while they were out of town, and all they really say is "we have already been through this once, and u don't want to do it again" (meaning a pregnancy) soo i don't know how they really feel, but i think they have chilled out a lil because they know i can deal with whatever happens.

i don't live with my parents ... but i don't care if they find out if my bf stays the night & has sex with me or whatever. they should know by now ... i'm almost 24.

as lyric gets older ... i just want her to be honest with me. as long as she can come up to me & tell me she needs to get on birth control ... and is safe. that is what i care about. i know she will have sex sometime, i just want her to be honest & safe about it ... and know she can talk to me when she has questions about it.

ok.. im older now, and not living at home so tell me to shut the fuck up if needed... but if your living in your parents house, should you not live by thier rules??

I was in a long distance relationship and he came to visit, and was supposed to be sleeping downstairs separate from me. The next morning when I came upstairs from where he was sleeping (oops fell asleep instead of sneaking back upstairs), my mom got all quiet and detached, went for a walk, and didn't talk to me until the next day, and then she was fine. I think it was more of a 'oh my gosh she's growing up' type of shock than actually being angry that I was having sex. She also told me I better make a doctors appt and get on the pill in addition to the condoms we were already using. My dad has never said anything about the entire issue and just ignores it. That being said, I think both of their reactions would be completely different if it were a bunch of different guys as opposed to a long term relationship.

i dont ever have friends over here. if alexa wakes up in the middle i put her paci back in her mouth or we stop and i comfort her if need be.

maybe you can have people over after she's sleeping and just tell them they can't stay the night?

eh it doesnt work, my dad is just wierd about ANYONE over, even if it is a female friend during the day. so i just go to other peoples houses and we have lots of sleepovers at friends houses.

my fiance and i live with my family, but we didn't move in until after i told them i was pregnant. my mom knew we had sex before i got pregnant and wasn't comfortable with it- she was a teen mom herself, so always discouraged us (her daughters) from being sexually active and even refused to get us birth control when we wanted it for abnormal periods. i think my dad assumes i didn't have sex until i moved away for college.
but when i was younger, and its still the rule for my lil sisters, if we have guys over just to hang out- they're never allowed to stay the night- i'd have to keep my bedroom door open all the way or be in the den or family room which are open to anyone.
my fiance and i have sex here, but we always try to be really quiet- which sucks- and only do it at night when everyone is asleep or for quickies in the day when my parents are out. we still try to respect their rules of the house, and keep the bedroom door unlocked while we're just hanging out and don't ever let on to my lil sisters that we're still pretty hot for eachother.

i hope my kids will be honest with me. i was never really close to my parents when i was younger and while puberty and all those lovely sex hormones start kicking in, but i'd like to have close relationship with my kids, so they can feel like they could tell/ask me things, and i'd definately get my daughters birth control if they asked- whether they were active or not- just to be on the safe side, i think i'd encourage protected sex more than just simply frowning on having sex period.

its your moms house, so why not just live by her rules.. im sure you would expect the same if it was your home

well, I hope my children can talk to either Seff or myself abot anything, but I think alot of people hope for that ^^ My parents do all they can to keep us from having sex (a *major* failure, btw) and I can't talk about it with them (or anything else, for that matter) I know they know that we do it, they know we know they know but we won't acknolage that we all know the other prty knows they know(sounds like a Friends episode, doesn't it?) wow--that was way confusing^^ hope I didn't break anyone's brain with that one hahaha

so you all dont think its wrong to have sex in your parents house even when they dont want you to?

i think it's wrong when you are living in their house and they let it known that they don't want you doing that. no matter how much your hormones are over-whelming you, i still thinks it's important to respect your parent's wishes especially since its THEIR HOUSE. wouldn't you want your children to respect you, your home, and your rules???

.. I'd have to agree with erinn here. It IS your mother's house, and you should respect her wishes. It sucks, yes, but that's just basic respect. It doesn't sound like she's being unreasonable in asking you not to have sex in her home.

i agree with you other girls that respecting your parents rules while living in their house should come first. i skipped out on this part of the question at first, and after thinking it over, even if i knew my kids were active, i'd probably prefer for them to not have people randomly sleeping over.
before i moved back home with my fiance i never had sex in my parents house. since my fiance lives with me and my family, my parents know we share a room and a bed, and my mom has talked to me about how we're not held to all the rules anymore and as tenants (we do pay rent for living with them) to be "polite" and not do anything that my little sisters could hear/see that would give them the idea that just because we're here now means they don't have to still follow the rules... this goes beyond sex, like we're not held to curfews, certain chores, and other things that are expected of my sisters since they're in high school and jr. high, and that i had to follow before too.

yes I agree that you should follow your parents rules of the house. However if they had a rule that was that I couldn't have sex period I think that would be a little extreme. but they don't allow me to have guys sleep the night (well I actually don't know about that now because i haven't asked in over 2 years) but i certainly respect that and I agree erinn its not cool to go against the person who owns the house.

To me, it feels situation dependent. Are you a legal adult? Are you paying rent? Helping with bills/housework? If you are, I really don't feel your parents have any more right over what you do with the space you pay for than a roommate would have. (and I say legal adult because typically you have no other viable living options until you reach that age)

Right now I live in an apartment with my sister above my mom's apartment. When she has someone over, I generally stay at mom's. When I have someone over....wait, scratch that. I've only had that happen one time, and my sister was out of town that weekend. Anyway, my mom doesn't really care.

SD stayed over a couple times when I was younger. We weren't allowed to share a bed until I came up pregnant, and at that point the damage was done, so to speak.

My parents were incredibly sexually active. I walked in on the so many times. Not just in their room, but in the living room, kitchen, etc. They didn't want me to have sex in their house, but what if I was uncomfortable with them having sex all over the place???

To me, it comes down to general respect. We all have to live together. If they don't want me having sex in the house, then they should consider their own actions too. "Ownership" of a house doesn't fly for me. They might own the hosue but they don't own me. They should respect the choices I make, as I respect theirs.

Thats a good point.

I think it is unreasonable for parents to have rules regarding their daughters or son's body, like a rule against having sex period. In my situation however, where my parents are letting me live at their place for free, i feel that it would be rude of me to disregard their rules and have people spend the night. That and it would be slightly uncomfortable for everyone involved in my situation. However if I was renting the basement or something it would be different. But you are right mamamayhem it is pretty situational.

I do. It's their household and their right to make rules about what's allowable while in it. I would expect it in my house and I would respect it in my parents' house.

I don't know think I'll be comfortable with my kids having sex in my home.. I definatly wouldn't want them being loud with it, or make it so I knew it was happening.... Allthough I do want my children to be open with me, Im not gonna say "No SEX!', Id want them to be able to come talk to be about birth control and condoms etc.. I'd just hope my children are respectful of my thoughts and feelings, and it doesn't have to come to a point where I'd have to ask them to not have sex in my home.

I think that if you are living in someone else's home you should be respectful of any rule.. "Take your shoes off", "Turn off lights".. Etc. If you aren't paying rent you are a guest in the home and should be respectful of the owners IMO.

That's what I mean. As long as you aren't putting in on the place you're living, you're at the whim of the people who own it and you have to respect whatever rules they have, even if you don't like them, because that's their right as the owner of the home. However, once you start putting in, paying for things, you should have as much right as they do as to rules and what goes on.

I have sex in my parents house. It's their house but this is my room. My parents would never ever say not to. When I was younger (like 14) they made me keep the door open to my room but now of course not. I think at 18 and being with the guy for 4 yrs almost that would be ridiculous. She has let him stay the night in another room millions of times and he stayed in my bed after i had surgery and he gave me showers cause I couldn't do it myself. My parents would NOT let a random guy stay overnight in my bed and I am not sure if they'll let Justin stay overnight in my bed but I can stay at his place. I don't think parents can say no sex. I just think they should say be respectful.

I live with my grandfather. BD and I share a bed. We havnt had the no sex discussion, but I really dont think he cares. He must know that we are doing it. Aslong as we dont shake the floors and scare the neighbours..

But I dont know. Its very easy for me to sit here and say its wrong if the parents dont want me to do it....but im lucky enoguh not to be in that situation. I know I would have sex like crazy with BD when my parents were out. And they probably wouldnt like that. I dont know, i realize its going agaisnt wishes and everything, but sometimes a girl gets stuck, right?