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Tue, 08/15/2006 - 1:04pm

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ExpectingSkittle

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so my fiance is *slightly* jealous that i have sites like girl-mom and hipmama to go to and check out alternative parenting styles and talk about becoming a young mom with other girls my age.
we've looked up young dad websites, but always get really corny sites that are usually just advertising for some book.
i was wondering if anyone here knew of a good site for guys to go to for parenting or something similar to this board?

it seems like us girls get all the attention for being young parents, and i think thats fair since most of the time we're the ones being looked at funny, judged, and holding on to the kid all the time. but i think for the guys that are sincere about helping out there should be something for them too. so any suggestions are welcome.

thanks in advance!

Tue, 08/15/2006 - 2:20pm

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Britt

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I would love for bd to have a place to go to talk to other guys about parenting. I feel like sometimes he just needs support from friends as much as I do. But I honestly don't think that there will ever be a dad site as well put together and as serious, supportive, and educational as girlmom. Otherwise it would have to be put together by girls and then we'd pretty much be invading their shit talking space haha. :D I don't know, sometimes I think it's a good idea, and sometimes I think it will just be a magnet for so-called "dads" who have a kid floating around in the world somewhere that they don't take care of but just want to complain about how[i] hard [/i]life is with a "mean" babymama. :roll: I think if they did have a site though, and they had the same educational info and resources on all the parenting issuses we have here that would be pretty rad.

Tue, 08/15/2006 - 2:58pm

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mamamayhem

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From what I understand, there used to be one, but it didn't get much activity. I guess guys like yours are just a rarity! I know my SD would probably rather talk about a million things other than childrearing. But then, he doesn't know anything about it so.... Maybe you should talk to your bd about starting one up himself.

Tue, 08/15/2006 - 3:59pm

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Britt

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haha I just asked bd if he would go to a site like girlmom if there was one and he said no! I guess I was wrong. I was like "you don't want to be able to discuss parenting with other guys who'd relate?" "no..." "really? even if it was not all political pro-choice...just like...a place to talk about your life as a dad?" :shock: "..no..." psh. whatever.

Tue, 08/15/2006 - 6:58pm

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glasses

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i think that jeanie_j's finance once was on message boards for dads, but then it turned out that someonf the posters were women responding really badly to the things the mend were discussing, so it was kind of aganist the point. I don't know what the boards were...

Tue, 08/15/2006 - 7:38pm

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desertmom

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maybe your bd could start a site of his own for other dads! that would be cool.

Tue, 08/15/2006 - 8:32pm

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jeanie_j

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Haha yeah, there was some sight that was supposed to be for dads but it sucked. And no one had posted since 2004. I totally wish there was a "Boy-Dad". My fiance gets sooooo jeleous about girl-mom, he like hates it and makes fun of it but I know he only does it because he wants a boy-dad sight.

Tue, 08/15/2006 - 9:31pm

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ExpectingSkittle

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my fiance has teased me about pretending he's a girl so he can get on here, but i know he won't. honestly, i appreciate his enthusiasm for our baby and wanting to be able to talk to other young dads, but i really don't think that guys would handle a site as well as this one is run... what britt said about guys using to complain about having to pay child support and stuff doesn't seem very productive... i mean, for women, it seems like more of a concern sense we're usually the primary care takers of children. not too mention girls have to physically change while pregnant, which brings about topics that men really don't have to worry about- i mean, i guess they do worry about our well being, but not having it first hand makes it waay different for them. my guy is nerdy enough to make up his own site, but like a "typical" guy, he's too lazy to... sigh. in our area there doesn't seem to be very many young parents, but i guess if we keep poking around he can find somewhere online too.

Wed, 08/16/2006 - 9:19am

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glasses

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has anyone ever had and guys ask them to post a question that [i]they[/i] had on hear, to the ladies have to what we all say? I think I recall BD asking me to do that once, but i don't think i did....

Wed, 08/16/2006 - 11:32am

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[quote="Britt"]haha I just asked bd if he would go to a site like girlmom if there was one and he said no! I guess I was wrong. I was like "you don't want to be able to discuss parenting with other guys who'd relate?" "no..." "really? even if it was not all political pro-choice...just like...a place to talk about your life as a dad?" :shock: "..no..." psh. whatever.[/quote] Yeah, if I asked my bf that, he would think I was crazy. lol

Wed, 08/16/2006 - 11:56am

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i dont knw why, but for some reason, it [i]seems[/i] that men are overly confident ( i don't mean all) about child rearing... but like, when it comes down to it, are always asking for help. BD was lgrew up with his family taking care of fosters babies mostly new borns. We were living together when i had my baby and he was REALLY CONFIDENT, to the point where he didnt want to talk about it, and didnt want to ask our midwife ( who came and did a house visit to answer our questions) anything at all, and was pissed that i thought he had questions. where as i was FULL of questions. I mean, i eventually got the hang of having a baby, but, I was still full of questions, but i never really asked him for help with stuff liek diaper changes and getting her dressed, or bathtime. BUt the over confident daddy, was always "i need your help, it's hard to do this by myself etc" when it came to stuff like that. And it just makes me think, you do need help and do have questions, why not just ask them? Boy-dad especially for teenage boys ( BD although 23 acts like a 17 year old boy who is very immature and not ready for a family)

Wed, 08/16/2006 - 12:56pm

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Hipmama used to have men posting there, but the forums have been gone for years :(

Casey- former teen mama to 4 rad kids and step-mama to 2 more

Thu, 08/17/2006 - 2:22pm

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all we could find where (crappy) articles and false "information" about how it's the woman's fault and therefore the woman's job---*grr* I hate those :x

-Sarah-Momma to 5yo Reese-
"If mothers ruled the world, there wouldnât be any god-damned wars in the first place.â -Sally Field

Thu, 08/17/2006 - 4:21pm

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ramonegirl

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i think it's cool idea for some dad's ... but not all, haha ... not mine! ;) i don't think he could offer much advice haha ... but my bf actually asked if there is a boy-dad out of curiosity

*Heather* mama to L 9/25/2001

Thu, 08/17/2006 - 8:52pm

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chatdelheure

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I just asked BD about it. He gave me the raised eyebrow. Oh well!!! At least theres a girl mom!!!

Mama to A (11/2006) and F (2/2009).

Fri, 08/18/2006 - 7:15am

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[quote="ramonegirl"]i think it's cool idea for some dad's ... but not all, haha ... not mine! ;) i don't think he could offer much advice haha ... [/quote] yeah my bd would probably think its stupid or he would use it to complain about me... and yeah he wouldn't have much advice to offer either lol. but I know of a friend who would probably like it.

Fri, 08/18/2006 - 1:13pm

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MamaCaboose

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Here are some websites listed in the "girlmom is for females only" thread in the announcement forums. Maybe you could suggest one of these to your bd? http://www.fiercefamily.com/main/ http://www.dadseyeview.com

Girlmom Mission Statement:
http://www.girlmom.com/node/3126
Various Stickies:
http://www.girlmom.com/node/19337