well i have a question to ask you ladies who had a babyshower thrown for you by your relatives. Well my mother and my boyfriends mother are throwing me a babyshower. the thing is that i dont really know or get along with my boyfriends family... ( Iam younger than him and have peircing and short funky hair and they are a strict potuguese family) Its supposed to be a suprise and im not supposed to know but my sister is a rat. lol but its bad enough that my parents are divorced and dont get along and neither do the people in my family( a whole lotta bullshit) but i also dont get along with his family. The only reason they are coming is too suport my boyfriend but he probably wont even be there (and if he is hes probably off with the guys) So im basically going to have to be the mediator between my parents and their familes and also dealing with the rude little remarks from my boyfriends family. the shtty thing is thati have a really good relashionship with my family and they all get aong with me they just dont get along with eachother and i dont even want this babyshower if im going to be breaking up fights all night. i guess what im wondering is what i should do.. should i call it off and hurt my familys feelings and make my boyfriends family think im even more of a bitch or just sit there and take it because its going to be at my apartment so i cant leave even if i want to ... any advice would be great.. sorry its so long im just extremely frustrated and dreading sept 23 so much.
well, since you are the pregnant one, or did you already have your baby? you have a very good excuse to end the party whenever you damnwell feel like it. Right? when everyonegets there, feel the vibe, if its good, let it be good. open your presents, say thank you. be the centre of attention, eat some cake, then suddenly get really tired, need to go for a nap, need to go havea shower to relax etc. some excuse, any will do. make the shower as short and sweet as you can, or let it go until some drama starts, then just get the hell out of there. those situations can be stressful, and its not that you are unappreciative, but if it is a surprise anyway, it doesnt mean that it can't surprise you on "you most exhausting day of you life" - see what i mean. you are pretty much in control it think.
You could be surprised and thankful and then gush about how happy you are that everyone could put their differences aside to support you in your pregnancy. Just make it all about you (which it should be) and make it clear that you expect there to be no tension or arguments. You could also find a way to work into the conversation (a little loudly, so everyone might overhear) how at your last doctors' appointment, you were told to avoid stressful situations.
Off topic...the B word isn't allowed on this site because it's anti-woman
I don't really enjoy much of bd's side of the family, his sisters can be ok at times but many of them are just annoying and some are very unsavory people... but since they are part of my son's family I do have to stomach them every once in a while... mainly birthdays and xmas. It sucks but I just slap on my fake smile for the day. I also use excuses like the baby is getting tired, when I was pregnant I was getting tired, I have to get home and do some homework, whatever works really.
As for family members not getting along, most adults realize that even though they don't like a certain family member, the day isn't about them. If someone does get into an argument or whatever, you or someone throwing the party can politely but firmly remind that individual that this is about you, not them and if they can't refrain from arguing they can leave. Ususally they will be embarrassed enough to shut up.
Good luck with the baby shower, I hope it goes by fast!
thanks ladies for the advice i guess i ll just take it as it comes it is "supposed" to be my day and i have been getting pretty tired lately... so hopefully it wil be quick and painless...im still not looking foward to it but hopefully it will go smoothly