For those who celebrate the x-mas, do you tell your kids about santa? Or do you tell them he's just pretend. And why? My kid wont understand this year, but I'm still thinking about it with the season soon approaching.
We are going to do the Santa thing...... I think children need make believe.... I'm going to be careful with that whole.... "IF YOU AREN"T GOOD, YOU GET A LUMP OF COAL.... thing though because that REALLY stressed me out when I was a kid.... He will just be a jolly man who is very generous, and brings gifts to children...
I'm conflicted. I don't even remember believing in Santa when I was a kid. I'm nervous that if I tell my kiddo there's no actual Santa (but still tell him about the spirit of christmas or whatever), he won't be old enough to understand not to tell other kids.
I tell my children the legend of the original Santa Claus and explaint he theory behind gift giving at Christmas. I tell them that the Santa we know now is just an extention of the spirit of giving and goodwill.
My oldest though is fully aware that Santa as we know him in our society was a marketing gimick put together by Coca-Cola company in the early 30's. We don't support the Coca- Cola company or its subsidarys in our home so he has a bit of distate for the red and white Santa.
As long as they know that Christmas is a time for kindness and goodwill to others, they can believe whatever they want about Santa.
we do the santa thing and my 5 year old still believes. I was really conflicted about this a few years ago because when I was younger, around 5/6 one of my friends told me santa wasnt real so I basically demanded that my mom tell me the truth, and once she did I was pissed off thaty she had lied to me. haha. I remember feeling so betrayed, heh, but my kid doesnt have the same personality as I did so I really dont think it will be as big of an issue for her.
I haven't done the santa thing and Lyric is 5. I just tell her some kids believe in Santa and some don't. She still has fun during the holidays. We don't do the easter bunny or tooth fairy.
I never beleived in any of that stuff when I was little, as well.
I'll probably do santa .. not this year tho. My friend dose santa at the mall so we get free pictures but I havent explained the story ..He will be 18 months at christmas
I do Santa and make it into a reality for my kids. I tell them about "him" and how the "elves" are watching. I think it's fun. Some people might find it deceiving, but my parents did it and I enjoyed it, even though it turned out to be a hoax. lol.
I don't know what I'll do for my kids. On one hand, the Santa thing was fun, but on the other hand, I was pretty upset when I found out there is no santa. :?
See, I was lucky when it came to the finding out part... My grandmother always insisted that I believe and I did... up until she died. I mean, I knew there wasn't one, but I put my faith into anyway because my grandmother was so special to me and I knew that even if there wasn't a Santa, there would always be one in spirit.
I'm not going to do the Santa thing. I know I was mad when I frst found out. I'm just going to explain to my son(when he is old enough he is only 1 year and 1 week old)that there is n Santa but some children believe in him and some don't. I don't want him to be dissappointed like I was.
I think I will do the Santa thing for a while, but I just won't do it the same way as other people do it. I'll just tell my daughter that Mommy will have a surprise for her if she's good on Christmas. That way she can have her fun without being disappointed about finding out the truth.
Well how do you explain to a kid that there's this guy santa that brings toys to kids, except he skips your house because your parents don't have money to buy you the crap the next door neighbor got... also it is really important to me to teach Cae to not support sweat shops (like Santa's workshop...) and not to buy more than you need or encourage the idea of the child's entitlement to presents.
Also I am not christian, and I actually will not appreciate when every one around Cae is telling their kids about Santa and he is forced to keep quiet about his beliefs.
You don't explain it, you register for Christmas charities. We always had welfare Christmases growing up, until we were like 10, and that made it all the more magical, because not only did we still believe in Santa but we also knew that some of the gifts came from people who cared an awful lot and wanted to make sure everyone had a Santa. Even after we knew Santa was fake, "Santa" lived on. I remember one Christmas when I was around 14-15, we were too old to get gifts from the charities, but were still broke poor, so we knew we weren't getting anything. That night someone left a garbage bag on the doorstep, rang the doorbell and ran away. That bag was full gifts for me and my siblings and a new suit for my dad. I don't think I would have appreciated it as much had I not been raised to think of the holidays as a magical time; we all cried thinking there was someone out there who was thinking about us.
I'm definitely doing Santa with T. I do the Easter Bunny too. Yeah, I felt a little deceived when I found out he wasn't real, I cried, but looking back at it now, all the nights of trying to force myself to stay away to hear reindeer, and setting out cookies, and getting all excited with my brother and sister, totally overrides it.
yeah, im definitely gonna do santa with aidan. i remember how much fun it was when i was a kid. for the few years i lived with my grandparents, they did stuff like lighting a red light in my back yard, far enough out that everything else would have just been black, and waving it around and making hoof-noises on the roof. hehe. n all the years i lived with my mom, i can remember not necessarily getting a LOT of presents, but my mom spent so much time and care onb making everything soooo beautiful, that it always seemed like the tree was glowing in the morning when we got up. she always made sure to mark about 1/2 of the presents from santa, though, n half from herself, which is what im going to do. and i hope to be half as good of a santa as her. she was always just so good at making the table scraps look like a feast... or turning it into a feast, out of nowhere...
I want to do the santa thing. I really am not sure how though :oops: My parents were so strict religion-wise that Christmas was all about Jesus, and Easter was the resurrection and stuff. I never was able to believe in make-believe and I always resented that. On Christmas morning my mom always set out one unwrapped gift marked "from Santa" but we knew it wasn't. I just want my daughter to have the magical idea for a couple of years. Is that so terrible? How far do you guys go though? Milk and cookies, and say "go to sleep, santa won't come till you're sleeping." Or do you like dress up in a santa suit and sneak around the living room when you know kiddo is watching? I think my daughter is still really too young to know this year (she'll be 14 mo.) but for the future I'd just like an idea of what all "helping your little ones believe" entails.
I would like to know how to break it to them that Santa is not real..i dont remember how i found out...i think as i got older i just stopped believing in him. But i have a cousin and when she was like 13 she still really believed Santa was going to come in his sleigh to her house. I think that might be a little old to still be believing, no? I do want my daughter to have all that fun of believing in Santa, i just dont know how and when i would tell her he isnt real...and i dont know how to approach even the fun of believing either. My mom would do the half and half gifts under the tree too...
we've always done the santa thing but this year, i decided it was time to tell meghan that santa doesn't exist.
she's a smart kid and she was asking if santa takes gifts to every single child in the world, "even poor starving kids? what about refugees? even people who don't celebrate christmas?"
so i explained the legend of saint nicholas and how his generosity and spirit of goodwill lives on at christmas time today. she wasn't too upset but now she wants to make up a few christmas shoeboxes and send them to our local homeless shelter so they can have a santa too.
Um, I'm not sure about this year, Ethan has been with me whenever I've bought any of his girfts, and he seems to know that they're all hiding in my roommates closet. Maybe I can tell him that Santa lives in our roomie's closet? LMAo! J/K
I'm going to have him take a picture with Santa, but I don't know about all of the other Santa stuff. I don't think he would believe me, since he's seen me buy the gifts.. LoL!
we don't do santa or the easter bunny or tooth fairy (although X is too young for that)...
i don't want to lie to X. BD and I decided when he was younger to go ahead and not explain it to X as a strange guy who leaves presents but tell the real story of santa and go from there.
I'm going to do the Santa thing with my son. I had so much fun with it when I was a kid. Although, I do remember being really mad at my mom for lying to me when I found out he wasnt real. But I figure, I forgive my mom now, so Jacob will forgive me later too.
I am going to do the Santa thing. My parents did with me, and it made the whole christmas idea more fun. And i wasnt mad at my parents when I found out, and i really dont know anyone who was that mad *we all actually played up on the Santa thing longer, so we could push for more presents*
Yeah, I don't recall ever being upset with my parents. I kind of figured it out by myself one year when I woke up with a stomach ache. I heard the TV and knew my dad was in the den, so I went down to tell him. As I came down into the living room, there were all the presents. We got a kitchen set that year. I forgot all about my stomach and started playing super quietly so my dad wouldn't hear me in the other room. LOL When I heard him getting up, I snuck back upstairs and nobody ever found out! hahaha
We dont really do the santa thing per say my grandmother sends lots of gifts and writes her name on them anyway. Jayden is to young right now to know any different but later we will just tell him santa and the easter bunny are just like charactors mickey mouse and so on. that they arent real they are there to be fun and play pretend.
I kinda find some big fat guy sneaking into my house through a chimney and eating my food to be a little scary lol
well i'll definitely do it with malachi...it was so exciting for me...i just loved christmas time...and not just for the presents but the whole season..the songs u could sing...the lights u would see at night... everything! i just love the holidays lol...
We put up the Christmas tree today and I put some presents under that were for grandma and grandpa and such. My daughter asks me..."Mommy, are you Santa Claus?"
I thought it was cute, but I told her no. She's only 3. I'd like her to believe in Santa for a few more years!
I tell my kids about Santa, but I keep forgetting that my son still belives, and if I'm not careful I'm gonna spill the beans. What we do is Santa brings one present. It's a special present usually. That way they still believe, but they don't expect as much. It's worked really well for me. They know that there are (wrapped) presents in their closet for them, and that they have to wait for Christmas for them. Santa also fills the stockings at our house. (hello dollar section at target) I usually get bells, and while I know my son is still awake, I walk heavily down the hallway with the bells, and fill his stocking. I usually hear him gasp and giggle thinking he has fooled santa into thinking he's sleeping.
I'm probably going to do the santa thing just because I had so much fun with it when I was little..
we do the santa thing as well
We are going to do the Santa thing...... I think children need make believe.... I'm going to be careful with that whole.... "IF YOU AREN"T GOOD, YOU GET A LUMP OF COAL.... thing though because that REALLY stressed me out when I was a kid.... He will just be a jolly man who is very generous, and brings gifts to children...
I'm conflicted. I don't even remember believing in Santa when I was a kid. I'm nervous that if I tell my kiddo there's no actual Santa (but still tell him about the spirit of christmas or whatever), he won't be old enough to understand not to tell other kids.
I tell my children the legend of the original Santa Claus and explaint he theory behind gift giving at Christmas. I tell them that the Santa we know now is just an extention of the spirit of giving and goodwill.
My oldest though is fully aware that Santa as we know him in our society was a marketing gimick put together by Coca-Cola company in the early 30's. We don't support the Coca- Cola company or its subsidarys in our home so he has a bit of distate for the red and white Santa.
As long as they know that Christmas is a time for kindness and goodwill to others, they can believe whatever they want about Santa.
we do the santa thing and my 5 year old still believes. I was really conflicted about this a few years ago because when I was younger, around 5/6 one of my friends told me santa wasnt real so I basically demanded that my mom tell me the truth, and once she did I was pissed off thaty she had lied to me. haha. I remember feeling so betrayed, heh, but my kid doesnt have the same personality as I did so I really dont think it will be as big of an issue for her.
I haven't done the santa thing and Lyric is 5. I just tell her some kids believe in Santa and some don't. She still has fun during the holidays. We don't do the easter bunny or tooth fairy.
I never beleived in any of that stuff when I was little, as well.
I'll probably do santa .. not this year tho. My friend dose santa at the mall so we get free pictures but I havent explained the story ..He will be 18 months at christmas
I do Santa and make it into a reality for my kids. I tell them about "him" and how the "elves" are watching. I think it's fun. Some people might find it deceiving, but my parents did it and I enjoyed it, even though it turned out to be a hoax. lol.
I don't know what I'll do for my kids. On one hand, the Santa thing was fun, but on the other hand, I was pretty upset when I found out there is no santa. :?
See, I was lucky when it came to the finding out part... My grandmother always insisted that I believe and I did... up until she died. I mean, I knew there wasn't one, but I put my faith into anyway because my grandmother was so special to me and I knew that even if there wasn't a Santa, there would always be one in spirit.
I'm not going to do the Santa thing. I know I was mad when I frst found out. I'm just going to explain to my son(when he is old enough he is only 1 year and 1 week old)that there is n Santa but some children believe in him and some don't. I don't want him to be dissappointed like I was.
I think I will do the Santa thing for a while, but I just won't do it the same way as other people do it. I'll just tell my daughter that Mommy will have a surprise for her if she's good on Christmas. That way she can have her fun without being disappointed about finding out the truth.
Well how do you explain to a kid that there's this guy santa that brings toys to kids, except he skips your house because your parents don't have money to buy you the crap the next door neighbor got... also it is really important to me to teach Cae to not support sweat shops (like Santa's workshop...) and not to buy more than you need or encourage the idea of the child's entitlement to presents.
Also I am not christian, and I actually will not appreciate when every one around Cae is telling their kids about Santa and he is forced to keep quiet about his beliefs.
You don't explain it, you register for Christmas charities. We always had welfare Christmases growing up, until we were like 10, and that made it all the more magical, because not only did we still believe in Santa but we also knew that some of the gifts came from people who cared an awful lot and wanted to make sure everyone had a Santa. Even after we knew Santa was fake, "Santa" lived on. I remember one Christmas when I was around 14-15, we were too old to get gifts from the charities, but were still broke poor, so we knew we weren't getting anything. That night someone left a garbage bag on the doorstep, rang the doorbell and ran away. That bag was full gifts for me and my siblings and a new suit for my dad. I don't think I would have appreciated it as much had I not been raised to think of the holidays as a magical time; we all cried thinking there was someone out there who was thinking about us.
I'm definitely doing Santa with T. I do the Easter Bunny too. Yeah, I felt a little deceived when I found out he wasn't real, I cried, but looking back at it now, all the nights of trying to force myself to stay away to hear reindeer, and setting out cookies, and getting all excited with my brother and sister, totally overrides it.
yeah, im definitely gonna do santa with aidan. i remember how much fun it was when i was a kid. for the few years i lived with my grandparents, they did stuff like lighting a red light in my back yard, far enough out that everything else would have just been black, and waving it around and making hoof-noises on the roof. hehe. n all the years i lived with my mom, i can remember not necessarily getting a LOT of presents, but my mom spent so much time and care onb making everything soooo beautiful, that it always seemed like the tree was glowing in the morning when we got up. she always made sure to mark about 1/2 of the presents from santa, though, n half from herself, which is what im going to do. and i hope to be half as good of a santa as her. she was always just so good at making the table scraps look like a feast... or turning it into a feast, out of nowhere...
I want to do the santa thing. I really am not sure how though :oops: My parents were so strict religion-wise that Christmas was all about Jesus, and Easter was the resurrection and stuff. I never was able to believe in make-believe and I always resented that. On Christmas morning my mom always set out one unwrapped gift marked "from Santa" but we knew it wasn't. I just want my daughter to have the magical idea for a couple of years. Is that so terrible? How far do you guys go though? Milk and cookies, and say "go to sleep, santa won't come till you're sleeping." Or do you like dress up in a santa suit and sneak around the living room when you know kiddo is watching? I think my daughter is still really too young to know this year (she'll be 14 mo.) but for the future I'd just like an idea of what all "helping your little ones believe" entails.
to be honest i have no idea to approach the Santa thing?
my mother used to put like 2 or 3 gifts under the tree from santa and then the rest say from mom and dad.
I would like to know how to break it to them that Santa is not real..i dont remember how i found out...i think as i got older i just stopped believing in him. But i have a cousin and when she was like 13 she still really believed Santa was going to come in his sleigh to her house. I think that might be a little old to still be believing, no? I do want my daughter to have all that fun of believing in Santa, i just dont know how and when i would tell her he isnt real...and i dont know how to approach even the fun of believing either. My mom would do the half and half gifts under the tree too...
we've always done the santa thing but this year, i decided it was time to tell meghan that santa doesn't exist.
she's a smart kid and she was asking if santa takes gifts to every single child in the world, "even poor starving kids? what about refugees? even people who don't celebrate christmas?"
so i explained the legend of saint nicholas and how his generosity and spirit of goodwill lives on at christmas time today. she wasn't too upset but now she wants to make up a few christmas shoeboxes and send them to our local homeless shelter so they can have a santa too.
Um, I'm not sure about this year, Ethan has been with me whenever I've bought any of his girfts, and he seems to know that they're all hiding in my roommates closet. Maybe I can tell him that Santa lives in our roomie's closet? LMAo! J/K
I'm going to have him take a picture with Santa, but I don't know about all of the other Santa stuff. I don't think he would believe me, since he's seen me buy the gifts.. LoL!
we don't do santa or the easter bunny or tooth fairy (although X is too young for that)...
i don't want to lie to X. BD and I decided when he was younger to go ahead and not explain it to X as a strange guy who leaves presents but tell the real story of santa and go from there.
I'm going to do the Santa thing with my son. I had so much fun with it when I was a kid. Although, I do remember being really mad at my mom for lying to me when I found out he wasnt real. But I figure, I forgive my mom now, so Jacob will forgive me later too.
I am going to do the Santa thing. My parents did with me, and it made the whole christmas idea more fun. And i wasnt mad at my parents when I found out, and i really dont know anyone who was that mad *we all actually played up on the Santa thing longer, so we could push for more presents*
Yeah, I don't recall ever being upset with my parents. I kind of figured it out by myself one year when I woke up with a stomach ache. I heard the TV and knew my dad was in the den, so I went down to tell him. As I came down into the living room, there were all the presents. We got a kitchen set that year. I forgot all about my stomach and started playing super quietly so my dad wouldn't hear me in the other room. LOL When I heard him getting up, I snuck back upstairs and nobody ever found out! hahaha
We dont really do the santa thing per say my grandmother sends lots of gifts and writes her name on them anyway. Jayden is to young right now to know any different but later we will just tell him santa and the easter bunny are just like charactors mickey mouse and so on. that they arent real they are there to be fun and play pretend.
I kinda find some big fat guy sneaking into my house through a chimney and eating my food to be a little scary lol
well i'll definitely do it with malachi...it was so exciting for me...i just loved christmas time...and not just for the presents but the whole season..the songs u could sing...the lights u would see at night... everything! i just love the holidays lol...
We put up the Christmas tree today and I put some presents under that were for grandma and grandpa and such. My daughter asks me..."Mommy, are you Santa Claus?"
I thought it was cute, but I told her no. She's only 3. I'd like her to believe in Santa for a few more years!
I tell my kids about Santa, but I keep forgetting that my son still belives, and if I'm not careful I'm gonna spill the beans. What we do is Santa brings one present. It's a special present usually. That way they still believe, but they don't expect as much. It's worked really well for me. They know that there are (wrapped) presents in their closet for them, and that they have to wait for Christmas for them. Santa also fills the stockings at our house. (hello dollar section at target) I usually get bells, and while I know my son is still awake, I walk heavily down the hallway with the bells, and fill his stocking. I usually hear him gasp and giggle thinking he has fooled santa into thinking he's sleeping.