okay so here's the story:
eighteen months ago i had a two-night stand with a guy from england (i'm an american citizen). the second time we slept together, i got pregnant.
the day i found out i was pregnant, he called me and asked me if i wanted to go somewhere with him, and i told him no. and that i was pregnant. and he acted like a total jackass and said things like, "well, that's nice but anyway, my friend wants to hook up with your roommate." yeah. real charmer. so i hung up on him and called me back and told me he was sorry and he was going to come over and we could talk about it. i said ok, gave him directions. he never showed up.
seventeen months go by. i don't hear from him, i can't find him, he goes back to england. i get back together with my high school sweetheart when i'm two months pregnant. i have the baby. i raise the baby with my high school sweetheart who is pretty much her father, and whose family has totally accepted the situation and the baby.
a few days ago, i get a myspace message from BD. and he acts like he was all surprised to get on myspace, find my page, and learn that i was pregnant and had a baby. he's LYING! he clearly knew because i called him so many times. i have his mother's phone number and address because i looked her up after i had the baby. i tell him he had better talk to me or i'm going to call his mom. i have to tell him this over fucking myspace because he won't talk to me any other way and i don't have his phone number.
so what does he do? he just doesn't log back onto myspace to check his mesages. he's just ignoring me and that fact that i had this baby. i don't know what to do. i'm so hurt that i just can't stop crying. i want him to take responsibility for his actions, especially since we're really broke and could totally use the child support. but since it's an international situation, i just feel stuck and terrible.
i don't really know what to do with myself. do i call his mother? and what do i say? she doesn't even know i exist!
please, i need some advice and encouragement.